Normal to do just drinks for 1st date?

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Not to be a bitch but I would cancel on someone who did that. It's kind of a weasely, passive aggressive way of doing it. Red flag.

PP weasel - not for nothing but there's a reason you're still single. Ha. I'd never meet you at the bar at 8:30 if that's your opener. Thankfully, I've been happily married for 15yrs to a man who paid for EVERYtHiNG for our firmest two years of dating. Guess what, 15yrs in he still treats me well. I work and make a good amount of money myself, but it's nice to have a DH who treats me well.

We get it. You're a woman who likes to be "taken care of." So you contributed nothing to your relationship in your first two years of dating and I'm certain you contribute little in your marriage.

I'd pound you, then I'd tell you to not let the door hit you on the way out without even giving you cab fare for your ride home.



LMAO? Oh really? Where- in your dreams?

Sorry bro. If you didn't read the text, she's saying that you wouldn't even get the chance to go on the date with her, let alone "pound her". (Though you do make it sound so tempting, I'm quite sure you must be good in bed )

Oops, did my little dose of reality interfere with your fanfiction? By all means, carry on with your fantasies. I'm sure that's the only sexual activity you can get anyway

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Anonymous wrote:My newly separated friend went on a date with a guy at 7:30pm. They met at the bar of a restaurant. Both my friend and her date were obviously hungry as they finished all the bread on the table. Date did not offer any food. Friend went home starving. It's been a while since I've been married for 10 years but most of my dates were for dinner or we'd meet up at a bar/club but it was after dinner time and usually with other people.

Is this guy just not into my friend? Cheap? Poor? Or is this normal to have just drinks?

I think it is fine to go out for drinks but if you meet at 7:30 and clearly both people are hungry, shouldn't you just order food?

Tell your newly separated friend she can order the god damn food if she's hungry. Nothing is stopping her from doing this, other than the preconceived notion that women entitled to a dating gravy train where men pay for everything.

This is why I say to women when setting up dates:

ME: What time are you eating dinner?
HER: Uh, 7 pm?
ME: Great! See you at the bar at 8:30!

Not to be a bitch but I would cancel on someone who did that. It's kind of a weasely, passive aggressive way of doing it. Red flag.

+1. Sounds soooooo awkward! Like you are socially inept, maybe Aspergerish.

Agree, it sounds very off and I can't imagine it coming across well to anyone.

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+1. Sounds soooooo awkward! Like you are socially inept, maybe Aspergerish.

Yeah, new poster here, and this thread is so dumb that I can't believe I am commenting on it. But I wanted to express my disappointment at this trend lately on DCUM to casually throw around these pseudo-diagnoses of Aspergers or ASD, like it's appropriate to use as some kind of casual insult, and often "diagnosed" in response to a two-line post on an anonymous forum. I am not SN and neither are my kids, but many people are, and I find this offensive. Frankly you come across as very immature when you write stuff like this. Do you even have kids? I can't believe a parent would write this although I guess this is the internet and it takes all kinds. This is primarily a parenting website BTW, and although all are welcome you should keep that readership in mind when you post. And when you do have kids, yours or your friends' kids may have these issues to deal with and you may not find it so amusing.

+200. I wasnt going to comment either. But your post is so mature and wise I had to say something. Thsnks for being a voice of reason!

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woman here. I would've ordered dinner or an app honestly and not minded paying for it. Agreed, many first dates can get $$$ for men. I think that wouldn't be a big deal. Moving on, it could be.