I didn't know if it was common practice to not tell. There are no other women here beyond my boss, no one has had a baby (people's wives have, but an overwhelming majority do not have working wives) so I didn't know if me thinking "I really don't want to deal with telling my office" was an OK thing to do.

Looks like it is commonplace, so I appreciate the insight from PPs.

It can be, but I think it's probably more beneficial if you were on it before. Additionally, if the OP has never done it before, it won't track your nutrients or calories.

Just be sure to select breastfeeding or else you'll be eating too little.

yeah, these folks do not come from a culture like 13:19. In fact, one coworker this morning said nothing is wrong with Congressman Young using the word "wetback". So yeah, I work with a bunch of d-bags.

But thanks, all - I was wondering if me not wanting to tell anyone was super anti-social (I couldn't think of a better term), but if it's common then I'm comfortable doing that. They'll just make comments behind my back instead of to my face

Do you PPs work in large or small offices? I work with 10 people.
Did you get any "attitude" for not saying anything?

I realize most people (thankfully!) do not work in the type of environment I do.

Did any of you not tell your coworkers you were pregnant and just let them figure it out on their own?

I've told my boss, who is very supportive (because I needed flexibility during IVF). However, I work with all men - and not just men, mostly obnoxious and misogynistic men who call female colleagues "gal" and make comments about how women look all the time. My boss works in her own office so never hears any of this stuff. They're a gool ol' boys club.

I know I don't have to tell them, but for those who didn't tell them, how did your time at work go? Do you wish you had told them?

I have a couple of weeks before it'll be more obvious so I am trying to psych myself up if it is better to tell them.

You won't be able to do Weight Watchers maintenance unless you met your goal.

you CAN do weight watchers under 'breast feeding', but if you aren't overweight, I wouldn't recommend it especially without meetings.

I like MyFitnessPal (but, I'm a WWer and decided not to use it during pregnancy because I found it stressful).

Both MFP and sparkpeople have recipe builders and mobile apps

I have no problem calling it a babymoon because I never had a honeymoon. And frankly who cares what it's called? I don't believe it's "baby industry consumerism". I won't be having a babyshower (nor did I have a bridal shower or party). There's an industry around everything, an advantage to planning early is avoiding rip offs.

And sure, regardless of baby coming we could use a trip....But, when you have other financial needs (IVF was ours), it's difficult to rationalize planning a vacation when you might need more than one cycle and those costs add up. And 11:08 specifically called out my thread. I'm not pregnant enough to plan a vacation?

Many people here seem to suffer from "I did this, look how easy it was". Everyone is different. Everyone has different circumstances. My 2-week European honeymoon / post-latest deployment vacation got spent on IVF. My situation isn't normal, but it also isn't that rare on these boards.

So, I apologize if clicking on my thread annoyed people.

Anonymous wrote:11:08 - couldn't agree with you more! Absolutely cringe at the word. I can't believe the whole baby moon thread has gotten so long, especially since it was started by a person who is not even out of their first trimester!!!!!!

I'm sorry I offended you with my 10 1/2 week pregnant self and desire to ensure I'm allowed to take time off work and that my DH's military duty doesn't conflict with the days I'm allowed off in order to us to finally take a vacation, just the two of us, after years of family/friend obligations, wars, and inability to afford being away just the two of us.

Because of that post, I found a site more suited to our interest/price point than where I originally had looked at, so it was very helpful. Especially since many places book up in the high season (same goes for Europe, folks).

Not all of us have unlimited resources to include time off or bosses/jobs that allow us flexibility in time off - if you have such a luxury, you are very fortunate but should understand that many of us do not.

NYC would be great - but my sister lives there, and I'm already planning to visit her (with or withou DH) before baby arrives so I can go eat my face off at Smorgasburg

We've decided on Bedford Springs (thanks for the rec, PP!). It's less expensive than Perry Cabin, so we can go for a day longer and I'll feel less uncomfortable about the cost (I'm a very frugal person, so spending that much on a couple of days freaks me out!).

We're planning on July or early August. The spa looks great, so I'm excited to splurge on that. There's also more activities such as cooking classes, guided hikes, and large grounds to explore. Or just sleep. Whichever!

Anonymous wrote:Bedford Springs is a longer drive but what I like about it is that it has an indoor pool, so if it's hot outside you can swim. They also have a spa, you probably can't use the sauna and stuff but you could get a nice massage. Everything is all there restaurants and such so if you were feeling tired you could really just stay there all weekend.

Thank you! This actually looks more reasonable.

Did you use the spa? We're there a lot of kids in the pool areas?

I actually don't drink with any regularity. However, people would always say snide things, so I said I was on Weight Watchers and alcohol was lot of points and I'd rather eat the delicious food than drink my points.

Worked every time. (Because I was on WW but still)

Commissary or Matchbox

I think more should become generous benefactors for another person's trip to Europe or Bora Bora.

But Poppy - based on people who replied that they've been to Perry Cabin and it really was as good as it looked, I've made the executive decision that that's where we'll go I appreciate the feedback from those who have been there (or commented about a trip being worthwhile)

I think we're going to do it! I talked to a reservations rep there and got the info on prices. She said that unless we wanted everything in the babymoon package, it wasn't worth going that route and instead picking a larger room with a lovely soaking tub in the "spa" package (comes with a spa credit and breakfast credit). My husband won't really care if he gets a massage, and it'll be hard for us to spend $130 on dinner since we're vegetarians (not eating crabs yet going to St Michael's is stupid according to my mom). So we'll have to investigate further (do I really need a detox smoothing and pregancy magazines? I can bring my ipad and sit in the soaking tub!)

We're currently trying to decide between two and three nights. It depends on my DH's leave availability.

well, we can't drive to Europe - our "honeymoon" idea was 2 weeks in Europe (I lived in Denmark and traveled extensively, so wanted to share my second home with my DH). But we can't afford it, nor do we have the vacation days for that. My "vacation days" = my maternity leave so we're trying to plan it around my furlough so I can at least not use leave. Savannah is also a long drive.

I can't go hiking in Italy, or to London given the expense. So I'm sort of relegated to the Northeast. I've thought about western mass (as it's beautiful), but my SIL lives there and I don't want to visit family. That's not a vacation!