Found out guy I'm dating has criminal record..

[Anonymous]

The OP states the most recent arrest was yesterday. This person clearly has not conquered his demons.

OP, you should bail. I don't think you owe it to him to see him face to face. Call or text is fine, you've only been dating a month.[/quote]



+1

[Anonymous]

Dump the loser by email. I won't dare anyone with a dui let alone 5 other arrests!

[Anonymous]

Yes you should dump him but I would do it either in person with friend near by or public place or over the phone. You need to be able to be real firm to let him know this is the end of the relationship and not to have any further contact with you. A text could be miss read or misunderstood or he could say he didn't get it.

Do it as close to face to face as possible and tell him why so that there is no misunderstanding and no hemming and hawing

[Anonymous]

No do it over the phone what is wrong with you people! This is a criminal, never see him again!!!

[Anonymous]

How to break it off? I think the truth works. Tell him something like: "You were arrested for DUI. This has happened before, based on google. Clearly you are either Ok with it or have not learned from your mistakes. I do not want this drama in my life. Good bye"

[Anonymous]

Break up on the phone. Tell him you don't think its working out. Learn from this and google everyone going forward. My friend married a guy after dating about a year(great job, money in the bank, social, fit in with everyone.)He got arrested during a street fair for getting in a ridiculous fight with someone (drinking was involved.) She found out that an ex had a restraining order against him for domestic violence.

[Anonymous]

Were you dating Nathan from Teen Mom?

[Anonymous]

Wait! I'm confused. He told you he was arrested but didn't tell you the reason why?! That's weird and makes me think it's way more serious than a DUI.

[Anonymous]

That's quite a pattern op. I'd call him and break it off.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
FTR I routinely look up men's criminal records, nothing wrong with that. I dumped someone immediately after finding a rape(!!) conviction. I did not dump someone with a domestic violence conviction and I regretted it.

Why do you think you attract such losers?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am 28 and recently started seeing this guy I met online. He is successful ( owns his own personal training business), smart, attractive, good in bed, and many more. He was arrested for what I think was a DUI ( he hasn't told me what happened yet) just yesterday while on vacation. I looked it up to see if they had any news or records, and I found out he has at least 5 arrest records for DUI, possession of drugs, driving with a suspended license, etc. I no longer feel comfortable dating him, but I don't want him to think I was snooping. Should I break it off over text or in person?

Let this be a lesson for everyone--check this stuff out before having sex!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wait! I'm confused. He told you he was arrested but didn't tell you the reason why?! That's weird and makes me think it's way more serious than a DUI.

I think OP is lying.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Boy bye. Not worth it. He will be sure to have an explanation (sob story) if you try to break up with him in person.

FTR I routinely look up men's criminal records, nothing wrong with that. I dumped someone immediately after finding a rape(!!) conviction. I did not dump someone with a domestic violence conviction and I regretted it.

DAMN GIRL!!!

U dating Chris Brown AND R Kelly?!

[Anonymous]

How did it come up that he was arrested and yet you don't know why?

[Anonymous]

You people are nuts! One DUI would be a deal breaker for me. Some of you really need to grow some self-esteem and raise your standards. Why would you choose to date a criminal? Unless, you have no choice, maybe?