AGREE. OP is also arrogant and shows no sense of remorse. A sociopath or psychopath, but I'm pretty certain sociopath because she feels so much self pity and LOVES the drama and chaos she has caused in so many lives - including children's lives. ![]() |
Yes, she is. And it takes a lot to shock me! |
What? You wives are deflecting the blame hardcore. This dude brought his kids around her, and possibly his wife, around a woman he had a separate romantic, long term relationship with. Then, he continued contacting her and professing his love for this woman. And SHE's despicable? She came clean, at least, and is no longer lying to her family. Imagine what he's doing to his wife mentally and emotionally right now. He's still putting her needs behind his wants and urges. OP has her own family to accept responsibility for. He is solely to blame at this point for any pain inflicted to his family. |
How in the world did his DW not know before you told her?? Especially if you traveled with her DH, spent time with their kids, etc. over a three year period?
How did she respond when you told her? |
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Do we really need to bring G-D and scripture into DCUM? For those who do not believe and think like you this is a bit much. |
OP here, you will have to ask his wife that. I don't know. All I know is that we continously text each other non stop from 6am in the morning to 10 pm at night all day every single day for 3 years. I won't make anything up on an anonymous board. We would wake up in the middle of the night and text each other kissy faces. My husband didn't suspect because he had already checked out of our marriage himself, he didn't care that I was always on my phone. When I told her, she seemed calm, we only had one conversation over the phone, that was it. |
She probably thought you were a huge bitch for contacting her. She was happy in her own world and happy with her situation with her husband - i.e. they are still together. |
OP again, however messy the whole situation is, I loved/love the man, I will say that. Many many poor choices/actions along the way but I felt something deep in my gut for that man. We fought, we hurt each other endlessly/needlessly, hurt so many others in the process but I would still pick him over any other guy in the world. It doesn't make any sense but it is what it is. |
riiiight? |
She's a dumb ass if she'd be happily married to a man who would carry on like that... At least twice. |
You involved your children? Ugh. OP... why? |
You can't spare yourself the pain. |
You cannot love a man who is married and you are married too. You might love the idea of him - you are delusional. |
This is a Jammu a serious question. There have been many affair posts that talk about introducing APs to children and I'm curious how/why it gets to that point, from the affair partners' perspectives. Weren't your afraid your children would out you? |