Nanny wants to bring son
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Anonymous
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We interviewed a nanny that we really liked a lot and at the end of the interview she mentioned that she has a 2.5 year old son and she would love to bring him with her to work if we are open to it. She brought him to her last job and it was never an issue so she is hoping to find another family who is open to this arrangement as well.
I have a 2 year old too and while part of me thinks it would be awesome for him to have a buddy, I worry that logistics would be tricky. I have a 6 year old also so a big part of the job is picking her up from school and taking her to activities a few days a week. Wrangling two 2 year olds and dragging them around could be pretty challenging. I also planned for my 2 year old to do a couple classes like music and gym, and don’t know how or if it would work if there is always an extra kid in tow. The nanny says her 2 year old is really well behaved, but I am sure all 2 year olds have their moments and I don’t know if he would take away from her doing her job to the fullest. Has anyone had an arrangement like this before and how does it work for you? Is it crazy to consider this? |
Anonymous
| Driving around 3 kids is too much, plus the classes etc. Too complicated. |
Anonymous
| Summer only position? |
Anonymous
| Salary should be lower with her own child there. Your kids get less attention. Not sure about classes...I would not feel right asking her to pay for herf kid. I might pass. |
Anonymous
| I would expect a much lower salary and then you have the classes issue of who would pay for that, food, and other things (though food for a two year old is no big deal). I would find someone who can focus on your kids. Occasionally, fine, once a week, fine but not every day. |
Anonymous
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Honestly, this sounds like a crappy nanny share where you always host and you pay the full rate.
Also, classes would be a mess. Most classes for 2-year olds require an adult. She would need to go with her kid too. One of the biggest benefits of a nanny is that you don’t have to compromise on activities. Her child pretty much negates that benefit. Nobody does this. |
Anonymous
| It’s fine if you want a nanny share where the other mom is the caretaker. I can’t believe she didn’t bring this up until the end of the interview. |
Anonymous
| I think it is fine! Your son will have a playmate. Keep salary the same. |
Anonymous
| What is the pay rate? If it’s relatively low for this market I’d be far more open than if it’s $25/hr. |
Anonymous
Yeah. I think it’s a huge red flag that she didn’t bring up that she wants free nanny share until the end. That’s a huge ask. Think about it: is there any other scenario where you would pay for a stranger’s daily childcare? This is the reason her prior family let her go. |
Anonymous
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Next. |
Anonymous
lol I’m a mom and I drive my 3 kids all the time. That’s not an issue. I do think it’s not worth it to pay for a nanny when you’re getting a nanny share. |
Anonymous
| Definitely pass. Super shady she didn't bring up having her own kid tag along until the end. |
Anonymous
| Thank you, next. |
Anonymous
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Does your 2-year old still nap? How is she going to focus on putting him down when her 2 year old is there as well?
She needs to be AWESOME to allow this but also I would not pay full rate. (maybe slightly less) It's free childcare for her. |