TALK ME OUT OF IT! Thinking About Seducing a Friend...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Bump those uglies, honey. He could be your soulmate. You won't know unless you have sex. If you don't, for the rest of your life you'll wonder, What if . . .?

Please, please please tell me you're joking. Can't a person determine whether they're soulmates without muddying waters?

You are joking. Right?

[Anonymous]

Huh? You're friends and you're both single? Go for it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Bump those uglies, honey. He could be your soulmate. You won't know unless you have sex. If you don't, for the rest of your life you'll wonder, What if . . .?

Please, please please tell me you're joking. Can't a person determine whether they're soulmates without muddying waters?

You are joking. Right?

Soulmates? Ugh. Y'all deserve 70 cents for every dollar a man makes. Your soulmate is possibly an impoverished Sri Lankan dude 10000 miles away. This guy is here. Your call.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You think you can start a relationship with someone by having sex with them. No offensebut if he wanted to be with you, he would be with you. Know what I mean?

Yup! I know what you mean, but I'm sure you've gathered from my other responses that I've been the one to keep things in the friend zone. He's asked at each stage of our lives that it was possible for us to be together. Only now do I consider him as possibly more than a friend.

I don't have any good advice other than don't have sex with this guy without you both being free. For your immediate problem, I'm sure plenty of guys would be happy to help you out.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You think you can start a relationship with someone by having sex with them. No offensebut if he wanted to be with you, he would be with you. Know what I mean?

Yup! I know what you mean, but I'm sure you've gathered from my other responses that I've been the one to keep things in the friend zone. He's asked at each stage of our lives that it was possible for us to be together. Only now do I consider him as possibly more than a friend.

I don't have any good advice other than don't have sex with this guy without you both being free. For your immediate problem, I'm sure plenty of guys would be happy to help you out.

Thank YOU and thanks to all of the thoughtful, sobering responses that indeed brought me back to my senses. You guys are right: We need to both be completely free. No kinda sorta dating situations.

To those of you saying, "Oh go for it!" thanks for a Sunday afternoon laugh.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Bump those uglies, honey. He could be your soulmate. You won't know unless you have sex. If you don't, for the rest of your life you'll wonder, What if . . .?

Please, please please tell me you're joking. Can't a person determine whether they're soulmates without muddying waters?

You are joking. Right?

Soulmates? Ugh. Y'all deserve 70 cents for every dollar a man makes. Your soulmate is possibly an impoverished Sri Lankan dude 10000 miles away. This guy is here. Your call.

OMG. LMBO!

I must say, at least no one was flat out nasty in this thread. Must be a first.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You think you can start a relationship with someone by having sex with them. No offensebut if he wanted to be with you, he would be with you. Know what I mean?

Yup! I know what you mean, but I'm sure you've gathered from my other responses that I've been the one to keep things in the friend zone. He's asked at each stage of our lives that it was possible for us to be together. Only now do I consider him as possibly more than a friend.

I don't have any good advice other than don't have sex with this guy without you both being free. For your immediate problem, I'm sure plenty of guys would be happy to help you out.

Thank YOU and thanks to all of the thoughtful, sobering responses that indeed brought me back to my senses. You guys are right: We need to both be completely free. No kinda sorta dating situations.

To those of you saying, "Oh go for it!" thanks for a Sunday afternoon laugh.

You're annoying.

[Anonymous]

Let him know you're interested. But wait to do anything until
He's figured stuff out with his gf

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You think you can start a relationship with someone by having sex with them. No offensebut if he wanted to be with you, he would be with you. Know what I mean?

Yup! I know what you mean, but I'm sure you've gathered from my other responses that I've been the one to keep things in the friend zone. He's asked at each stage of our lives that it was possible for us to be together. Only now do I consider him as possibly more than a friend.

I don't have any good advice other than don't have sex with this guy without you both being free. For your immediate problem, I'm sure plenty of guys would be happy to help you out.

Thank YOU and thanks to all of the thoughtful, sobering responses that indeed brought me back to my senses. You guys are right: We need to both be completely free. No kinda sorta dating situations.

To those of you saying, "Oh go for it!" thanks for a Sunday afternoon laugh.

You're annoying.

Thanks!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You think you can start a relationship with someone by having sex with them. No offensebut if he wanted to be with you, he would be with you. Know what I mean?

Yup! I know what you mean, but I'm sure you've gathered from my other responses that I've been the one to keep things in the friend zone. He's asked at each stage of our lives that it was possible for us to be together. Only now do I consider him as possibly more than a friend.

I don't have any good advice other than don't have sex with this guy without you both being free. For your immediate problem, I'm sure plenty of guys would be happy to help you out.

He's not married, therefore, he's free.

[Anonymous]

I was in a similar situation. Old friend from high school and college, always attracted to each other but never were single at the same time, although I never thought he was the one that got away. Then one day we're both divorced, living near to each other, hung out and caught up and flirted lightly. I was very ready for sex but hadn't met anyone new yet.

We made a plan to have dinner again. I showed up at his house in a low-cut top with a six-pack of beer. I smiled at him over dinner. That's all the seducing he needed.

If your guy wants you, that's all the seducing he'll need too.

Turns out he was terrible in bed, couldn't keep it up, and kind of an alcoholic. So we didn't end up being soulmates. We had sex a few times and got drunk and talked about old times and life, the universe, and everything, and remain good old friends to this day.

[Anonymous]

Btw, sex won't ruin a 20yr friendship. If you made it this far and it doesn't work out, as long as you are honest about it and can laugh it off, the friendship will survive.

Besides, you guys might get lonely and horny down the road and have a slip up for old times sake, where you can just blame it on the booze.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I was in a similar situation. Old friend from high school and college, always attracted to each other but never were single at the same time, although I never thought he was the one that got away. Then one day we're both divorced, living near to each other, hung out and caught up and flirted lightly. I was very ready for sex but hadn't met anyone new yet.

We made a plan to have dinner again. I showed up at his house in a low-cut top with a six-pack of beer. I smiled at him over dinner. That's all the seducing he needed.

If your guy wants you, that's all the seducing he'll need too.

Turns out he was terrible in bed, couldn't keep it up, and kind of an alcoholic. So we didn't end up being soulmates. We had sex a few times and got drunk and talked about old times and life, the universe, and everything, and remain good old friends to this day.

So, I am guessing he was an easy lay due to the booze? LOL

[Anonymous]

Haha I think there is a love connection here. Let us know how it goes.
"When Harry Met Sally"

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Let him know you're interested. But wait to do anything until
He's figured stuff out with his gf

This. You have been the one friend zoning him when he has been willing to risk rejection. If you are serious, be upfront with him both about your interest and that you don't want to be in the middle of his current relationship and that you know your timing sucks. But first you have to be honest with yourself, do you want to be in a relationship or just want a FWB? If it is FWB, look elsewhere right now. It isn't right to get a friend that expressed interest in dating you to break up with his significant other, for a FWB/no commitment, then see you move on to the next person.