Op, there's no getting out of this without being in pain. It's up to you to decide which kind of pain you want - the pain of no contact, or the pain of being in an affair. Those are the only options. |
I agree that she should blow it up again but it won't make her an asshole. It'll be good for the wife to know that this is what reconciliation looks like to her husband. |
Yup. The wife deserves to know what she is dealing with... |
Since you are now getting a divorce why not see him? who knows he might leave his wife - I'd go for it. |
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Tell his wife. Please. |
Block the number then you won't get the calls and he'll stop calling. Problem solved.
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Right. So unless you're okay with another affair tell him to get lost. I'm not going to join in the group who figure you deserve life long pain and suffering because you had an affair. Everyone needs to move on. Yes, I've been cheated on. I have absolutely no use for him whatsoever. He isn't worth spewing lifelong hatred on. |
Yes, you need to tell his wife. Not to blow anything up though.
I posted above. My ex is now living with HIV. Any person whose spouse can't figure out how to keep their pants on deserves the chance to protect themselves. |
Dogs always return to sniff their own mess. |
I hope your ex is getting custody of the kids op. Doesn't sound like you have time to give them any thought. |
I will never stop loving you. |
And maybe this will hurt his custody chances in his eventual divorce. Not that you give a crap. |
I don't understand why are you trying to cut this off. You are now divorced and apparently you still love him and maybe he loves you, too. You have nothing to lose. It's not upon you to save his marriage. |
You love him but you decided one day to completely blow up his whole life and nearly destroy his marriage? Sorry, you are a crazy bitch. I'm not judging you for the affair at all, just how you handled it.
He knows you are a crazy bitch who can't be trusted. He knows you could, and in fact have caused him a huge amount of grief with his wife who has stuck by him after your moment of selfish revelation. But, he's reaching out to you again? Honey, that isn't out of love. Only a man equally as crazy as you would love someone so malicious and untrustworthy. That's the little head doing all the thinking. Hey, if the sex was great and you want more, the go for it. |