Anonymous wrote:If you were to date a cisgender woman who wanted biological children, would you consider stopping HRT long enough to get her pregnant?

Anonymous wrote:How do your children cope with your transition?

Gaia wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you were to date a cisgender woman who wanted biological children, would you consider stopping HRT long enough to get her pregnant?

MtF HRT makes you sterile while you are on them, and doctors are not sure if that sterility would continue after stopping them. I would be very unlikely to stop the hormones just for that chance. I'd be open to her having biological children through sperm donation! I thought about storing my sperm before I started HRT, but that was an expense I could not afford.

Anonymous wrote:How old were your children when you transitioned? Do they see you as a second mother or as their father?

I apologize if the questions are offensive, but I am curious.

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Anonymous wrote:How was the response at your work - assuming you were a male when hired and are still at the same place since you officially transitioned? (You may not be)

I moved after I started transitioning, just to give myself a completely fresh start. My current job has only known me as a woman. Somebody I thought was a friend outed me to my boss, but my boss does not mind. I haven't told any coworkers.

Anonymous wrote:Hi OP. I'm the poster from your previous thread who has a Wiccan family member and posted a few times clarifying things based on my experience. I thought your other thread was great and hope this one stays similarly respectful. I am a grad student and recently wrote a paper on providing culturally competent therapy to transgender people that also involved a number of interviews with trans* friends and friends of friends. At this point, I am basically a straight married ciswoman, but earlier in life, I had girlfriends, some of whom were DMAB, so I'm familiar with being the partner of someone who is beginning HRT or considering surgery.

I don't have many questions, but here's one:

What is your relationship with your ex-wife like now? How did your father react to you coming out to him? Was your mother still alive at that time?

To what extent you are a trans* activist? Does your professional situation involve gender identity? Are you active politically? Do you participate in trans* focused social activities?

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Gaia wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How was the response at your work - assuming you were a male when hired and are still at the same place since you officially transitioned? (You may not be)

I moved after I started transitioning, just to give myself a completely fresh start. My current job has only known me as a woman. Somebody I thought was a friend outed me to my boss, but my boss does not mind. I haven't told any coworkers.

(new poster). I don't know why this annoys me or if it's wrong that it does (I feel guilty about it so assume it is wrong), but I hate seeing transgendered women (male to female) and cross dressers. I was born female, am straight and present as female. The transgendered women and those who crossdress in women's clothes NEVER look like any women I know. They always have fake manicured nails, heavily makeup'd faces, very frilly dresses, heels, etc. Why don't I ever see a transgendered woman wearing just jeans and a t-shirt like I wear every day? I can always spot a trans woman, without needing to be told. Do you think people really can't tell? Or am I just good at this?

Anonymous wrote:How old are you now and how old were you when you started transitioning?

I ask because of Caitlyn Jenner, how terrible to live 65 years unhappy!

Gaia wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Hi OP. I'm the poster from your previous thread who has a Wiccan family member and posted a few times clarifying things based on my experience. I thought your other thread was great and hope this one stays similarly respectful. I am a grad student and recently wrote a paper on providing culturally competent therapy to transgender people that also involved a number of interviews with trans* friends and friends of friends. At this point, I am basically a straight married ciswoman, but earlier in life, I had girlfriends, some of whom were DMAB, so I'm familiar with being the partner of someone who is beginning HRT or considering surgery.

I don't have many questions, but here's one:

What is your relationship with your ex-wife like now? How did your father react to you coming out to him? Was your mother still alive at that time?

To what extent you are a trans* activist? Does your professional situation involve gender identity? Are you active politically? Do you participate in trans* focused social activities?

Hi! I'm glad you've stopped by. I appreciated and enjoyed your input on my other AMA.

My relationship with my ex is...strained. Our entire relationship was intense and tumultuous. She's supportive of my transition and is okay with me continuing to be a parent to our children, but she wants nothing to do with me.

My mother never knew. I regret that she will never know the true me, but I'm confident that she would love me. My father was originally opposed to my religion when I was a teenager, but knew that if was too vocal about it he would lose me, and because I am his only family left he learned to accept my faith. The same thing happened when I came out to him as being transgender; he wasn't happy, but accepted it just so he could stay in my life.

My career does not have to do with gender identity. I'm somewhat politically active, in that I vote and try to stay informed. I go to trans rallies and some meetups, but I'm very shy and introverted so most of my connections with other Wiccans and other trans people are online.

Anonymous wrote:

Gaia wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How was the response at your work - assuming you were a male when hired and are still at the same place since you officially transitioned? (You may not be)

I moved after I started transitioning, just to give myself a completely fresh start. My current job has only known me as a woman. Somebody I thought was a friend outed me to my boss, but my boss does not mind. I haven't told any coworkers.

(new poster). I don't know why this annoys me or if it's wrong that it does (I feel guilty about it so assume it is wrong), but I hate seeing transgendered women (male to female) and cross dressers. I was born female, am straight and present as female. The transgendered women and those who crossdress in women's clothes NEVER look like any women I know. They always have fake manicured nails, heavily makeup'd faces, very frilly dresses, heels, etc. Why don't I ever see a transgendered woman wearing just jeans and a t-shirt like I wear every day? I can always spot a trans woman, without needing to be told. Do you think people really can't tell? Or am I just good at this?

Anonymous wrote:Love you OP for your openness and your grace in handling these questions. Thanks!

To me, it seems like there are more transgender children and teens now than there were when I was growing up. Do you think that's true or just that there's more awareness and acceptance now? If you think there has been a true increase, do you have a theory as to why?

It's on my list of things to start explaining to my kids so that they understand and accept it in their peers.