Yeah, I followed up because I realized that. Chill. |
I'd be unresponsive for the rest of his vacation, and either end it via phone/email when he returns and is getting the message or see him in person for coffee or something and end it. When you do, I'd set him up to say "Is something wrong?" to which you can respond "Yes. I am not into you anymore/things have changed/I'm into someone else" - whatever you have to say. I'd refrain from making it about his DUI and record: that seems likely he'll re-approach you saying he's changed. If you're just clear that you're not into HIM, he might be less likely to make it about the DUI later. |
Hi.
How do you find this information (e.g., criminal records, etc.) on-line? I cannot even find a website that will tell me who owns a phone number when a random call appears on my cell. I have been getting a number of calls lately (e.g., this is the IRS, you owe us millions, call now) and would love to know how I can find out who the number belongs to before I call back. I realize this is not as important as an answer to the OP and I thank anyone who can tell me how they were able to obtain this type of info on-line. |
Then it's understandable you would look him up! It's not snooping. |
Op here. It actually popped up when I typed in his name. Most arrest records and public. I went to the website and I seen them. I know it's him based on his name, number, birthday, and state he lives. |
Wait, what? Why are you even entertaining this? NO. |
Most states have court records available for free somewhere online. I know Maryland does. I found out a BF had 10-year-old convictions for stalking, harassment, and cruelty to animals that way once. Nothing since, but that was an instant end to anything. Someone who's capable of that at any point in their life is not someone I need anywhere near me. |
Sorry, I realized you were asking how to break it off. I agree with the poster who said to be real cold and stand-offish during his vacation. Let him drift away. |
Why not just tell him, in person or on the phone ( no text) that you don't want to be in a relationship with anyone with dui or drug offenses due to your pharmacy degree? It's a valid reason to break up (especially after just one month of dating). |
you must surely love his c*ck to be on the fence about this, because it makes no sense otherwise why in the hell you would be waffling about this decision. |
Sounds like he has alcohol abuse issues. He needs to clean up first. I would encourage him to seek help, and tell him to call you when he's in a better place. I think people just starting AA often wait a bit before dating so they can work on themselves. |
+1 |
I wouldn't make it about the offense, just text him later and make it about you and be done. That is, if you want to do it today. But you are absolutely doing the right thing to end it. I married a guy who had a DUI and I rationalized it and lived to regret it. |
. Thank you. I think I may have been watching too much Mr. Robot and thought there was some great website to use. |
No need to ever date someone who's past (and present) you have to explain away.
When your parents, friends or family ask about him and you say "well he's been arrested a few times but...." |