FIL licks his fingers and touches everyone’s food

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Anonymous wrote:There was a thread years ago about the boomer parents locking their refrigerators and portioning out tiny meals that would not sustain growing grandkids. And they also did like the visitors to go out to get any food. It was super weird.

Someone here decided to bring a huge basket of food for their family so they would not be hungry.

OP—Ignore the nasty comments here. Your fil is weird.

My DH’s family are all finger lickers. It’s gross. I brought it up with DH and lots of offense was taken. I kinda eat my own food now when visiting.

I loved that thread. The best thread.

Burger King Lady?

Yessss. And a healthy snack of fruit on the deck. Yum Yum.

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Guess weird gross habits skip a generation.

-gen x

millennial here ... honest question, do you people really never take a sip of your parent's drinks? or share french fries or other finger foods from the same plate? try your parent's dish that they are eating???

it boggles my mind to be so grossed out by a loved one's saliva ... strangers, sure! but a loved one i am sharing living accommodations with ... NBD to me

Share drinks? Never. Share food, yes, but we’re not animals, so we use clean utensils and serving utensils to make that happen. If my plate at arrives with fries and Dad wants don’t, I use my *clean, unused* fork to put some on his plate.

Sharing can be accomplished without being gross.

If I were to slice a bagel for my mom, I’d wash my hands first. Are you following along? Finger licking doesn’t have to be involved when you prepare and share food.

wow the judgement game is strong in this one, i didn't know sharing my drinks made me an animal. my eyes are open, thanks

and holy batman, so many personal attacks! you might want to see a therapist about that, i am sure covid isn't helping your irrational germaphobia and anger ... how have i survived this long - and yet still no covid, or flu (ever in my life), hell i only get a small head cold once every 3 yearst. I thank my animal level immune system

I love how you think that germs/bacteria can tell or care that it’s “family germs,” as if you can’t give your elderly parents a stomach bug, or pass on strep throat to your sister.

Here’s a smiley face for you, since you seem really obsessed with them:

wow, no, i said "loved ones" and "family germs" to capture the swath of people I love and wouldn't mind sharing germs with, if, for instance they would want to try my drink.

thanks! i love smiley faces because i am a happy person who enjoys life and sharing experiences - appreciate your sarcasm tho!

So you don’t care if you give your elderly parents a stomach bug. Got it.

Also apparently you lick your fingers before and while doing a puzzle with others. Got it. See, mist of us wash our hands, then do a puzzle and keep our hands out of our mouths.

Cool! Thanks for letting me know, I’ll make sure to change nothing about my ways of life because a random stranger on the internet is trying their hardest to shame me!

Have so much fun getting your parents sick! Have so much fun getting a stomach bug yourself!

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Anonymous wrote:I think Boomers are weird about food. My dad *always* needs to take a bite or lick of other people's food. He does it MORE after I tell him to stop. It's like a compulsion. Drives me insane. I don't let him sit next to my kids anymore when we are eating.

+1. I’m not obvious about it, but I work it so that neither my ILs or my parents are every plating or getting stuff for me and my kids. I just work kitchen magic and help in such a way that it’s not happening. Licking fingers is the tip of the iceberg, unfortunately. Boomers have gross kitchen habits—I’ve seen my aunts, uncles and mom’s friends at work, too.

Wait, is this really a boomer thing? My ILs do the same thing, and I think it's icky, but had no idea it was a generational thing. I'm from another culture that does not do this.

Maybe a weird post-war "don't waste food" thing?

My boomer relatives are OBSESSED with food. They monitor and mentally record what everyone eats. And will recount randomly. So so weird.

Mine, too. Like, my MIL hovers and talks about what’s on everyone’s plate, as if it is worthy dinner conversation. “Oh, Tim is having seconds of peas and mashed potatoes.” Who effing cares?

We need to get our MILs together. Mine watches baseball (162 games a year!) and never misses repeated opportunities in every game to comment on the people in the seats behind home plate and how disgusting it is that they're "eating junk the entire game. Why can't they just watch the game without eating? Ugh, that lady had a hot dog AND peanuts!"

When we need or want you to be the Food Police, Granny, we'll be sure to let you know.

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Anonymous wrote:“No thanks, George. All the stuff about Covid and then those big food contaminations on the news really has me thinking about food handling. I’m just really skittish about other people handling my food. I’ll get my own bagel, thank you.”

OP here. YES, I’ve already done this. Before Covid and certainly after. He refuses. He lords over the kitchen and literally will not get out of the way. So eff him, I bring my own food from now on, and eat it right in front of his face. And I’ve told him exactly why: “No thanks, you lick your hands when you cut bagels, and there’s no way you’re touching mine.”

LOL. What a bizarre, petty power trip for him. Next time, bow, curtsy, genuflect and scrape as you profusely thank him, "O Mighty Self-Appointed Lord of the Bagels," then go get your banana and eat in peace.

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Anonymous wrote:OP you should step it up and bring a toaster. I’m dead serious. My MIL does this thing where she “rinses her fingers” under a drop of water and then keeps going- like wipes up the water off the floor the dog spilled, touches garbage to put paper towel in it then “runs fingers under water no soap” and then starts dishing food and roasting rolls. DH and I refuse to go eat meals with ILs. My own mom and dad will not wash hands between handling raw eggs, touching garbage and preparing food. It never bothered me growing up but now makes me ill to think about.

Ha! I was JUST thinking this but was like "eh, is it too petty?" No, it's not. Meet petty with petty. The look on his face would be positively GLORIOUS.

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Guess weird gross habits skip a generation.

