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I remember the day of my graduation my mom had to hold back slapping me in the face. I was so disrespectful and self centered. I wish I could apologize for my attitude. I think this is why community service is so important in those late teen years. I think teen entitlement also fuels depression because when the kids meet other people in college with different values, they suddenly realize that their behavior is unacceptable at home and in the "real world".
I really enjoyed reading this post. Yes, men like women they have to work for. I learned this the hard way and the easy way. But the key is matching up with a man who truly gets a little thrill/kink/excitement from meeting a woman's impossible demands.
I have met many men like this. I am not a WASP. I am petite/short and curves in the right places. I smile ALOT. I have had many men take me on trips to exotic locations, show up with big items and offer me things that I can't provide for myself.
I took some of them up on the offers. I failed in a major way by falling for someone who didn't spoil me like he should and I regret giving him a chance.
We should celebrate women who are in happy relationships. Their men also take honor in adoration and showering of the things a woman desires. I am so happy to read about happy healthy relationships and spoiled wives. You deserve it!
I detect a little DC hate. Many women in the DC area are more brains over beauty. So there is a thread of resentment if a beautiful woman can secure an awesome life without spending 20 years in school and slogging her life away in front of a laptop for money.
I hope to find another man who spoils me like my previous lovers. It feels amazing to know someone cares about your well being on every level. It can happen at all income levels. But you must match with a man who truly values spending on his woman. My last spoiler was so easy. I gave him a financial gift for his graduation and he said, "You know I am just going to turn around and spend this on you". I knew immediately that he was the right man for me. I have tested other men and knew that maybe they were givers but they didn't want to give to me. I left those relationships immediately.
I have met many men like this. I am not a WASP. I am petite/short and curves in the right places. I smile ALOT. I have had many men take me on trips to exotic locations, show up with big items and offer me things that I can't provide for myself.
I took some of them up on the offers. I failed in a major way by falling for someone who didn't spoil me like he should and I regret giving him a chance.
We should celebrate women who are in happy relationships. Their men also take honor in adoration and showering of the things a woman desires. I am so happy to read about happy healthy relationships and spoiled wives. You deserve it!
I detect a little DC hate. Many women in the DC area are more brains over beauty. So there is a thread of resentment if a beautiful woman can secure an awesome life without spending 20 years in school and slogging her life away in front of a laptop for money.
I hope to find another man who spoils me like my previous lovers. It feels amazing to know someone cares about your well being on every level. It can happen at all income levels. But you must match with a man who truly values spending on his woman. My last spoiler was so easy. I gave him a financial gift for his graduation and he said, "You know I am just going to turn around and spend this on you". I knew immediately that he was the right man for me. I have tested other men and knew that maybe they were givers but they didn't want to give to me. I left those relationships immediately.
I have dated 4 divorced men, all over the age of 40. Usually, their ex-wives are stable, smart, professional and rational people. The man maybe won the genetic lottery with height, good looks, good sex skills or some other charming trait that will easily help a woman look beyond his flaws.
Divorced guy 1- Cheated on his very successful, millionaire wife with an office secretary and was fired from his job. He turned out to be self absorbed sex addict, who was bad at sex. I was young and he took me out to nice places in DC to eat.
Divorced guy 2- Aspie, science nerd and dad who spent all of his waking hours buried in a book. He was very giving and sweet. Turned out he had a micro penis!
Divorced guy 3- Handsome, confident, narcissistic and fun dad of 2 small children. I actually found letters his ex wife sent explaining why she divorced him. She said he was self absorbed, needed therapy and refused to change. In dating him, I learned he was verbally abusive, critical and had a little bit of psychosis/personality disorder.
Divorced guy 4- Chivalrous attorney, active dad of a 12 year old. His 40 something wife went out and voluntarily became a single mother to a newborn less than 1 year after divorce. I learn that this guy has serious sexual hangups around pregnancy, yet he won't get a vasectomy.
My anecdotal experiences reveal that most men have some hangups that they will likely never get over. Men are very fixed. Marriage is an easy ploy because women love the idea of being chosen vs. actually figuring out if the relationship can last. Men are famous for latching on to a woman who will tolerate their quirks.
That being said, all my divorced men were wonderful to me. They appreciate sex, affection and want to have fun experiences. I didn't feel compelled to want to marry or even have an exclusive relationship with any of them after dating them.
Divorced guy 1- Cheated on his very successful, millionaire wife with an office secretary and was fired from his job. He turned out to be self absorbed sex addict, who was bad at sex. I was young and he took me out to nice places in DC to eat.
