Anonymous wrote:I'm in my mid 20's and lost 80 lbs and have about 30 more to lose to be in the normal range. I lost the 80 lbs in just 7 months and hope to lose the last 30 by June. I've held off on dating because I just wasn't comfortable with myself at all and also because I had been in a long term, emotionally abusive relationship with a guy who constantly called me fat, a cow, etc. and I just was so torn down that the thought of dating a guy again scared me.

I'm finally getting to a place where I feel like I may be ready but I don't know. I've had a great support system through my journey but a high school guy friend of mine told me that he'd be hesitant to date someone who lost a ton of weight because he feels like they'd eventually go back to being heavy. I'm wondering if other guys feel that way too? I also don't know if I would even want to tell a guy that I lost a lot of weight because I'm truly embarrassed I ever was that big and just don't know if I'd want new people to know that I was ever obese. So guys, what are your thoughts on this? Also, if you were dating someone, would you want to know if they had lost a ton of weight?

Anonymous wrote:My co-worker is the greatest guy I've ever met, and we are strongly attracted to each other, but obviously never do anything but flirt because he is married and we respect that. For the past 4 years we have become best friends. And the more I think about it, the more I realize that - I'm really in love. I haven't felt this way in years (I'm single) and the intensity is scary. I think about him all the time. I masturbate to him regularly. I kind of stalk him and obsessively learn about his hobbies and interests. And I've been thinking of kooky things like ordering a love spell. I'm getting that obsessed with him.

Make it stop.