Serious question about men v women and aging

[Anonymous]

Given that sex is non-negotiable to men and always will be, and women start to have more trouble with it after menopause, what really is the right answer to this? I find it incredible that most 55+ men married to similarly aged or older women are not boning younger women just because they still can. Just for the release not for the intimacy and without ever leaving their wives. I'm not saying I like, condone, promote or defend it. Just that it is actually a difficult situation for which I have some sympathy. Am I wrong?

[Anonymous]

Women only have trouble when they are stuck with the same partner too long.

[Anonymous]

15:02 -- What can the same partner do to fix that? Anything?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Women only have trouble when they are stuck with the same partner too long.

This. And most men 55+ have some degree of ED issues, no matter this forum leads you to believe

[Anonymous]

Huh? I’m fit, 6 pack, olive skin (not wrinkly) 51-year old woman nowhere close to menopause. Mom went thru it at 57 and 55 year old sister not in it yet.

And I just had a nooner with my 50-year old husband. We still have sex almost daily.

He’s never had boner problems and I never had issues either.

[Anonymous]

It’s a myth that there are lots of young women who would have sex with 55 plus men. Or 40 plus.

[Anonymous]

I agree it’s a myth that young women want to have sex with 40+ year olds (and definitely not 55+ year olds), unless they’re paying for or leading them in in some way.

[Anonymous]

Men also have diminished libido as they age. And as a PP point out, even if they continue to want sex, many of them can't keep it up or do it to completion. Yes, there are drugs, but can you see what a weird situation this is now? Men and women have less interest in and urge for sex as they age, both have less physical ability to have enjoyable PinV sex has they age (ED for men and dryness/arousal issues for women), but because the pharmaceutical industry invented ED drugs, a bunch of men are now all "What am I supposed to do?! I have this erection that I gave to myself with drugs, and my same-age wife doesn't want to deal with it!" It's comical.

This will be taken as a joke or a provocation, but have some of these older men considered doing what older women do, and taking up a hobby? Learn a new skill, travel more, try an new style of cooking! Believe it or not, sex really isn't everything, and it's possible to have a full and happy live in your 50s, 60s, and 70s while only having sex very occasionally. Seriously. It's fine. Lots of married men actually discover they like it when the pressure to have sex as often goes away. They discover they enjoy other forms of intimacy with their partners, and that life can be enjoyable and rewarding without daily orgasms.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Huh? I’m fit, 6 pack, olive skin (not wrinkly) 51-year old woman nowhere close to menopause. Mom went thru it at 57 and 55 year old sister not in it yet.

And I just had a nooner with my 50-year old husband. We still have sex almost daily.

He’s never had boner problems and I never had issues either.

Lol, lady, no one is talking to you but congrats on your 6-back and your boner.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It’s a myth that there are lots of young women who would have sex with 55 plus men. Or 40 plus.

Black male who works out daily and has a impressive sounding semi-public job. It is beyond easy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s a myth that there are lots of young women who would have sex with 55 plus men. Or 40 plus.

Black male who works out daily and has a impressive sounding semi-public job. It is beyond easy.

Useless if you don't give your age. I buy this into early 50s but after that working out and even having money can't make up for the inability to get it up or the fact that your body just looks old. And I say that as a woman who dated some 50+ guys back in my 20s. I stopped because I figured out that they were too old.

Also, older men tend to be kind of a pain personality-wise, especially towards younger women. They view themselves as authority figures, they like the idea of being in charge and knowing everything. So it's actually not fun to date a guy 30 years older because he's always going to want to be right. He'll want to make all the plans, he'll use his ability to pay for things as a cudgel for it as well, even if you have money yourself and are willing to pay. He has more and wants something "better" and will insist.

The main reason any younger woman dates a much older man (15 years difference or more) is for financial security. Whether her goal is to lock him down with marriage or she just likes being "taken care of" while they are dating, money is the primary motivator for the younger women in that scenario. There are literally no younger women who are attracted to old men an their sagging ball sacs and wrongly dicks, I do not care how often you work out or how much you make. No woman under they age of 35 is excited about that. Most of us over the age of 35 aren't psyched about it either, which might have something to do with why women become less interested in sex with their husbands as they age. Sure, we'll blame it on menopause but get real -- part of it is that our husbands are not as physically attractive as they once were and that makes it harder to activate our already flagging sex drive.

[Anonymous]

DCUM leads you to believe extremes are more common than they actually are.

Assuming there aren’t huge issues in the marriage, most women still enjoy sex with their husbands, even after menopause. And most men don’t want to go out banging younger women, they want to be with their wives.

Of all the people I know, I can think of only one woman who truly does not enjoy sex at all, and only one man who would leave a partner solely for sex with someone younger. Not surprisingly, both are never married, and both have major self-esteem issues.

Everyone else I know has been able to find compromises that worked for them, or they divorced over other issues LONG before menopause was a problem.

Also, post-menopausal women are some of the biggest pervs I know. Sometimes I’m shocked at the things that come out of their mouth 😈

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It’s a myth that there are lots of young women who would have sex with 55 plus men. Or 40 plus.

This.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Huh? I’m fit, 6 pack, olive skin (not wrinkly) 51-year old woman nowhere close to menopause. Mom went thru it at 57 and 55 year old sister not in it yet.

And I just had a nooner with my 50-year old husband. We still have sex almost daily.

He’s never had boner problems and I never had issues either.

I don't think you understand the words "most" and "majority" and the idea that your experiences may not be exactly the same as everybody elses. Or that 1) you aren't post menopause, and 2) your husband isn't over 55. How do your experiences fit into the OP's scenario, exactly?

[Anonymous]

It’s a myth that there are lots of young women who would have sex with 55 plus men. Or 40 plus


I agree it’s a myth that young women want to have sex with 40+ year olds (and definitely not 55+ year olds), unless they’re paying for or leading them in in some way.

So much Older Woman Cope, LMAO.