I'm due in October, don't know with a boy or a girl, but this issue worries me a lot.
I'm overweight, had tremendous success on Weight Watchers and it really did help me tune my (very overweight) mother out. I'll post that we went to Shake Shack and how great it was..."did you need that?" is how she responds. Does it matter? I don't eat it every day. It was easy to shut her down while I was on WW because I was kicking butt on it - lost almost 75lbs, looked and felt fabulous. I've gained a lot back since starting IVF and becoming pregnant - I gain fast if I don't work out a lot hard all the time.
I want to show my potential future daughter that what we value is a love of activity and food for nourishment - I love to cook and love food, so hope to keep my kid (whichever sex I end up with) involved in cooking and all that. Take them to farmers markets.
But if anyone has any book recommendations on how to keep your food/weight issues off your daughter, I'd love to know. I know my mom's issues stem from her mother, and I know I'm fat partly because of my own mother's issues. I started WW saying, "I want it to end with me" but it's not always that easy.
and OP, if I gained 8lbs, I'd be THRILLED and would be shouting it from the roof tops! Now I just don't look at the scale