So are we to never have a husband-wife trip without kids for another 14 years?
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Anonymous
| You hire a nanny or a babysitter, dumb*ss. |
Anonymous
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OP to answer your question - No.
There will be no kid free vacations or trips away without your kids. Afterall, that’s what you and your spouse signed up for when you both opted in to become parents. Otherwise, you will be judged and harshly. Stay Strong. |
Anonymous
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My husband and I are first generation immigrants. Our kid is born and raise here, 13 yo. No we almost never take vacations without him. We have no immediate family nearby.
There were couple time we took trip without our kid such as when kid is in our home country for a few weeks with grandparents. I don’t think we will be leaving our kid home alone until he s in college |
Anonymous
It would help if you could read. Posters said no one ever not one time did this in prior generations. So multiple people posted to say, actually, that's not true. Then the responses are the classic, anecdotes don't equal data, yeah well you were rich, etc. Whatever. The point is the prior poster is wrong, some people in various generations have probably always done this. Like it or don't, but you can stop trying to dismiss the fact that the prior statement was factually incorrect. |
Anonymous
| My parents twice went to Europe and left us with mid 70s grandparents. Both times when we were in elementary. This same set of parents, five years younger than my own grandparents were, now balks at even one weekend watching my elementary age kids. "Remember when grandpa watched us?" "He was healthy and had a lot of energy." |
eastcoastmom
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-Many years when we could not figure out logistics we did 1-2 night hotel staycations which were wonderful. Have a leisurely dinner, watch a show, luxury hotel but close enough that there was no stress if issue came up.
-as kids got older, we did a few 4 night trips (not every year, maybe once every 2-3 years). We always had a babysitter come who knew the kids schedule and would do all meals, drive to activities, and do dinner and bath. This made it much more manageable but was expensive so didn't do it often. -elementary school years we would go once a year to a place with a great kids club in the Caribbean. We would often coordinate this trip with another family so all the kids knew each other. Every afternoon we would have some solo time which was great. -We had 2 summers when kids were teens that they were both away at the same time for sleepaway camps and programs and we took advantage of that. -Now we have one in high school and one entering college and I miss having us all together given their busy schedules. I will also say that there was a period in our marriage with a lot of work travel when we really stopped prioritizing date nights, even short get aways, etc. and our marriage really suffered for it. Looking back it is something I would budget and plan for. It doesn't have to be a big trip but make your relationship a priority. |
Anonymous
"No one" wasn't literal. It was more like 95% of the population did not do this. We get it--you are rich. But your experience is not the norm. That was the point I was trying to make. |
Anonymous
IF and logistics/funds arent always the same answer. Yes, I would leave my kids for a weekend if I had 1500 extra on top of the planned vacation cost with a person, I trusted who I felt could handle my 15mo old and her severe allergies who is enrolled in OIT and could have anaphylaxis with her daily dose. And if I left them with a nurse for that level of care, I can't imagine the cost. see logistics/funds. |