Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Let him know you're interested. But wait to do anything until
He's figured stuff out with his gf

This. You have been the one friend zoning him when he has been willing to risk rejection. If you are serious, be upfront with him both about your interest and that you don't want to be in the middle of his current relationship and that you know your timing sucks. But first you have to be honest with yourself, do you want to be in a relationship or just want a FWB? If it is FWB, look elsewhere right now. It isn't right to get a friend that expressed interest in dating you to break up with his significant other, for a FWB/no commitment, then see you move on to the next person.

Anonymous wrote:Oh Mikel.

Sigh

There's always one

DCUrban men are always sooooo thoughtful and willing to help.

Anonymous wrote:*Update*
OP here-

Things kinda got weird...

Long story short I complimented him on a pic I just noticed he'd posted on social media via text. Yeah I was flirty--your muscles...sexy ect

You again goes into how sexy I was when he saw me. I asked when he'd take me on a date. Then we end up having the hottest phone sex ever. Afterwards he reminds me "I told you I'm seeing someone". AFTER we'd takes about the hot sex we're going to have! I didn't think he'd engage in such talk if he was involved! I felt like a dope and quickly ended the call.

Now I'm stuck with NO not until he's free because I want him to take me seriously. Then again he's willing to cheat on her so he's a cheat and I don't want that! Then again why not have the hot sex???? Help

It's been a mind freak

Anonymous wrote:This update is excruciating. You got played so hard, OP.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:*Update*
OP here-

Things kinda got weird...

Long story short I complimented him on a pic I just noticed he'd posted on social media via text. Yeah I was flirty--your muscles...sexy ect

You again goes into how sexy I was when he saw me. I asked when he'd take me on a date. Then we end up having the hottest phone sex ever. Afterwards he reminds me "I told you I'm seeing someone". AFTER we'd takes about the hot sex we're going to have! I didn't think he'd engage in such talk if he was involved! I felt like a dope and quickly ended the call.

Now I'm stuck with NO not until he's free because I want him to take me seriously. Then again he's willing to cheat on her so he's a cheat and I don't want that! Then again why not have the hot sex???? Help

It's been a mind freak

Sweets, there's your answer. It's a no. You've talked yourself into believing there is something going on that isn't. He sounds like a total creep.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:*Update*
OP here-

Things kinda got weird...

Long story short I complimented him on a pic I just noticed he'd posted on social media via text. Yeah I was flirty--your muscles...sexy ect

You again goes into how sexy I was when he saw me. I asked when he'd take me on a date. Then we end up having the hottest phone sex ever. Afterwards he reminds me "I told you I'm seeing someone". AFTER we'd takes about the hot sex we're going to have! I didn't think he'd engage in such talk if he was involved! I felt like a dope and quickly ended the call.

Now I'm stuck with NO not until he's free because I want him to take me seriously. Then again he's willing to cheat on her so he's a cheat and I don't want that! Then again why not have the hot sex???? Help



It's been a mind freak

Sweets, there's your answer. It's a no. You've talked yourself into believing there is something going on that isn't. He sounds like a total creep.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:*Update*
OP here-

Things kinda got weird...

Long story short I complimented him on a pic I just noticed he'd posted on social media via text. Yeah I was flirty--your muscles...sexy ect

You again goes into how sexy I was when he saw me. I asked when he'd take me on a date. Then we end up having the hottest phone sex ever. Afterwards he reminds me "I told you I'm seeing someone". AFTER we'd takes about the hot sex we're going to have! I didn't think he'd engage in such talk if he was involved! I felt like a dope and quickly ended the call.

Now I'm stuck with NO not until he's free because I want him to take me seriously. Then again he's willing to cheat on her so he's a cheat and I don't want that! Then again why not have the hot sex???? Help

It's been a mind freak

Sweets, there's your answer. It's a no. You've talked yourself into believing there is something going on that isn't. He sounds like a total creep.

Thanks! And yeah. It's a no to a relationship. But the mind freak comes in when I now ask myself if I just want to scratch that itch. After all that was the question in the very first post. The phone sex WAS hot.
Of course there's that goody goody side of me that doesn't want to be so messy and sleep with a "taken" man. I don't usually do things like that to other women. But if it's meaningless...????

It's also weird and disappointing that my perfect wonderful friend who was a virgin when he married turned into such a douche.

Of course he could've been thinking the same about me. (She knows I have a girlfriend so why the flirting and asking me on a date?) while in my mind he wasn't sure and wouldn't engage inappropriately if he was.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This update is excruciating. You got played so hard, OP.

How? We didn't have sex----yet.

When I asked about him seeing someone (can't remember my wording) he goes " I told you I was seeing some but I don't know where it's going". Whatever dude

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:*Update*
OP here-

Things kinda got weird...

Long story short I complimented him on a pic I just noticed he'd posted on social media via text. Yeah I was flirty--your muscles...sexy ect

You again goes into how sexy I was when he saw me. I asked when he'd take me on a date. Then we end up having the hottest phone sex ever. Afterwards he reminds me "I told you I'm seeing someone". AFTER we'd takes about the hot sex we're going to have! I didn't think he'd engage in such talk if he was involved! I felt like a dope and quickly ended the call.

Now I'm stuck with NO not until he's free because I want him to take me seriously. Then again he's willing to cheat on her so he's a cheat and I don't want that! Then again why not have the hot sex???? Help

It's been a mind freak

Sweets, there's your answer. It's a no. You've talked yourself into believing there is something going on that isn't. He sounds like a total creep.

Thanks! And yeah. It's a no to a relationship. But the mind freak comes in when I now ask myself if I just want to scratch that itch. After all that was the question in the very first post. The phone sex WAS hot.
Of course there's that goody goody side of me that doesn't want to be so messy and sleep with a "taken" man. I don't usually do things like that to other women. But if it's meaningless...????

It's also weird and disappointing that my perfect wonderful friend who was a virgin when he married turned into such a douche.

Of course he could've been thinking the same about me. (She knows I have a girlfriend so why the flirting and asking me on a date?) while in my mind he wasn't sure and wouldn't engage inappropriately if he was.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This update is excruciating. You got played so hard, OP.

How? We didn't have sex----yet.

When I asked about him seeing someone (can't remember my wording) he goes " I told you I was seeing some but I don't know where it's going". Whatever dude

You had phone sex. He then shut you down because of his girlfriend. (Despite you believing you're the one who got away.) now you're hanging around in case he breaks up with her and needs someone just chilling in the wings who's willing to f*ck. Come on.