Serious question about men v women and aging

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s a myth that there are lots of young women who would have sex with 55 plus men. Or 40 plus.

Black male who works out daily and has a impressive sounding semi-public job. It is beyond easy.

Semi-public job = semi powerful. And you work out. So, hot? Maybe? For a one night stand, no problem.

[Anonymous]

We are in our mid 60’s and we still have frequent sex. I went through menopause at 56 but I didn’t lose my libido though I do need a lot of lube to avoid irritation. My DH has never had an ED issue and we are both in good health so that really helps. After 35 years we still find sex with the same person to be very fulfilling and fun. I know I have no need for anyone else!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We are in our mid 60’s and we still have frequent sex. I went through menopause at 56 but I didn’t lose my libido though I do need a lot of lube to avoid irritation. My DH has never had an ED issue and we are both in good health so that really helps. After 35 years we still find sex with the same person to be very fulfilling and fun. I know I have no need for anyone else!

Use it or lose it is very real!! Age-related vaginal atrophy can be halted by having regular sex.

[Anonymous]

I think you deal with a libido imbalance the same way you deal with any other issue in a marriage. Work on yourself, love each other, educate yourself, or divorce/have a bad marriage. The solution will look different for every couple.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s a myth that there are lots of young women who would have sex with 55 plus men. Or 40 plus.

Black male who works out daily and has a impressive sounding semi-public job. It is beyond easy.

Useless if you don't give your age. I buy this into early 50s but after that working out and even having money can't make up for the inability to get it up or the fact that your body just looks old. And I say that as a woman who dated some 50+ guys back in my 20s. I stopped because I figured out that they were too old.

Also, older men tend to be kind of a pain personality-wise, especially towards younger women. They view themselves as authority figures, they like the idea of being in charge and knowing everything. So it's actually not fun to date a guy 30 years older because he's always going to want to be right. He'll want to make all the plans, he'll use his ability to pay for things as a cudgel for it as well, even if you have money yourself and are willing to pay. He has more and wants something "better" and will insist.

The main reason any younger woman dates a much older man (15 years difference or more) is for financial security. Whether her goal is to lock him down with marriage or she just likes being "taken care of" while they are dating, money is the primary motivator for the younger women in that scenario. There are literally no younger women who are attracted to old men an their sagging ball sacs and wrongly dicks, I do not care how often you work out or how much you make. No woman under they age of 35 is excited about that. Most of us over the age of 35 aren't psyched about it either, which might have something to do with why women become less interested in sex with their husbands as they age. Sure, we'll blame it on menopause but get real -- part of it is that our husbands are not as physically attractive as they once were and that makes it harder to activate our already flagging sex drive.

I’m 43. Very easy to date women 21-26 and also closer to my age. It’s women in the “want to get married and have a baby” age range that don’t date me.

None of the much younger women who date me do so for long-term security, but I’m not fooling myself that I look better than an attractive man 15 years younger. Do look better than the average duds.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Huh? I’m fit, 6 pack, olive skin (not wrinkly) 51-year old woman nowhere close to menopause. Mom went thru it at 57 and 55 year old sister not in it yet.

And I just had a nooner with my 50-year old husband. We still have sex almost daily.

He’s never had boner problems and I never had issues either.

Lol, lady, no one is talking to you but congrats on your 6-back and your boner.

New poster. I'm glad you're so fit, PP above, but could you stop with the implied dissing of menopause? You do realize that the "I'm nowhere close to it yet" commentary implies that, yay, you're staving off the evil crusher of libido, right?

For you, and for the OP who said that "women have more trouble with [sex] after menopause" as if that is an incontrovertible, universal truth which nothing can alter: For some of us, sex actually gets much better after menopause. No more birth control to suppress libido, kids out of the house more often or altogether, etc. Our sex life improved greatly once I hit menopause and then improved again once our kid went to college.

I know--people will come to post about dryness, husbands who can't get it or keep it up, lack of interest, etc. All real issues, no doubt. But all things that can be worked on at least to an extent.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Huh? I’m fit, 6 pack, olive skin (not wrinkly) 51-year old woman nowhere close to menopause. Mom went thru it at 57 and 55 year old sister not in it yet.

And I just had a nooner with my 50-year old husband. We still have sex almost daily.

He’s never had boner problems and I never had issues either.

Lol “nowhere close” lady. 51 is the average age for menopause.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s a myth that there are lots of young women who would have sex with 55 plus men. Or 40 plus.

Black male who works out daily and has a impressive sounding semi-public job. It is beyond easy.

Useless if you don't give your age. I buy this into early 50s but after that working out and even having money can't make up for the inability to get it up or the fact that your body just looks old. And I say that as a woman who dated some 50+ guys back in my 20s. I stopped because I figured out that they were too old.

