You don't get it. Probably you'll never get it. The sex thoughts flash through the brain unbidden and are gone in a fraction of a second. They cause no distraction, no pain, no frustration. It's like any other random thought generated by the monkey mind. If the man was actively thinking, with his conscious mind, for a lengthy period about having sex with some fantasy woman,* then that could be a cause of distraction and frustration, but that's different from the transient "up from the subconscious" sex thoughts. * To be sure, men have those "deliberate" types of fantasies, too... for example when they're masturbating. |
Man here. I actually find women around my age most attractive (+/- 5-7 years), and always have throughout my life. While much younger women are certainly objectively attractive, I’m really not into that. |
As a man who has been going through the lengthy thoughts for months, I appreciate your statement |
That hasn't been my experience. I've gotten way more attention as I've gotten older than I did when I was younger. Some of it is daddy issues, but a lot of the women I've met have the perception that guys their age are immature. They seem to want someone stable. It can't be about money, because I don't spend any on them. The attractive women closer to my age also show more attention, but I think that's because they don't get the attention they used to, and they don't know how to live without a constant dose of a man's attention. I think that as we age, we switch roles. We go from being the hunters to being the hunted. I'm okay with that. |
How old are you? Once you hit 50 you are irrelevant women any more than 5 years younger. Sorry. |
So what? It's not like I'm going to marry her. |
Hmm, interesting. As a woman in my forties I get a lot more male attention than I did in my twenties. I wonder if it has to do with the pool of attractive women in my age range being smaller. Alas, I am happily married but it is fascinating. |
I mean, if you’re talking about just for sex/fun women have it just as easy as they age. Sooo many hot young guys who are taken with the older woman thing, and boy are they good and energetic in bed. ![]() |
Speak for yourself please. Female here and not disgusted at all. |
I read somewhere that men think about sex as often as women struggle with their self esteem. This helped me understand women on a whole new level. Maybe it will give the women reading this thread a little more insight about men. |
Wtf... |
NP here. 55 yo m. It is not that I want to F*** every woman I meet, but my initial thoughts are f**kability...Then quick evaluation as to why not. For example....
Yes, but she is young enough that I can not tell if she is legal. Yes, but I am at work. Yes, but she has a ring on -- play it cool. And then I start talking, and almost always focus on the person. I am not proud of this. I work hard to suppress it. |
Same here, but I am not married. It's a cornucopia, and not at all what I expected. |
Even though I'm in my 40's and should know better, this thread is still surprising |
Why should I when I don't have to. |