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| I think the parents should be ashamed of themselves. I think in Kindergarten children are not mean yet, and would love to have your little boy at a party. I would not ever let my children exclude at this age, all or nothing. Of course they picked all. If some don't show, fine but they are all invited. You can not expect children not to talk at school about the parties they went to. The parents of these children that had parties without inviting the whole class have NO CLASS. I am sorry for you. |
Anonymous
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My heart would break to see my little boy so sad. How difficult for you. Thank you for sharing this story with us. Sending you and your little man a big *hug*.
Also, Great Zucchini--you are very sweet. |
Anonymous
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this poem. I'm a wreck. I can't stop crying. This is my son. I want to always remember this poem-whenever I start to loose my patience--which is way too often. Thank you,
pp. |
maynie
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| That is really sad. Thanks for posting and bringing awareness. It's something I will make sure to keep in mind when my little one is school age. |
Anonymous
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I'm upset too...my little girl just turned two and is special needs. I hope her experience won't be the same. Why can't teachers be a little more pro-active? I'm not blaming this on them, I just wish there was more concern for children's feelings.
Anyway, a big hug for your boy. |
Anonymous
| The poem is such an eye-opener. Thanks for posting. |
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| This is so heartbreaking and I would have hoped the parents would know better than to leave a child out because s/he's "different." I think it's great that you could share this sadness with us parents of nonspecial needs kids to make sure we keep this in mind. |
Anonymous
| this made me so sad as well. if you makes you feel any better my son is not a special needs child but he gets excluded as well sometimes. it breaks my heart. sometimes he is in the "in" group and other times i see him trying to break in but with no avail. anyway, my mother always made us invite everyone in our class of the same sex and i am grateful she did this. i plan on doing the same thing as well. nothing lasts forever...i'm sure day you will look back on this time and your child by then will have found his group of friends. good luck! |
Anonymous
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Gosh, this post just about has me in tears at my desk.
I just want to hug your son. |
Anonymous
| OP, that treatment of your son (and YOU) is unforgivable. The fact that adults can condone that sort of thing and raise their children to think exclusion is acceptable just plain old sucks. Please be reassured that most of us out here think it is beyond terrible and would never act in the same way. Best wishes to you. |
Anonymous
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I am a wreck but Thank You OP for letting me know that I still have compasion in my heart. I feel the hurt for you and your son and we will also be more aware in returned.
Just the other day I mentioned to my sister that my son has yet been invited to "any" b-day party and he has been in this preschool since Fall...I never thought it was odd but I wonder if others are excluding him b/c he is the only minority in his class but I plan to be more involve this Spring so other parents will get to know him and us better... |
Anonymous
| good people get rewarded- you are in my thoughts and prayers. |
Anonymous
| Your son can come to my boys birthday parties any time! They are only 2 yo and 4 months, but your post will ensure that I ALWAYS include everybody at my boys' parties when they get older. Thank you for your heartfelt post!!! |
Anonymous
| Thank you for posting. You struck a nerve for me today (a good one!) I have been crying off and on since reading this. My son asked me what was wrong and it prompted a really cool conversation about kids who may seem different and being nice to everyone and understanding that we ARE ALL a little different in some ways. He seemed to get it (which surprised me), and I can hope hope hope that with re-enforcement he can be a part of a creating a different world someday. Don't we all hope for our children to be filled with empathy and kindness? All the crazy talk in the other forum about schools and this post just makes it all come full circle. Thanks again. |
Anonymous
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Reading through this post disgusts me...NOT because of everyone's reaction because mine is the same, but that there are STILL parents around that can't even begin to think / empathize / sympathize with anyone that could be remotely different....Ya know, maybe the parents don't know that your DS has special needs, but why, OH WHY, would they not think to invite everyone??? My DS (4.5) changes "friends at school" daily....his birthday list today would change as of tomorrow.... I am absolutely APPALLED and I wish I could find the language to completely express my emotion right now. I am very very sorry that you need to teach your son selfishness and discrimination at so young an age.
To OP: can you share the name of the school your son attends? Maybe some of the "offending parents" have already read through this and are unaware of how they have been handling parties?...sort of a "stealth way" to communicate this? I am truly truly sorry, for both you and your son. |