Also, older men tend to be kind of a pain personality-wise, especially towards younger women. They view themselves as authority figures, they like the idea of being in charge and knowing everything. So it's actually not fun to date a guy 30 years older because he's always going to want to be right. He'll want to make all the plans, he'll use his ability to pay for things as a cudgel for it as well, even if you have money yourself and are willing to pay. He has more and wants something "better" and will insist.

The main reason any younger woman dates a much older man (15 years difference or more) is for financial security. Whether her goal is to lock him down with marriage or she just likes being "taken care of" while they are dating, money is the primary motivator for the younger women in that scenario. There are literally no younger women who are attracted to old men an their sagging ball sacs and wrongly dicks, I do not care how often you work out or how much you make. No woman under they age of 35 is excited about that. Most of us over the age of 35 aren't psyched about it either, which might have something to do with why women become less interested in sex with their husbands as they age. Sure, we'll blame it on menopause but get real -- part of it is that our husbands are not as physically attractive as they once were and that makes it harder to activate our already flagging sex drive.

+1 men are so delusional. If you manage to find a younger woman to be with, it is because she is either superficial/materialistic and using you for money, or has daddy issues and is crazy. Those are her priorities and she does not really like sex. She does not actually want to have sex with you. Women who like sex seek out sexually attractive men, not old guys.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Huh? I’m fit, 6 pack, olive skin (not wrinkly) 51-year old woman nowhere close to menopause. Mom went thru it at 57 and 55 year old sister not in it yet.

And I just had a nooner with my 50-year old husband. We still have sex almost daily.

He’s never had boner problems and I never had issues either.

Lol, lady, no one is talking to you but congrats on your 6-back and your boner.

[Anonymous]

I’m 46 and divorced and while it’s fun and ego building to date someone in their 20’s the magic ends when you realize that you have little in common other than fun and sex. It’s so much better with someone in their 40’s whose kids are older and you have a lot in common. And women in their 40’s are often better in bed than 20 somethings.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Huh? I’m fit, 6 pack, olive skin (not wrinkly) 51-year old woman nowhere close to menopause. Mom went thru it at 57 and 55 year old sister not in it yet.

And I just had a nooner with my 50-year old husband. We still have sex almost daily.

He’s never had boner problems and I never had issues either.

Lol “nowhere close” lady. 51 is the average age for menopause.

Not in families where the females all go through it very late.

That’s why is called “average”. You will have some that go through it at 36 and some not until 60+.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s a myth that there are lots of young women who would have sex with 55 plus men. Or 40 plus.

Black male who works out daily and has a impressive sounding semi-public job. It is beyond easy.

Useless if you don't give your age. I buy this into early 50s but after that working out and even having money can't make up for the inability to get it up or the fact that your body just looks old. And I say that as a woman who dated some 50+ guys back in my 20s. I stopped because I figured out that they were too old.

Also, older men tend to be kind of a pain personality-wise, especially towards younger women. They view themselves as authority figures, they like the idea of being in charge and knowing everything. So it's actually not fun to date a guy 30 years older because he's always going to want to be right. He'll want to make all the plans, he'll use his ability to pay for things as a cudgel for it as well, even if you have money yourself and are willing to pay. He has more and wants something "better" and will insist.

The main reason any younger woman dates a much older man (15 years difference or more) is for financial security. Whether her goal is to lock him down with marriage or she just likes being "taken care of" while they are dating, money is the primary motivator for the younger women in that scenario. There are literally no younger women who are attracted to old men an their sagging ball sacs and wrongly dicks, I do not care how often you work out or how much you make. No woman under they age of 35 is excited about that. Most of us over the age of 35 aren't psyched about it either, which might have something to do with why women become less interested in sex with their husbands as they age. Sure, we'll blame it on menopause but get real -- part of it is that our husbands are not as physically attractive as they once were and that makes it harder to activate our already flagging sex drive.

+1 men are so delusional. If you manage to find a younger woman to be with, it is because she is either superficial/materialistic and using you for money, or has daddy issues and is crazy. Those are her priorities and she does not really like sex. She does not actually want to have sex with you. Women who like sex seek out sexually attractive men, not old guys.

Yep. My close to retirement age medical doctor DH has young nurses throwing themselves at him. While I’m sure it helps his ego, it makes him uncomfortable.

[Anonymous]

The “answer” to original question is self-help to deal with differences in needs.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It’s a myth that there are lots of young women who would have sex with 55 plus men. Or 40 plus.

This. OP why do you think you women want to shag a 55+ year old guy? I mean, most older men are not that attractive to most younger women, despite what they might think. Nothing more pathetic than an old dude who thinks the young ladies want to sleep with him.

[Anonymous]

. If you manage to find a younger woman to be with, it is because she is either superficial/materialistic and using you for money, or has daddy issues and is crazy.

LOL more bitter older woman cope.

“He doesn’t want me, so the women he’s with must be broken somehow.” 😂😂😂