Parents are allowed to be hypocrites

[Anonymous]

http://bestnannynewsletter.blogspot.com/2013/03/parents-are-allowed-to-be-hypocrites.html

[Anonymous]

When you're with my kids, you're at work. When I'm with my kids, I'm at home. We do not alternate 2 shifts of the same role.

[Anonymous]

Yes, let's keep supporting the parents in their inconsistency. That is called lazy parenting.

[Anonymous]

OP, who wrote the article? The editor?

[Anonymous]

OP here, not sure. I just found it posted on facebook this morning.

[Anonymous]

What is good for your kids when I'm at work is still good for them when you're at home. What is bad for them when I'm at work is still bad when you're at home. Now is it your right to relax the rules when you're home. Sure it is. But you should be honest with yourself that it is because you don't have the energy to be on 100% of the time, and you should be able to understand that neither does your nanny.

[Anonymous]

As I nanny, I'd never put up with that kind of so called parenting. Why waste your time and effort with people like that? It'd be nothing, but endless frustration. I could never tolerate having my charges neglected like that by their own parents.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What is good for your kids when I'm at work is still good for them when you're at home. What is bad for them when I'm at work is still bad when you're at home. Now is it your right to relax the rules when you're home. Sure it is. But you should be honest with yourself that it is because you don't have the energy to be on 100% of the time, and you should be able to understand that neither does your nanny.

+100,000!

[Anonymous]

Haven't read the article, but I do agree that with certain situations, parents ARE allowed to be hypocrites.

For example, I'm not going to whine and fault my employers if kids are allowed to watch limited to no tv when with me and when they come home from a long day of work and are STILL working (whereas I go to my kidless home), they want to put the tv on for a couple hours.

Sometimes, the nannies on this forum come off very entitled to me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Haven't read the article, but I do agree that with certain situations, parents ARE allowed to be hypocrites.

For example, I'm not going to whine and fault my employers if kids are allowed to watch limited to no tv when with me and when they come home from a long day of work and are STILL working (whereas I go to my kidless home), they want to put the tv on for a couple hours.

Sometimes, the nannies on this forum come off very entitled to me.

I'm a nanny and I agree. I'm being paid to care for children. My only responsibilities while I'm here are the kids and kid related chores. A parent who works full time comes home and has the kids and all the day to day house stuff to do. There are things that are ok for parents to do that simply aren't ok for nanny. For example, if a parent chooses to run in and pick up dry cleaning while the kids wait in the car that's their decision with their children. That is not something I would ever do with someone's children. Now, of course the double standards can be annoying and some parents are just lazy. But there are things a parent can do that I, as a paid employee, cannot do. That's just the way it is.

[Anonymous]

I don't really give a shit what MB and DB do with the charges when I'm gone as long as it doesn't negatively affect me.

If they want to put their kids in front of the TV all day, it's their prerogative. They are losing the one on one time with their children.

They can screw up their children if they want, I'm going to do my job.

[Anonymous]

I am so grateful for how awesome my MB is and how great of a relationship we have every time I see posts like this. Nannies...if you have a chip on your shoulder about how terrible parents are at parentings, you are in the wrong profession. Get over it! Learn to work together instead of being so bitter all the time!

[Anonymous]

I have a great relationship with my employers and they are great parents. It doesn't change the fact that its not truly necessary for their 11 month old to spend all evening in front of the TV with them. It's bad for him during the day and its still bad after 6. But I say nothing, its their choice to make.

[Anonymous]

I'd hate to come into work one morning to find out that the parent "almost" went to jail for leaving the kid in the car "for a minute". In that one minute, it could be a cop walking by.
Everyone needs to be as responsible as they are capable of.

[Anonymous]

Going forward, if I choose to remain a nanny, I will choose to work for a family that is NOT displayed by the MBs on this board. Let your nannies raise your kids 50+ hours per week by giving them the ONLY adult interaction they will have (aside from school teachers) and then plop them in front of the TV while you're home cause you're the parent and you're tired and don't wanna deal with your own kids. That makes one a shitty parent with kids who turn into shitty kids. If you don't wanna deal with your own kids, then why did you have them? Apparently just as accessories.