Anonymous wrote:Holy crap that Perry Cabin place is expensive. Any nice options that are a bit more affordable?

yeah, it really is. But I'm justifying it in that we never had a honeymoon or real vacation with just the two of us ever (including dating). It's always involved friends or visiting relatives.

Annapolis is probably less expensive because there are so many more hotel options. And the USNA is not "in session" so fewer parents coming to town and all that, maybe? There are also good deals in Baltimore (I personally love Baltimore, tons of good restaurants)

that's two people saying Perry Cabin is as great as the web site looks....that makes me feel good!

we thought about Rehoboth, but it seems like it might be too busy for a get away, but with slightly better stuff to do away from a hotel (food, more shops)

Anonymous wrote:Um sounds like you have PLENTY of time to think about this one.

Yes, we do...except that we both have jobs that require significant advanced notice for putting in for leave (as well as wanting to make sure we budget appropriately).

I guess I could NOT plan and then risk have my leave request not go through. Sounds smart.

We're coming (sloooowly!) to the end of the 1st tri, and my husband and I are trying to nail down where we want to babymoon and when. I'm due late October. I figured late July/early Aug would be best in terms of my ability to move around yet still be able to comfortably relax (or am I fooling myself?).

We were considering the Inn at Perry Cabin in St Michaels. Has anyone been? They have a babymoon package and their prenatal massage sounds amazing. Would love to hear if anyone has been there.

If anyone has any local recommendations, I'd appreciate it. We want to make sure we budget in advance. We're willing to go 90 minutes-2 hours away (not including traffic). We never had a honeymoon and haven't really had vacations besides two long weekends (chicago and vegas...we'd go back to vegas in an instant, but being that pregnant on a long flight AND surrounded by all the second hand smoke in vegas sounds horrible unfortunately). Seeing as how we have never really had a vacation together, we're willing to spend a little more than a normal weekend getaway to enjoy our last chance to do this for a while and have a relaxing time. We aren't very romantic, so B&Bs with no TVs and nothing to do besides snuggle aren't our thing.

thanks in advance!

Anonymous wrote:Wow. What do they say? I am sort of waiting for this. My colleagues are wonderful but nosy -- very small office and most people have worked there many years and know each other well. I am the youngest and one of the newest. Some of the older women like to drop by and ask me, loudly and unsubtly, when I plan to have kids. Now that I actually am pregnant (but in the very early weeks), I am just waiting for one to suddenly notice that that time has arrived and proclaim it in a loud voice. They mean well ...

well on the one end, there's the old lady who always says things like "when are you gonna be a mom?". Which was great when I was in the middle of an IVF cycle. Like you, I'm the youngest and newest in here (civilians, we get new military all the time but they're all male).

The guys do things like comment on women's looks. We had a pregnant coworker upstairs and one guys who was away for a while goes, "Wow, ____ got fat!" me: "she's not fat, she's like 7 1/2 months pregnant" "oh. Well, she's still really big". They generally say very sexist and inappropriate things. Even about their own wives (one guy is like, "I married a younger woman so she could give me a lot of kids" nevermind that the pregnancy they're in now is very difficult and closely monitored).

So it's all very uncomfortable. I complained to HR a few years ago, but nothing happened. Apparently I was just being a silly woman! lol. And yes, I'm looking for a new job but it's not easy when you're pregnant and have so much leave socked away for just this purpose.

Ok, sorry to hijack!

I sort of disagree - it's very office specific. My office - all men but two, military, VERY misogynistic. Nothing is subtle here. They definitely care, definitely notice, and say inappropriate things. I think if you aren't ready to be "out" you do what you can to make yourself feel comfortable physically and mentally. I'm definitely not ready for them to know, so hopefully they just think I'm fatter!
If your office is a great, supportive environment, I'm sure it's different! So I understand where OP is coming from. If/when she's ready, she'll figure it out. Until then, hopefully the clothes recommended help!

I'm not even sure I'm going to tell my office at all. I figure just let them keep talking behind my back.

I got a negative hpt 6dp5dt and was devistated. 8dp5dt a frer was positive. So was a digital. I will be 10 weeks tomorrow.