Divorced guy 2- Aspie, science nerd and dad who spent all of his waking hours buried in a book. He was very giving and sweet. Turned out he had a micro penis!
Divorced guy 3- Handsome, confident, narcissistic and fun dad of 2 small children. I actually found letters his ex wife sent explaining why she divorced him. She said he was self absorbed, needed therapy and refused to change. In dating him, I learned he was verbally abusive, critical and had a little bit of psychosis/personality disorder.
Divorced guy 4- Chivalrous attorney, active dad of a 12 year old. His 40 something wife went out and voluntarily became a single mother to a newborn less than 1 year after divorce. I learn that this guy has serious sexual hangups around pregnancy, yet he won't get a vasectomy.
My anecdotal experiences reveal that most men have some hangups that they will likely never get over. Men are very fixed. Marriage is an easy ploy because women love the idea of being chosen vs. actually figuring out if the relationship can last. Men are famous for latching on to a woman who will tolerate their quirks.
That being said, all my divorced men were wonderful to me. They appreciate sex, affection and want to have fun experiences. I didn't feel compelled to want to marry or even have an exclusive relationship with any of them after dating them.
The article basically supports the fact that virtual is really a good fit for some people and I think it is foolish to rush parents and families back into the classroom with only 6 more weeks of school. Let charters make decisions based on the local/community realities for their students and families.
I harassed my kid's charter school to go back to in person on every single zoom call, parent meeting, feedback questionnaire and even drafted letters to OSSE.
The virtual option did not work for my kindergartner and we are a low-tech, minimal screen time household. I found our charter's reluctance to return in person to be lazy and insensitive to families of single parent households who work full time.
I felt judged and very frustrated throughout virtual learning and it took a major toll on my kid's excitement for learning.
In-person works best for our family but I wouldn't push that on someone else because I don't know their daily child care or working routines.
I harassed my kid's charter school to go back to in person on every single zoom call, parent meeting, feedback questionnaire and even drafted letters to OSSE.
The virtual option did not work for my kindergartner and we are a low-tech, minimal screen time household. I found our charter's reluctance to return in person to be lazy and insensitive to families of single parent households who work full time.
I felt judged and very frustrated throughout virtual learning and it took a major toll on my kid's excitement for learning.
In-person works best for our family but I wouldn't push that on someone else because I don't know their daily child care or working routines.
Let's be honest, productivity at home is not even close to productivy in office.
She knows it, you know it, we all know it.
Enough BS people. Show up for work or expect to be fired, in not too far of a future.
This simply is not true. So you really want to sit in traffic all day? Sit through hours of small talk, waiting at a printer, looking for food in unsanitary work cafeterias?
So much of what we do at work is filler. Between commuting, meetings for people to brag about their vacations/kids/pets, and all kinds of office politics that usually start from silly or mindless unintentional comment.
Telework is the best thing for companies. They can cut real estate, overhead, and they already push these expenses off on to the employee. If a company cannot measure productivity, then they have a bad system to start with. Work has changed. Slavery used to be the norm, child labor and even certain dangerous jobs. Daily commuting into an office is just not something worth doing anymore.
Ugh I was about to sign a contract on a single family home one month before the 2008 crash. A divine miracle intervened and stopped everything and I couldn't purchase. At the time I was devastated, but it turned out to be a blessing in disguise because the prices dropped by $30k 6 months later and I purchased a beautiful condo with parking in DC. My mortgage is now around $840 (not including condo fees).
The said house that I planned to purchase was never sold and the owner rents until this day. The house did appreciate slightly so I don't know if it was a loss or gain for the owner. But I have no regrets on waiting. I hope that you go with your gut and everything falls into place. Weird times we are living in.
The said house that I planned to purchase was never sold and the owner rents until this day. The house did appreciate slightly so I don't know if it was a loss or gain for the owner. But I have no regrets on waiting. I hope that you go with your gut and everything falls into place. Weird times we are living in.
Two of the candidates were excellent, seasoned and likely to stay on the job until they retire. The boss, a male, preferred younger, more malleable women who would likely be more obedient employees. That was the first time I realized how much more goes into shaping a team than just skills.
It was also sad, but made me think more carefully about interviewing for a job and learning the agenda and culture of an organization before jumping on the team.
It was also sad, but made me think more carefully about interviewing for a job and learning the agenda and culture of an organization before jumping on the team.