-gen x

millennial here ... honest question, do you people really never take a sip of your parent's drinks? or share french fries or other finger foods from the same plate? try your parent's dish that they are eating???

it boggles my mind to be so grossed out by a loved one's saliva ... strangers, sure! but a loved one i am sharing living accommodations with ... NBD to me

or play board games, puzzles, share remotes ... again, i am confused how someone living with a person is so fearful of their germs. Newflash, their germs are already everywhere in your shared abode.

You lick board games and puzzles?

We share finger food in my family, but I don't need to share an ice cream cone with my saliva-obsessed parents. For example, if we are out at an ice cream shop my dad must take a huge slobbery lick if he's passing a cone to someone. Without asking. Gross.

Nasty.

[Anonymous]

I'm confused: there are multiple threads about supposedly gross in-laws licking their fingers and then doing something with food. Is it the same weird troll-ish poster? It's very strange.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm confused: there are multiple threads about supposedly gross in-laws licking their fingers and then doing something with food. Is it the same weird troll-ish poster? It's very strange.

What are you talking about? This is one thread that people are adding to.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Guess weird gross habits skip a generation.

-gen x

millennial here ... honest question, do you people really never take a sip of your parent's drinks? or share french fries or other finger foods from the same plate? try your parent's dish that they are eating???

it boggles my mind to be so grossed out by a loved one's saliva ... strangers, sure! but a loved one i am sharing living accommodations with ... NBD to me

or play board games, puzzles, share remotes ... again, i am confused how someone living with a person is so fearful of their germs. Newflash, their germs are already everywhere in your shared abode.

You lick board games and puzzles?

We share finger food in my family, but I don't need to share an ice cream cone with my saliva-obsessed parents. For example, if we are out at an ice cream shop my dad must take a huge slobbery lick if he's passing a cone to someone. Without asking. Gross.

The ice cream licking of cones that are not yours is the worst!!! I cannot stand this, even from my own DH. He tries to pulls this with our kids too and I do my best to tell him to either order his own or be quiet. No haranguing for ice cream licks allowed. Especially if you are an ice cream biter. Ruins it

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OMG, the poster on here who somehow things that sharing germs “with family” is any different than sharing germs with total strangers is cracking me up. Like, your body can’t tell the difference between germs encountered by sharing a beverage with your father vs. the person who happens to sit next to you at the movie theater.

Sharing drinks is disgusting. And there are plenty of ways you can share food with someone else that don’t involve touching the food. If I order a club sandwich, I can use my clean fork and knife to transfer a piece over to my friend’s plate. I don’t need to pick it up, let alone let her take a bite out of my sandwich before eating it myself.

Do you really think you can’t get sick from “family germs?”

[Anonymous]

I once put a big serving bow of cut watermelon on the table after dinner, with a serving fork in it. I set several smaller plates and forks on the table too.

BIL, who wasn’t closest to the bowl, grabbed the serving fork and started eating the watermelon out of the large bowl, with the serving fork- as of it was his person bowl. Raised by wolves.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I once put a big serving bow of cut watermelon on the table after dinner, with a serving fork in it. I set several smaller plates and forks on the table too.

BIL, who wasn’t closest to the bowl, grabbed the serving fork and started eating the watermelon out of the large bowl, with the serving fork- as of it was his person bowl. Raised by wolves.

I finally had the excuse, post-COVID, to explain to my FIL in front of everyone that I put out serving utensils and individual plates for a reason, and he is expected to use them as serving utensils and not has his own personal shovels. Everyone laughed and clapped, and MIL said, "DID YOU HEAR THAT, STU?" I then said it's not just in COVID times, it's for all times.

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Anonymous wrote:I once put a big serving bow of cut watermelon on the table after dinner, with a serving fork in it. I set several smaller plates and forks on the table too.

BIL, who wasn’t closest to the bowl, grabbed the serving fork and started eating the watermelon out of the large bowl, with the serving fork- as of it was his person bowl. Raised by wolves.

I finally had the excuse, post-COVID, to explain to my FIL in front of everyone that I put out serving utensils and individual plates for a reason, and he is expected to use them as serving utensils and not has his own personal shovels. Everyone laughed and clapped, and MIL said, "DID YOU HEAR THAT, STU?" I then said it's not just in COVID times, it's for all times.

Niiiiice!!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Guess weird gross habits skip a generation.

-gen x

millennial here ... honest question, do you people really never take a sip of your parent's drinks? or share french fries or other finger foods from the same plate? try your parent's dish that they are eating???

it boggles my mind to be so grossed out by a loved one's saliva ... strangers, sure! but a loved one i am sharing living accommodations with ... NBD to me

or play board games, puzzles, share remotes ... again, i am confused how someone living with a person is so fearful of their germs. Newflash, their germs are already everywhere in your shared abode.

You lick board games and puzzles?

We share finger food in my family, but I don't need to share an ice cream cone with my saliva-obsessed parents. For example, if we are out at an ice cream shop my dad must take a huge slobbery lick if he's passing a cone to someone. Without asking. Gross.

Nasty.

Wait, you’re at DQ (or wherever) and your dad is buying soft-serve ice cream cones for everyone and before he hands it to you he takes a big lick off of it first? That is completely ridiculous!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I once put a big serving bow of cut watermelon on the table after dinner, with a serving fork in it. I set several smaller plates and forks on the table too.

BIL, who wasn’t closest to the bowl, grabbed the serving fork and started eating the watermelon out of the large bowl, with the serving fork- as of it was his person bowl. Raised by wolves.

I finally had the excuse, post-COVID, to explain to my FIL in front of everyone that I put out serving utensils and individual plates for a reason, and he is expected to use them as serving utensils and not has his own personal shovels. Everyone laughed and clapped, and MIL said, "DID YOU HEAR THAT, STU?" I then said it's not just in COVID times, it's for all times.

Niiiiice!!!

+1. Classic.