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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Gaia][quote=Anonymous]Hi OP. I'm the poster from your previous thread who has a Wiccan family member and posted a few times clarifying things based on my experience. I thought your other thread was great and hope this one stays similarly respectful. I am a grad student and recently wrote a paper on providing culturally competent therapy to transgender people that also involved a number of interviews with trans* friends and friends of friends. At this point, I am basically a straight married ciswoman, but earlier in life, I had girlfriends, some of whom were DMAB, so I'm familiar with being the partner of someone who is beginning HRT or considering surgery.

I don't have many questions, but here's one:

What is your relationship with your ex-wife like now? How did your father react to you coming out to him? Was your mother still alive at that time?

To what extent you are a trans* activist? Does your professional situation involve gender identity? Are you active politically? Do you participate in trans* focused social activities? [/quote]

Hi! I'm glad you've stopped by. I appreciated and enjoyed your input on my other AMA.

My relationship with my ex is...strained. Our entire relationship was intense and tumultuous. She's supportive of my transition and is okay with me continuing to be a parent to our children, but she wants nothing to do with me.

My mother never knew. I regret that she will never know the true me, but I'm confident that she would love me. My father was originally opposed to my religion when I was a teenager, but knew that if was too vocal about it he would lose me, and because I am his only family left he learned to accept my faith. The same thing happened when I came out to him as being transgender; he wasn't happy, but accepted it just so he could stay in my life.

My career does not have to do with gender identity. I'm somewhat politically active, in that I vote and try to stay informed. I go to trans rallies and some meetups, but I'm very shy and introverted so most of my connections with other Wiccans and other trans people are online.[/quote]

I was glad to see you start another thread. I suspect we would get along well IRL.

Follow up question - have you experienced discrimination or harassment at work because of your gender identity? I ask because a dear friend of mine recently just put his transition on hold because of problems at work. His workplace is actually VERY support of trans* rights, but he works in a rape crisis center in a direct services capacity and it was determined by senior staff that having a counselor who presented as male would be too traumatic for many of their clients. They are happy that he is on staff, knowing as you and I both do the stats related to sexual assaults on transgender people, but he was basically told that he could switch to an admin role or stay "female" in direct services. It is a complicated sad situation that there is really no solution to. His plan is to stay at the agency for another year or so and then find a new job, start as male and avoid the problem, which it sounds like you have mostly done.[/quote]

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