The purpose of my post was to respond to the quoted post about attracting a man vs making him stay. Somehow people here don’t want to believe that these relationships can work. Some men love to spoil their wives and some women love to be spoiled. |
I am married and high-maintenance when it comes to my appearance. That's what I need to do to look my best to feel good about myself. However, I don't expect my husband to wait on me hand and foot. |
Nice try. You are trying to brag (and failing because no one is impressed). It’s so lame that you look at the house you own and a housekeeper as “spoiling” by your husband. You are being spoiled by having a housekeeper? What year is this 1940? My husband isn’t spoiling me by us, jointly, buying a beach house together, lol. |
Depends how hot you are Depends how easy you are Ultimately, it depends on how much of a bltch you are. |
You are right I don’t consider our house, housekeeper or possible beach house as spoiling me. My husband spoils me by providing the means so that my day is free to do my hobbies, cook, workout, garden, etc., he takes me out to nice dinners, dancing, etc. whenever I want, etc. Maybe everyone has their own definition of spoiling. |
Dancing isn’t allowed in Ohio |
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I really enjoyed reading this post. Yes, men like women they have to work for. I learned this the hard way and the easy way. But the key is matching up with a man who truly gets a little thrill/kink/excitement from meeting a woman's impossible demands.
I have met many men like this. I am not a WASP. I am petite/short and curves in the right places. I smile ALOT. I have had many men take me on trips to exotic locations, show up with big items and offer me things that I can't provide for myself. I took some of them up on the offers. I failed in a major way by falling for someone who didn't spoil me like he should and I regret giving him a chance. We should celebrate women who are in happy relationships. Their men also take honor in adoration and showering of the things a woman desires. I am so happy to read about happy healthy relationships and spoiled wives. You deserve it! I detect a little DC hate. Many women in the DC area are more brains over beauty. So there is a thread of resentment if a beautiful woman can secure an awesome life without spending 20 years in school and slogging her life away in front of a laptop for money. I hope to find another man who spoils me like my previous lovers. It feels amazing to know someone cares about your well being on every level. It can happen at all income levels. But you must match with a man who truly values spending on his woman. My last spoiler was so easy. I gave him a financial gift for his graduation and he said, "You know I am just going to turn around and spend this on you". I knew immediately that he was the right man for me. I have tested other men and knew that maybe they were givers but they didn't want to give to me. I left those relationships immediately. |
You sound like a prostitute |
| This is an interesting perspective into a world in which I do not belong. My wife and I are both lawyers. She works from home, and I almost never see her dressed up. I like the low maintenance, but sometimes, like once a month, it would be nice to see her dressed up. But the alternative high maintenance situation sounds annoying as hell. |
I am nowhere like that PP but she does have a point. Its good to look for a giving man. |
| My wife is incredibly low maintenance and I love her for it so I spoil her when I can especially when we travel. But if spoiling her every day was a requirement for a happy marriage we wouldn’t have a marriage. |
| I don't want to "work for" my wife. She's a partner in life, not a reward. |
| I'm a woman with a high maintenance husband, does this count to participate? |
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I'm a bit spoiled/high maintenance and happily married (no problem dating before). I have always had a good career and been able to afford my own stuff but I have expensive taste and grew up without money being a concern.
The most high maintenance thing about me is that I need a lot of sleep (8-9 hours every night, 10 on weekends) and 90 minutes a day for exercise to be cheerful and happy. He facilitates that, and in exchange gets an enthusiastic, fun partner who is in great shape, makes good money, and still loves jumping into bed with him multiple times per week. I also care about having high quality products, but in my experience it hasn't been an issue for men because I can afford them myself and don't have the expectation that they will pay my way through life. From what I have seen, the men who are attracted to women who are spoiled in a materialistic way - high end designer clothes, jewelry, luxury vehicles - expect the trade off to be that they have the upper hand in the relationship OR are really 'givers' and like to take care of someone. |