Am I doing something wrong here or is it bad luck?

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02/08/2020 13:33

Subject: Am I doing something wrong here or is it bad luck?

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I have been through 6 nannies in 5 months. Most last only a few weeks.

The job is care for one infant, he was 4 months when the position started. I pay $20/hr and the job is to play with him and take him for one walk per day. I ask for the bottles and dishes to be put in the dishwasher and his toys cleaned up at the end of the day and one load of his laundry per week. The job is part time, 32 hours/week with taxes deducted. We pay 3 weeks PTO, sick leave, mileage reimbursement and a health insurance stipend. The job is 7AM - 3PM, 4 days/week.

We have been hiring through Care.Com. Our process is to send a full job description, schedule a phone interview, check 3 references and conduct a criminal background check, have a trial shift paid in cash and then hire if all goes well.

1st nanny. Fell asleep on the job multiple times while watching the baby. Spent half the time watching Netflix until 2PM in the afternoon until I asked her to not do that. She called in sick for a week straight and never returned.

2nd nanny lasted 1 day. We paid her in cash for a trial shift. She never showed up the next day and when I called her she said she had slept through her alarm. She begged for the job, stating she was not in a "good living situation" which was a red flag.

3rd nanny complained about the hours and was constantly on her phone. The toys were never picked up. She asked to start later so she could work out in the morning. She wanted to take my son for outings, everyday, for 2-3 hours at a time and clearly did not want to be in my house. My husband got frustrated because everytime he would come home he would have to clean up the mess while she sat on the couch, on her phone.

4th nanny took a 2 hour nap on our couch her first day. She nearly ate through my entire fridge. My son spent alot of time in his highchair while she spent her time, eating, and not doing anything I asked her to do. When I came home, she was asleep on the couch and my son was awake in his playroom. She said she was taking a nap to "prevent a mental breakdown. I let her go on the spot.

5th nanny never showed up. She claimed the weather was too bad for her to leave the house on both days that I asked her to come. I had to cancel two important meetings because she cancelled and it affected my work.

6th nanny lies about everything. Claims she can't take our son for a walk because she has a fractured leg, but is not wearing a brace and seems to weight bear just fine. Asks to come in later because she's "so tired" in the morning. Wants to leave early almost every day. Complains, at length, about her personal problems and stress. Spends an inordinate amount of time on her phone and listened to a Bachelor podcast SO loudly for 4+ hours/day, I could hear the podcast in my office. Talks about how she "loves nannying" but isn't sure if she wants to continue. I asked her to turn her podcast down and she became a bit shirty with me.

Please tell me what I am doing wrong. I am trying to be flexible and let our current nanny come in later to accomodate her sleep schedule. I let her do her schoolwork on her breaks instead of housekeeping. She is good at cleaning up at the end of the day. But she clearly has alot of issues and stress in her life and brings it alllllllll into the workplace.

I don't know what to do and am feeling at my wits end. Not having reliable childcare is a big stressor in my life and is affecting my work performance. Is it possible to find a nanny to work part time who a) won't sleep on the job b) is capable of picking up toys and putting them in the dishwasher and c) will not spend HOURS on her phone or wanting to watch netflix?