Anonymous wrote:If this happened to me I would be looking at the guy like:




You invite me on a date and then cheap out even though I'm clearly starving?

Anonymous wrote:
She must not have liked the guy if she is going to dump him over not getting a free dinner. She sounds like a bit of a princess. High maintenance.

Anonymous wrote:I understand why she didn't order an app- she didn't want to be presumptuous. Even though she would've been willing to pay for it, he wouldn't have known that and would be telling his friend about the woman who tried to stick him for some food when he only wanted to pay for drinks.

I wouldn't see this guy again either, and I'm also in the camp of women who wouldn't consider a romantic relationship with a guy who split the bill on the first date.

Anonymous wrote:I'm another woman who thinks if she was hungry she should have ordered food. If I was invited to go out for drinks at 7:30, I'd either eat before I showed up or say "Hey, I'm really hungry, I'm going to order some food."

Anonymous wrote:Very interesting thread. I've been out of the game forever but still seems the guy is expected to foot the bill. I know a few posters qualified with "if he asked her out." How common is it for the woman to do the asking?

Anonymous wrote:
I would assume it is dinner included. Who eats before going out?

Anonymous wrote:
I further don't understand the women that won't give a guy a second date because they split the bill the first time. Let's focus on priorities here, ladies.

Anonymous wrote:
OMG.... women want "equal treatment" which would mean splitting the bill. This shows that you are an "equal partner" but then you also want to have everything paid for.... doors opened.... etc. The men are left to intuit when you want us to be chivalrous vs. "modern." You need to understand that on a first date the current trend is NOT to force the girl into a long dinner (as other posters have said) and keep it short with no pressure.

Anonymous wrote:Huh? If I were hungry I would just order food. If the guy offered to pay for it, fine. If not, I would be happy to just pay for it myself. I'm not going to sit there hungry.

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Anonymous wrote:Huh? If I were hungry I would just order food. If the guy offered to pay for it, fine. If not, I would be happy to just pay for it myself. I'm not going to sit there hungry.

Me too. It's a date, not a job interview. Relax and have fun.

Anonymous wrote:Please don't flame me, but I think there might be an age gap in the "right" answer here. I'm 42. And while I don't expect a man to buy me dinner on a blind date to prove his worth to me, I also have enough confidence in myself/boldness that after 15-20 min of chatting, if I were starving, I would have said "hey lets, order an app, I'm starving" and if he had objected, I would have politely excused myself to go eat by myself. But anyway, I really wanted to say to the OP.... if your friend is 32ish or under... I will tell you it's a very different world. I hear this all the time from my younger co-workers, both male and female. They do coffee only and drinks only as the normal first date protocol. Nobody wants to invest more time than necessary to see if there's anything clicking. If there's chemistry. It doesn't mean your date is cheap. Or uninterested. It's just what they do. And you commit to the drinks only thing upfront. Second date, if there is one, is more of a time investment. It's what the kids are doing now. You might not like it. You might not do it if you were out in the dating world. But it doesn't mean this guy was cheap or didn't like her.

Anonymous wrote:I'm another woman who thinks if she was hungry she should have ordered food. If I was invited to go out for drinks at 7:30, I'd either eat before I showed up or say "Hey, I'm really hungry, I'm going to order some food."