FIL licks his fingers and touches everyone’s food

[Anonymous]

Especially during breakfast, FIL licks fingers as he does things like slices bagels and passes things to other people. I finally have had enough, and won’t participate in his shenanigans anymore. He made much of lording over the table yesterday, because he knows I don’t like it. We’re all on vacation at a cabin together. Well, guess what, FIL? We brought tons of our own, extra food this year. I delighted in keeping some in the back bedroom and coming out with my own breakfast yesterday. He was all, “Where did you get that?” And I just smiled and said, “We brought it. I didn’t feel like a bagel this morning.” Big smile. I will never show up without extra food just for us again—I am relishing his powerlessness.

[Anonymous]

Cool story.

[Anonymous]

You sound like you two deserve each other.

[Anonymous]

My own mother does the same thing and while it has always grossed me out I don't believe it's an intentional act to upset anyone.

You do you, OP, but you might want to consider that your FIL may just have a gross habit that isn't about you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My own mother does the same thing and while it has always grossed me out I don't believe it's an intentional act to upset anyone.

You do you, OP, but you might want to consider that your FIL may just have a gross habit that isn't about you.

How is someone else’s saliva on your food not about you? Gross. No, thanks. I’d honestly rather pack extra granola bars and bananas than eat “glazed” bagels.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You sound like you two deserve each other.

+1 nutjobs

[Anonymous]

I think Boomers are weird about food. My dad *always* needs to take a bite or lick of other people's food. He does it MORE after I tell him to stop. It's like a compulsion. Drives me insane. I don't let him sit next to my kids anymore when we are eating.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think Boomers are weird about food. My dad *always* needs to take a bite or lick of other people's food. He does it MORE after I tell him to stop. It's like a compulsion. Drives me insane. I don't let him sit next to my kids anymore when we are eating.

+1. I’m not obvious about it, but I work it so that neither my ILs or my parents are every plating or getting stuff for me and my kids. I just work kitchen magic and help in such a way that it’s not happening. Licking fingers is the tip of the iceberg, unfortunately. Boomers have gross kitchen habits—I’ve seen my aunts, uncles and mom’s friends at work, too.

[Anonymous]

Why would you agree to cabin sharing?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You sound like you two deserve each other.

+1 nutjobs

Are you in the habit of putting your saliva on food before handing it to others? Interesting.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You sound like you two deserve each other.

+1 nutjobs

Are you in the habit of putting your saliva on food before handing it to others? Interesting.

I make my own food. Why does someone make your food and hand it to you?

[Anonymous]

This sounds like a happy bunch.

[Anonymous]

I don't have this problem bc my boomer FIL would never ever make anyone else a plate of food. Ever.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You sound like you two deserve each other.

+1 nutjobs

Are you in the habit of putting your saliva on food before handing it to others? Interesting.

I make my own food. Why does someone make your food and hand it to you?

OP here. Ask FIL! He parks it in the kitchen for meals, especially breakfast, and literally does not move from his “post” near the toaster. He wants to toast everyone’s bagels, and doesn’t move even when you say you want to do it yourself. During dinners, they insist on everything being on the table, and he wants to pass everything and portion everything. I refuse to let him do this for me, because no way is he controlling my portions or deciding what I will and won’t eat, as he does for others.

Seriously: ask FIL.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Especially during breakfast, FIL licks fingers as he does things like slices bagels and passes things to other people. I finally have had enough, and won’t participate in his shenanigans anymore. He made much of lording over the table yesterday, because he knows I don’t like it. We’re all on vacation at a cabin together. Well, guess what, FIL? We brought tons of our own, extra food this year. I delighted in keeping some in the back bedroom and coming out with my own breakfast yesterday. He was all, “Where did you get that?” And I just smiled and said, “We brought it. I didn’t feel like a bagel this morning.” Big smile. I will never show up without extra food just for us again—I am relishing his powerlessness.

Or you could just confront him about.