Can’t Wait for Her to Leave

[Anonymous]

My DD is such a pain in the ass. She complains, argues, and I think lies about her BF (sneaks out to be with him, I suspect.) Nothing I do is right.

She is a smart kid and very does well in school. She was lovely until hormones hit. Then she became bratty, obstinate, and generally unpleasant to be around.

She’s going to a great school and I am happy for her but I will not miss her one bit.

Just had to get that off my chest, all my friends are talking about how they are going to cry when their kids head to college. I will breathe a sigh of relief.

[Anonymous]

I suspect you, and KellyAnne Conway, are not the only ones like this.

They just won't admit it.

[Anonymous]

I hear you, but don't write her off entirely just yet. You may find she's changed for the better after just a year of being on her own at school and getting some challenges/perspective. You may then miss sending a cool adult that's fun to hang out with back to school next year.

[Anonymous]

You’ll miss her after she leaves.

[Anonymous]

I hear you but there may also be what is a very common phenomenon of kids becoming ridiculously difficult right before it’s time to leave. Maybe a manifestation of some anxiety about the life change chapter ahead? My generally lovely dd became a total pill for the last couple of months before she left to spend her senior year of high school abroad And I have been so sad about her leaving but toward the end couldn’t wait to get her on that plane. I didn’t realize this was a thing until I started talking to parents of kids heading off to college and hearing so many with similar stories. I hope your girl comes back to you at some point.

[Anonymous]

My DC is also being a pain in the a$$. You aren't alone. Counting the days....

[Anonymous]

It’s a natural and healthy transition, OP. Like starting an argument with someone about to go away subconsciously thinking it will make their leaving easier. I always thought I’d be devastated when my oldest left for college. But He was such a pain the last half of senior year and all that summer that I was doing the happy dance driving him to college. Then I missed him.

[Anonymous]

You sound like my mom. I couldn’t wait to be gone, either. Don’t worry , OP, we started getting along in my kid-20’s.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My DD is such a pain in the ass. She complains, argues, and I think lies about her BF (sneaks out to be with him, I suspect.) Nothing I do is right.

She is a smart kid and very does well in school. She was lovely until hormones hit. Then she became bratty, obstinate, and generally unpleasant to be around.

She’s going to a great school and I am happy for her but I will not miss her one bit.

Just had to get that off my chest, all my friends are talking about how they are going to cry when their kids head to college. I will breathe a sigh of relief.

This is/was my best friend with her daughter. Of course she loves her a ton, but she was also a challenging kid. MY best friend said things were so much calmer with her gone.

[Anonymous]

It’s a phase most likely. Teens can be hard to reason with.

[Anonymous]

This is evolutionary. It's time for her to leave the nest. Super normal.

[Anonymous]

I think it's normal to feel that way. My mom would've said that same about me - and I couldn't wait to leave either. The HS years were rough on both of us. FWIW, it didn't take long after leaving for college for me to realize how grateful I was for her and all of the sacrifices that she had made for me. I distinctly remember sitting in a class my freshman year and just loving college so much - having independence and feeling like I was finally on the path to living my life -- and it hit me that I wouldn't have been here if she hadn't worked so hard and pushed me to do my best.

She died of cancer when I was 23. What I wouldn't give to have those HS years back...

[Anonymous]

"fowling the nest" is a thing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You’ll miss her after she leaves.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You’ll miss her after she leaves.

NP...and I'm sure that I will (eventually?) miss my kid. But right now, DC is being extremely rude and difficult, and I'm sort of looking forward to having just my younger kid around without all of the conflict.