To me, I wish I would have waited because the emotions of seeing that first negative were really hard. Wait an extra day or two, that's my opinion. It's hard, but the possibility of inaccurate results would be hard for me.

I agree that you need to talk to your OB and maybe a therapist during this time (if you arent already) so you can talk through this process and learn skills to deal with it and not transfer an eating disorder to your child. That said, you are brave for recognizing your issues during this fragile time.

PPs have had lots of advice. I personally can't stomach most chicken, but for protein, I find scrambled eggs are fast and easy to make me feel better. I really like the Arnold protein enriched bread with peanut butter. And sometimes, I craaaave something and jut go with it. Bagels? Yes please!

I have the opposite issue (heavy all my life, lost a lot, and gained a bunch during ivf). It's hard to handle your personal issues when a pregnancy often requires the opposite of what you've trained yourself to do. But you can do it because your baby needs you to do it. I hope you will see how your body thrives when fed well, and you love it more than ever during and after your pregnancy. Good luck!

I just got a black belly band, I don't think you have to cover up - just going for the "layered" look.

Also, maybe look for some wrap tops. They can be very "slimming" and bring your eye to the wrap area.

And when in doubt, v-necks....so people look up (or at your boobs!) and not at your middle.

Try shopping places you normally don't - Chicos, which is cut a little more generous (cuz it's for old ladies) sometimes has great stuff. And also, peplums are still in, which could be a helpful option. Fitted blazers will draw the eye to your waist, not tummy.

Congrats!!!

It rarely took more than 20 minutes from start to finish, but towards the end the ultrasound takes a bit longer because there's more to measure. I never waited 45-60 minutes for monitoring at GW. I tended to arrive around 7:30 and was usually early for work (I report at 8:30) whenever I had monitoring.

I'm now 9 1/2 weeks pregnant from GW.

Nothing to report here...just terrible waiting for my next appointment (NT scan, then a week after that, OB). Two weeks to go. It's SO awful.
I'm trying to be really good about food choices and as of this coming Friday, I'll be 10 weeks and can work out (though, I'll be reducing my progesterone/estrogen vs just stopping until my current RX is out...my choice). I'm going to TRY to take step class next Monday and see how I do after so many months away.
hope everyone is doing great - this coming Monday the weather is predicted to be beautiful! 70 degrees!

BabyBump is a good app (not The Bump), there's a "journal" section and it has weight/belly inches.

I'm avoiding that part of the app, though

Anonymous wrote:If your DH works for DoD, the military has numerous daycare centers throughout the country and world. We've had an excellent experience at the military daycares and those are significantly cheaper and charge according to a sliding scale based on your income. Private daycare centers contracted by GSA for various federal gov't agencies are quite expensive. In fact, I found some of them a lot more expensive than the ones at non-federal offices. However, for many people, it's a huge convenience to have your children in daycare close or at your work location.

You won't have priority at a military base day care unless one spouse is active duty military.
I'm a DOD civilian, husband is a reservist, and we have basically no priority there and the list is long.

DHS, where my husband works, has no day care priority. Neither do DOD civilians.

so, you have to go to the back of line like everyone else or find a private day are for $2k a month. It's just awesome! lol

I waited until it was on QVC for the demo - they have the best prices, and during the demo on Friday they had free shipping....so, I saved about $11 on that.
Costco has them, too.
Bed Bath does but I've heard mixed info on them taking the 20% off coupon for them, so I just went with QVC, esp because of their own guarantee outside of the Vitamix one.

I worry about this all the time, too - I'm about 9 1/2 weeks, but IVF patient and worry ALL the time about the emotional/physical/financial stress to get where we are and whether it will actually work out.

The WORST is waiting for my next appointment - still over 3 weeks away. I HATE it. We'll be 12 1/2 weeks at the next one, but its still no comfort to me (my DH wants to tell our relatives that following weekend, 13 weeks).

I try to say we've had great ultrasounds so far and I have nothing to worry about - no cramping, no bleeding, I still feel like crap/exhausted. But in the end, that really doesn't mean anything. You just have to know you aren't alone with these feelings, and odds are in your favor at this point (if it's any consolation!).

Good luck - you can do it.