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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Please don't flame me, but I think there might be an age gap in the "right" answer here. I'm 42. And while I don't expect a man to buy me dinner on a blind date to prove his worth to me, I also have enough confidence in myself/boldness that after 15-20 min of chatting, if I were starving, I would have said "hey lets, order an app, I'm starving" and if he had objected, I would have politely excused myself to go eat by myself.  But anyway, I really wanted to say to the OP.... if your friend is 32ish or under... I will tell you it's a very different world.  I hear this all the time from my younger co-workers, both male and female. They do coffee only and drinks only as the normal first date protocol. Nobody wants to invest more time than necessary to see if there's anything clicking. If there's chemistry.  It doesn't mean your date is cheap. Or uninterested. It's just what they do. And you commit to the drinks only thing upfront. Second date, if there is one, is more of a time investment.  It's what the kids are doing now. You might not like it. You might not do it if you were out in the dating world. But it doesn't mean this guy was cheap or didn't like her.[/quote]

I'm 50 and I totally get the whole drinks/coffee thing and would not expect a meal.  I've been with my husband for over 20 years but I dated A LOT back in the day.  This is not that new![/quote]

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