The flexible (yet not so flexible) nanny

[Anonymous]

OP, if your current nanny doesn’t work out with reduced hours, another option to consider is live-in help. With needing 12 hrs a day of coverage (sometimes unpredictable hours), it might be easier to find a good live-in nanny. Then it might be easier to find someone who actually agrees to be flexible.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, if your current nanny doesn’t work out with reduced hours, another option to consider is live-in help. With needing 12 hrs a day of coverage (sometimes unpredictable hours), it might be easier to find a good live-in nanny. Then it might be easier to find someone who actually agrees to be flexible.

Op here and you’re right; I think we can consider this as well. Our garage has a room and bathroom attached to it. We currently use it as a guest room.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP, if your current nanny doesn’t work out with reduced hours, another option to consider is live-in help. With needing 12 hrs a day of coverage (sometimes unpredictable hours), it might be easier to find a good live-in nanny. Then it might be easier to find someone who actually agrees to be flexible.

Op here and you’re right; I think we can consider this as well. Our garage has a room and bathroom attached to it. We currently use it as a guest room.

A room and a bathroom? My, aren't you generous!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP, if your current nanny doesn’t work out with reduced hours, another option to consider is live-in help. With needing 12 hrs a day of coverage (sometimes unpredictable hours), it might be easier to find a good live-in nanny. Then it might be easier to find someone who actually agrees to be flexible.

Op here and you’re right; I think we can consider this as well. Our garage has a room and bathroom attached to it. We currently use it as a guest room.

A room and a bathroom? My, aren't you generous!

Are there any fumes from the garage? Sorry, even though I’m a live-in nanny, I would NEVER consider living over a family’s garage. The distance from the house is NOT worth possibly having fumes stinking up my area or possibly getting carbon monoxide poisoning.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP, if your current nanny doesn’t work out with reduced hours, another option to consider is live-in help. With needing 12 hrs a day of coverage (sometimes unpredictable hours), it might be easier to find a good live-in nanny. Then it might be easier to find someone who actually agrees to be flexible.

Op here and you’re right; I think we can consider this as well. Our garage has a room and bathroom attached to it. We currently use it as a guest room.

A room and a bathroom? My, aren't you generous!

Are there any fumes from the garage? Sorry, even though I’m a live-in nanny, I would NEVER consider living over a family’s garage. The distance from the house is NOT worth possibly having fumes stinking up my area or possibly getting carbon monoxide poisoning.

There are no fumes, and I never said I would do. I said I would consider

[Anonymous]

We park our cars in the drive way and the garage I in the back of the house completely separate from the driveway

[Anonymous]

Why jumping to conclusions that a room over/close to a garage is bad? I’m an MB, with a pretty nice house, and our master bedroom is over our garage... there is no more fumes in our bedroom than in any other bedroom in the house. OP says that it is a guest room. Even if not attached to the house, seems like a nice private area.

[Anonymous]

Dig you want her to be available 12hrs a day you need to guarantee her hours 12 per day.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why jumping to conclusions that a room over/close to a garage is bad? I’m an MB, with a pretty nice house, and our master bedroom is over our garage... there is no more fumes in our bedroom than in any other bedroom in the house. OP says that it is a guest room. Even if not attached to the house, seems like a nice private area.

A room over the garage for a guest room for a day or so is fine but on a permanent basis she needs more than a room. A live-in nanny should have an in-law suite so that she had complete privacy when not on duty. How is she going to prepare her meals without having to use family kitchen where she will see children who will expect her to take care of them when she is not on duty.

You have complete run of your house and you have special insulation so that fumes do not infiltrate your room. I doubt OP has the same safety measures.

[Anonymous]

Most two-story houses have rooms over the garage.

Some live-in nannies wouldn't mind the shared space, but that's also something the family has to consider. When you have another adult living in your home, you will have another person in your kitchen, doing laundry, etc., and you will need to negotiate all of those things that you currently can do whenever you want.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Why jumping to conclusions that a room over/close to a garage is bad? I’m an MB, with a pretty nice house, and our master bedroom is over our garage... there is no more fumes in our bedroom than in any other bedroom in the house. OP says that it is a guest room. Even if not attached to the house, seems like a nice private area.

A room over the garage for a guest room for a day or so is fine but on a permanent basis she needs more than a room. A live-in nanny should have an in-law suite so that she had complete privacy when not on duty. How is she going to prepare her meals without having to use family kitchen where she will see children who will expect her to take care of them when she is not on duty.

You have complete run of your house and you have special insulation so that fumes do not infiltrate your room. I doubt OP has the same safety measures.

op here. and we probably won't consider that because she would have to come into the main house and use the kitchen. laundry is attached to the garage. and LIKE I SAID. our garage is in the back of our home in the backyard and we DO NOT use the garage to park our cars. we park our cars next to the house in our driveway.

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Anonymous wrote:Op here. Spoke to our nanny this morning and she said she’ does not want to be on call until 7. She said she has things to do after work. I understand that we totally were in the wrong of asking her to stay late especially when it was last minute. I told her that we would be looking for a nanny and her hours would be changed to 7-3/4. She said she would check her finances etc and let us know.

I think a step in the right direction but I don’t think it’s fair to cut her hours three or four when she is used to working until five. Unless I missed the reason why you would be cutting her hours until three or four. If it was the burn out issue that you mentioned I suggested earlier that the burn out could be due to the unpredictable schedule.

Op here. We would cut her hours so we can have an evening nanny and offer the evening nanny 4 hours. She’s not willing to be available until 7, which I understand but finding someone from 5:30-7 will be tough.

Makes sense. I wouldn't do a 530-7 shift unless I was getting 4 hour minimum pay.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP, if your current nanny doesn’t work out with reduced hours, another option to consider is live-in help. With needing 12 hrs a day of coverage (sometimes unpredictable hours), it might be easier to find a good live-in nanny. Then it might be easier to find someone who actually agrees to be flexible.

Op here and you’re right; I think we can consider this as well. Our garage has a room and bathroom attached to it. We currently use it as a guest room.

A room and a bathroom? My, aren't you generous!

NP, now you are being ridiculous. A room and bathroom with use of the main living areas is normal.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Why jumping to conclusions that a room over/close to a garage is bad? I’m an MB, with a pretty nice house, and our master bedroom is over our garage... there is no more fumes in our bedroom than in any other bedroom in the house. OP says that it is a guest room. Even if not attached to the house, seems like a nice private area.

A room over the garage for a guest room for a day or so is fine but on a permanent basis she needs more than a room. A live-in nanny should have an in-law suite so that she had complete privacy when not on duty. How is she going to prepare her meals without having to use family kitchen where she will see children who will expect her to take care of them when she is not on duty.

You have complete run of your house and you have special insulation so that fumes do not infiltrate your room. I doubt OP has the same safety measures.

You are a troll. OP clearly said there are no fumes. An in-law suite is not the norm for a live-in.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, if your current nanny doesn’t work out with reduced hours, another option to consider is live-in help. With needing 12 hrs a day of coverage (sometimes unpredictable hours), it might be easier to find a good live-in nanny. Then it might be easier to find someone who actually agrees to be flexible.

I was going to suggest this, too. DH’s brother and sister-in-law have always had live-ins since they work long hours. The nanny gets time off during the day when the children are in school and their rule is that the nanny is off-duty when the first parent comes home. The parents have established clear boundaries with the children so the children know not to bother the nanny when a parent is home.