Found out guy I'm dating has criminal record..

[Anonymous]

Op here. I am not lying. To clarify, I got a text from at about 4am saying he got arrested the night before. I texted him back when I woke up ( 2 hour time difference) and he said he would tell me why later when he had a chance to call. Sometimes a DUI will be published in the news, and that's where I found his long list or arrest records.

Turns out he was not arrested for a DUI. I made an assumption based on his past history. It was something really stupid and minor that he was arrested for ( jaywalking). Apparently he ended up with a citation instead of actually getting arrested. He admitted his past and how he had to serve jail time for the drugs. I told him I wasn't interested and he actually got mad and told me to delete his number. We are done!

[Anonymous]

Yikes, OP! So sorry.

[Anonymous]

You're better off finding out about all this now, not to mention his behavior.

[Anonymous]

Ghost him.

[Anonymous]

Your going to be a pharmacist one day.

That's a good solid career. Start dating
Men with solid careers. Medical, law, cpa,

Find a level headed mate.

[Anonymous]

Sometimes we guys do dumb things. Doesn't mean we're not worth it in the end

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sometimes we guys do dumb things. Doesn't mean we're not worth it in the end

Dumb things is NOT the same as criminal history.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sometimes we guys do dumb things. Doesn't mean we're not worth it in the end

Op here. I agree to an extent but not with this guy. As I said, I date a good guy who was an attorney. He got an DUI at 18 but never got in trouble with the law after that. That's a mistake in his past that I can look past because he learned from his mistakes. I cant and won't allow myself to get involved with a man who spent his 20's in and out of trouble with the law.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If they were in the VERY distant past and didn't involve drugs, just alcohol, I'd probably consider it. I actually work in a law enforcement field but I understand (and know) many people who have managed to successfully conquer their demons. Nobody is perfect and if he has his life together and is a successful, contributing member of society now, I don't necessarily think he should be punished for the rest of his life. I certainly wouldn't want everyone in my life holding my past sins against me forever, although nothing I've done is criminal in nature, people do grow and change. Every situation is different.

I'm certain I'm in the minority and a lot of the upper class, snobby, "I'm so perfect" DCUM crowd that lives in a bubble will flame me and disagree.

Being arrested yesterday for a DUI is not the VERY distant past.

Dump him, OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:NP here - I am dating a woman for almost 3 months and met online. I looked her up and saw a DUI on casesearch 10 years ago, but she hasn't mentioned it and I didn't bring it up. I also have a record (misdemeanor and traffic, no felony charges) and brought it up in general, but she didn't ask about it in detail. Why would you not give the guy the benefit of the doubt, like I am with my gf? Everyone makes mistakes and its not for us to judge that person.

Please don't ever use this line. Of course we judge. We all judge, every day, all the time. You judge women as not being attractive enough or thin enough or athletic enough or otherwise not worth your time.

You'd damn well better "judge" the actions of the people you date. If you don't you're a complete fool.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op here. I am not lying. To clarify, I got a text from at about 4am saying he got arrested the night before. I texted him back when I woke up ( 2 hour time difference) and he said he would tell me why later when he had a chance to call. Sometimes a DUI will be published in the news, and that's where I found his long list or arrest records.

Turns out he was not arrested for a DUI. I made an assumption based on his past history. It was something really stupid and minor that he was arrested for ( jaywalking). Apparently he ended up with a citation instead of actually getting arrested. He admitted his past and how he had to serve jail time for the drugs. I told him I wasn't interested and he actually got mad and told me to delete his number. We are done!

Jeez, he sounds like a real piece of crap. You're better off without him, OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sometimes we guys do dumb things. Doesn't mean we're not worth it in the end

Op here. I agree to an extent but not with this guy. As I said, I date a good guy who was an attorney. He got an DUI at 18 but never got in trouble with the law after that. That's a mistake in his past that I can look past because he learned from his mistakes. I cant and won't allow myself to get involved with a man who spent his 20's in and out of trouble with the law.

This sort of thing happens when you are young and stupid. I have dated guys who had a baby at a really young age but continued to provide for the child. I won't date the ones who have multiple babies with multiple women over large periods of time that is an ass and I won't deal with him.

[Anonymous]

Good riddance!

[Anonymous]

Who gets arrested for jaywalking? Unless you are drunk/high or otherwise acting a fool. Then get mouthy with the cop.

Yeah, he's an ass. Good riddance!

[Anonymous]

Is this the tow truck driver Eminem Nanny?