The flexible (yet not so flexible) nanny

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Anonymous wrote:Why jumping to conclusions that a room over/close to a garage is bad? I’m an MB, with a pretty nice house, and our master bedroom is over our garage... there is no more fumes in our bedroom than in any other bedroom in the house. OP says that it is a guest room. Even if not attached to the house, seems like a nice private area.

A room over the garage for a guest room for a day or so is fine but on a permanent basis she needs more than a room. A live-in nanny should have an in-law suite so that she had complete privacy when not on duty. How is she going to prepare her meals without having to use family kitchen where she will see children who will expect her to take care of them when she is not on duty.

You have complete run of your house and you have special insulation so that fumes do not infiltrate your room. I doubt OP has the same safety measures.

op here. and we probably won't consider that because she would have to come into the main house and use the kitchen. laundry is attached to the garage. and LIKE I SAID. our garage is in the back of our home in the backyard and we DO NOT use the garage to park our cars. we park our cars next to the house in our driveway.

OP, yes, you would have to be willing to share the kitchen, laundry room and main living areas with the nanny. Otherwise, she would not feel comfortable living there if she was expected to be in her room whenever the parents were home.

[Anonymous]

It was the right thing to do to ask the nanny whether she would be willing to accept less hours. I wouldn’t be surprised if she decides to keep her current hours and accept the two longer days to keep her income.

[Anonymous]

Op here and our nanny accepted the longer hours 7:30-7 pm. We will be paying her until 7.

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That’s awesome, op! Now you don’t have to go through the hassle of finding someone part-time. I hope this works out for you guys!

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Anonymous wrote:Op here and our nanny accepted the longer hours 7:30-7 pm. We will be paying her until 7.

Wow, and she gets 17.5 hours at 150% of her hourly rate but only has to work until 7 PM a couple of days a week? Sounds like a great deal for the nanny who didn't want to be on call because she had things to do in the evening! Will she get paid for 57.5 hours for the vacation weeks too?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Op here and our nanny accepted the longer hours 7:30-7 pm. We will be paying her until 7.

Wow, and she gets 17.5 hours at 150% of her hourly rate but only has to work until 7 PM a couple of days a week? Sounds like a great deal for the nanny who didn't want to be on call because she had things to do in the evening! Will she get paid for 57.5 hours for the vacation weeks too?

Op here and well, my husband are definitely going to take advantage of this now. We’re glad she accepted. And yes will definitely pay her the vacation. It is what it is.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Op here and our nanny accepted the longer hours 7:30-7 pm. We will be paying her until 7.

Wow, and she gets 17.5 hours at 150% of her hourly rate but only has to work until 7 PM a couple of days a week? Sounds like a great deal for the nanny who didn't want to be on call because she had things to do in the evening! Will she get paid for 57.5 hours for the vacation weeks too?

Op here and well, my husband are definitely going to take advantage of this now. We’re glad she accepted. And yes will definitely pay her the vacation. It is what it is.

This makes so much more sense than hiring an after school nanny. Please don’t stay away from your kids just because you are spending the money for guaranteed hours to 7, OP.

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Anonymous wrote:Op here and our nanny accepted the longer hours 7:30-7 pm. We will be paying her until 7.

Wow, and she gets 17.5 hours at 150% of her hourly rate but only has to work until 7 PM a couple of days a week? Sounds like a great deal for the nanny who didn't want to be on call because she had things to do in the evening! Will she get paid for 57.5 hours for the vacation weeks too?

Op here and well, my husband are definitely going to take advantage of this now. We’re glad she accepted. And yes will definitely pay her the vacation. It is what it is.

Really? Personally, I'd use the extra time if I needed for work, but I'd rather not stay out later just because I can--I would prefer to spend time with my kids.

You need to pay the nanny because you expect her to be available with little notice--which means that she's giving up that time for you. If you were willing to let her say no when she couldn't work late, then you wouldn't need to pay her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op here and our nanny accepted the longer hours 7:30-7 pm. We will be paying her until 7.

Wow, and she gets 17.5 hours at 150% of her hourly rate but only has to work until 7 PM a couple of days a week? Sounds like a great deal for the nanny who didn't want to be on call because she had things to do in the evening! Will she get paid for 57.5 hours for the vacation weeks too?

Op here and well, my husband are definitely going to take advantage of this now. We’re glad she accepted. And yes will definitely pay her the vacation. It is what it is.

