Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
ThatSmileyFaceGuy wrote:
Before the others start, I do not think that a dream that he told you about is a manifestation of guilt on his part of having an affair himself. if it was, he would not have told you about it.
Ha! This was my first thought. Well anyway, it sounds like you might need to revisit the relationship strengthening and communication/honesty. Have you asked him about his
lack of interest in sex?
Its not a "lack of interest issue", its a "performance issue". He is not refusing me or avoiding me, its just that when he starts he cannot finish (lose erection) or he finishes way too early.
We all go through stages when it doesn't work like we want it to. It could be a hair trigger or losing the errection. Then the next time it's all we think about, which sometimes causes it to happen again. This can turn into a vicious cycle that can take some time to recover from.
First take a look at his life, in my original post I mentioned the possibility of undue stress which can cause this as well as lifestyle choices like alcohol, smoking, or lack of exercise.
If this isn't it then before you go to the doctor - because who really wants to tell the guy you see for the common cold that your willy isn't doing his job - try activities where penetration and (his) orgasm is not the final act. Long make-out sessions, mutual masterbation, and a good bitor oral thrown in. When he gets close to orgasm stop whatever you are doing until he calms down and then restart, continue until he can't control himself any longer.
Finally, he might need to see the doctor, medications he is taking might cause the lost errection. Plus the doctor has other options as well.