TALK ME OUT OF IT! Thinking About Seducing a Friend...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Bummer, OP -- I think many of us have been there with a friend. Honestly I haven't found it possible or even desirable to continue the friendship. Lost total respect when I found out the dude was in fact an asshole who didn't care about me.

This.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Bummer, OP -- I think many of us have been there with a friend. Honestly I haven't found it possible or even desirable to continue the friendship. Lost total respect when I found out the dude was in fact an asshole who didn't care about me.

This.

Then he probably wasn't worth keeping as a friend in the first place.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:*Update*
OP here-

Things kinda got weird...

Long story short I complimented him on a pic I just noticed he'd posted on social media via text. Yeah I was flirty--your muscles...sexy ect

You again goes into how sexy I was when he saw me. I asked when he'd take me on a date. Then we end up having the hottest phone sex ever. Afterwards he reminds me "I told you I'm seeing someone". AFTER we'd takes about the hot sex we're going to have! I didn't think he'd engage in such talk if he was involved! I felt like a dope and quickly ended the call.

Now I'm stuck with NO not until he's free because I want him to take me seriously. Then again he's willing to cheat on her so he's a cheat and I don't want that! Then again why not have the hot sex???? Help

It's been a mind freak

Well, that wasn't the game plan I thought you were going with. Everyone views phone sex differently but that isn't something I'd partake in with someone I was planning to tell "I'm interested in a relationship but not while you are involved with someone else." regardless of him getting the wrong idea or not, I don't blame you for viewing him differently and wanting to move on. Sorry it didn't work, I was rooting for you. Thanks for taking the time to come back and update.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:*Update*
OP here-

Things kinda got weird...

Long story short I complimented him on a pic I just noticed he'd posted on social media via text. Yeah I was flirty--your muscles...sexy ect

You again goes into how sexy I was when he saw me. I asked when he'd take me on a date. Then we end up having the hottest phone sex ever. Afterwards he reminds me "I told you I'm seeing someone". AFTER we'd takes about the hot sex we're going to have! I didn't think he'd engage in such talk if he was involved! I felt like a dope and quickly ended the call.

Now I'm stuck with NO not until he's free because I want him to take me seriously. Then again he's willing to cheat on her so he's a cheat and I don't want that! Then again why not have the hot sex???? Help

It's been a mind freak

Well, that wasn't the game plan I thought you were going with. Everyone views phone sex differently but that isn't something I'd partake in with someone I was planning to tell "I'm interested in a relationship but not while you are involved with someone else." regardless of him getting the wrong idea or not, I don't blame you for viewing him differently and wanting to move on. Sorry it didn't work, I was rooting for you. Thanks for taking the time to come back and update.

+1. Let's keep it simple, if you are interested in a relationship, which you said you were, just scratching an itch when he has a girlfriend is not the right move. You are playing a mind game with yourself trying to justify your actions. You needed to be direct and upfront prior to talking about a date. If he is serious enough to keep dating the current woman and not willing to let his "I'm not sure where it is going" relationship go for the "been flirty for 20 years, close friend, now she is available and willing to date me", then you have your answer.

It's like Julia Robert's "My Best Friend Wedding". She's convinced they would have been together if only the timing had been right but the truth was really that she wasn't the right match for him or the time would have been right. He's chasing the fiancée, Julia Roberts is chasing the best guy friend and the line is "But who is chasing you". If there is a Julia Robert's movie that covers every relationship issue, this is the one when you try to convince yourself it is just bad timing.

[Anonymous]

OP here and I agree with you 100%. I was being playful and it went left. I decided that I will NOT be using him to scratch my itch And when we meet face to face I will have an honest direct 1-1 with him.