Really? Personally, I'd use the extra time if I needed for work, but I'd rather not stay out later just because I can--I would prefer to spend time with my kids.

You need to pay the nanny because you expect her to be available with little notice--which means that she's giving up that time for you. If you were willing to let her say no when she couldn't work late, then you wouldn't need to pay her.

PSA: everyone needs to calm down and stop telling OP that she should spend time with her kids. It’s her time and she’ll do with it as she pleases

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op here and our nanny accepted the longer hours 7:30-7 pm. We will be paying her until 7.

Wow, and she gets 17.5 hours at 150% of her hourly rate but only has to work until 7 PM a couple of days a week? Sounds like a great deal for the nanny who didn't want to be on call because she had things to do in the evening! Will she get paid for 57.5 hours for the vacation weeks too?

Op here and well, my husband are definitely going to take advantage of this now. We’re glad she accepted. And yes will definitely pay her the vacation. It is what it is.

Really? Personally, I'd use the extra time if I needed for work, but I'd rather not stay out later just because I can--I would prefer to spend time with my kids.

You need to pay the nanny because you expect her to be available with little notice--which means that she's giving up that time for you. If you were willing to let her say no when she couldn't work late, then you wouldn't need to pay her.

PSA: everyone needs to calm down and stop telling OP that she should spend time with her kids. It’s her time and she’ll do with it as she pleases

+ 1 Besides, she can manage this in a lot of ways. Maybe she gets more of her errands done after work now so she can spend the time with the children on the weekends, or it's an opportunity for one-on-one time with the children with the nanny minding the other one(s). She has every right to use the time as it best fits the family's needs. The key is whether the nanny can handle the longer days, even with the extra money.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op here and our nanny accepted the longer hours 7:30-7 pm. We will be paying her until 7.

Wow, and she gets 17.5 hours at 150% of her hourly rate but only has to work until 7 PM a couple of days a week? Sounds like a great deal for the nanny who didn't want to be on call because she had things to do in the evening! Will she get paid for 57.5 hours for the vacation weeks too?

Op here and well, my husband are definitely going to take advantage of this now. We’re glad she accepted. And yes will definitely pay her the vacation. It is what it is.

Really? Personally, I'd use the extra time if I needed for work, but I'd rather not stay out later just because I can--I would prefer to spend time with my kids.

You need to pay the nanny because you expect her to be available with little notice--which means that she's giving up that time for you. If you were willing to let her say no when she couldn't work late, then you wouldn't need to pay her.

PSA: everyone needs to calm down and stop telling OP that she should spend time with her kids. It’s her time and she’ll do with it as she pleases

I am perfectly calm, PP, and I am telling OP that she is making a mistake in staying away from her kids until 7PM just because she is paying the nanny until 7PM. That is terrible for the children. Do her children really mean so little to OP that after 10 - 11 daytime hours away from them, five days a week, she would stay away from them just to get her money's worth out of the nanny?!

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Op, do you plan to use the nanny until 7 daily? If so, is the nanny aware of this aspect of the change? If not, do you have a limit to the number of days she stays late? Will you ever go past 7pm? This could easily not work if everyone is not on the same page.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op, do you plan to use the nanny until 7 daily? If so, is the nanny aware of this aspect of the change? If not, do you have a limit to the number of days she stays late? Will you ever go past 7pm? This could easily not work if everyone is not on the same page.

We made it clear that she is expect to work until 7 whenever we need it. And we never need her past 7 pm. She has never stayed past 7 pm. We will usually only need her to stay until 7 1-2 days with short notice.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Op, do you plan to use the nanny until 7 daily? If so, is the nanny aware of this aspect of the change? If not, do you have a limit to the number of days she stays late? Will you ever go past 7pm? This could easily not work if everyone is not on the same page.

We made it clear that she is expect to work until 7 whenever we need it. And we never need her past 7 pm. She has never stayed past 7 pm. We will usually only need her to stay until 7 1-2 days with short notice.

Sounds like a fair solution. Having a nanny on call does cost more. I am very flexible, but I am always asked in advance and have the opportunity to say no if I have plans. Last minute late days are a whole different ballgame. And I understand that your schedule is such that this is your need. Other professions are as well, but it does cost you more to retain a nanny for those varying hours. If you utilize this time more than 3 times per week, I foresee that becoming problematic for your nanny, so just be mindful of her personal time.

[Anonymous]

Give her plenty of notice and pay her time and half for they overtime