Sleeping with a relative..
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Anonymous
| Well, I haven’t yet. We are distant relatives both in our 40s, newly single. We don’t really have any other relatives who are alive or who we are in touch with. I always felt a strong connection to him and get along really well. I also feel there is some kind of sexual tension between us whenever we talk or meet. Should I give in….or its a no, no. WWYD? |
Anonymous
| How distant? Did you grow up with eachother? |
Anonymous
| Need more details,how are you related? |
Anonymous
| How distant are we talking about here? As long as it's legal wherever you are, I don't see a problem. |
Anonymous
| No, OP. There are billions of people on this planet. Stay away from relatives. |
Anonymous
| Oh my goodness, this sounds like a V.C. Andrews novel! I am going to say no! Wouldn't you be embarrassed if colleagues or friends found it? |
Anonymous
| I mean it depends entirely on what "distant" means. Anything beyond first cousin seems ok, though I don't know, second cousin seems icky to me, too, but maybe just because I grew up with second cousins and my kids know a bunch (but not all) their second cousins. |
Anonymous
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yes, define "distant"
4th cousins, maybe 2nd cousins, no |
Anonymous
| Distant relatives are fine from a genetic point of view, OP. Just don't broadcast the fact, because people are weird. |
Anonymous
| Details are important here. If you are first cousins, that's going to elicit a much different response than if you are second cousins once removed. |
Anonymous
| How distant? In most states, it is legal to marry a second cousin, in Virginia, you can marry a first cousin. No law against an intimate relationship in either case. |
Anonymous
| Relative as in related by blood. Just making sure it's not a brother of your SIL or something like that. |
Anonymous
Show us on the chart where both of you are and we'll tell you if it's ok:
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Anonymous
| OP here - 3rd cousin |
Anonymous
 see, this is why people make jokes about VA.
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