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It's not HHI if you stay home. It's his income.

presumably she works at home. this is labor as well and has value--the idea that she has no power or right over their income because she has chosen to take on unpaid labor as an offset to what otherwise would be a joint expense (childcare and other forms of house work) is sexist and outdated.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

It's not HHI if you stay home. It's his income.

presumably she works at home. this is labor as well and has value--the idea that she has no power or right over their income because she has chosen to take on unpaid labor as an offset to what otherwise would be a joint expense (childcare and other forms of house work) is sexist and outdated.

I work at home too in addition to my full time job.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

It's not HHI if you stay home. It's his income.

presumably she works at home. this is labor as well and has value--the idea that she has no power or right over their income because she has chosen to take on unpaid labor as an offset to what otherwise would be a joint expense (childcare and other forms of house work) is sexist and outdated.

I generally agree with this but let's be serious non nanny/housekeeper is making 250 k

If courts thought this way them SAHMs should not be eligible for 50% of net worth. Thank God society and courts put more value on a wife, mom who chooses to stay at home.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

It's not HHI if you stay home. It's his income.

presumably she works at home. this is labor as well and has value--the idea that she has no power or right over their income because she has chosen to take on unpaid labor as an offset to what otherwise would be a joint expense (childcare and other forms of house work) is sexist and outdated.

I generally agree with this but let's be serious non nanny/housekeeper is making 250 k

If courts thought this way them SAHMs should not be eligible for 50% of net worth. Thank God society and courts put more value on a wife, mom who chooses to stay at home.

Which is why I should have walked as soon as I found out my exDW wasn't planning to work during the marriage.

Attention young men: the first step to her filing for divorce and taking half your possessions is when she quits work. When that happens prepare to exit the marriage.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's not HHI if you stay home. It's his income.

I am a WOHM and the above statement is incorrect, wrong and deliberately cruel. There is plenty of work done by SAHMs, plenty to manage at home, of course this sort of decision should be joint.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's not HHI if you stay home. It's his income.

The 1950s want you back, great-gramps.

Think you've got the wrong person in the 50s.

For real yet no one seems to see it.

My husband and I project together. He never tells me no.

I guess that Woman's March didn't mean anything. Some of you are still not marriage partners.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

It's not HHI if you stay home. It's his income.

presumably she works at home. this is labor as well and has value--the idea that she has no power or right over their income because she has chosen to take on unpaid labor as an offset to what otherwise would be a joint expense (childcare and other forms of house work) is sexist and outdated.

I generally agree with this but let's be serious non nanny/housekeeper is making 250 k

If courts thought this way them SAHMs should not be eligible for 50% of net worth. Thank God society and courts put more value on a wife, mom who chooses to stay at home.

Which is why I should have walked as soon as I found out my exDW wasn't planning to work during the marriage.

Attention young men: the first step to her filing for divorce and taking half your possessions is when she quits work. When that happens prepare to exit the marriage.

Hmmm. I quit work 11 years ago, we are still happily married. Your bad choice is your own.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's not HHI if you stay home. It's his income.

I am a WOHM and the above statement is incorrect, wrong and deliberately cruel. There is plenty of work done by SAHMs, plenty to manage at home, of course this sort of decision should be joint.

The point is that it's not her income. Plain and simple. No one said her contribution isn't valuable. But it's not income.

Anonymous wrote:Another "freeloading" SAHM, now SAHW. I've been at home for over 25 years. Married nearly 30 years. My DH loves that I am at home. I love being at home. I love decorating, cleaning, cooking, gardening, volunteering, taking care of my DH and our kids, etc. The money he earns is "our money". He would be the first to tell you that. He doesn't care how I spend it. I pay all the bills and manage our finances. If I wanted to do some home improvements, he would assume I had budged appropriately. If anything, he asks me before spending.

I think some of you have a very weird idea about how marriage should work. And it has nothing to do with who earns the money.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

It's not HHI if you stay home. It's his income.

presumably she works at home. this is labor as well and has value--the idea that she has no power or right over their income because she has chosen to take on unpaid labor as an offset to what otherwise would be a joint expense (childcare and other forms of house work) is sexist and outdated.

I work at home too in addition to my full time job.

Yes, while someone else watches your kids. Thats the difference.

Not earning an income does not mean that you are on call 24 hours a day (for me it often does as my husband travels a lot), but when he is home we co parent and co help around the house probably much like you and your husband do.