Nanny wants to bring son

[Anonymous]

Not a chance, especially since she wasn't up front about it. That's just sneaky and would make me feel like she's not trustworthy at all.

Hard pass.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Driving around 3 kids is too much, plus the classes etc. Too complicated.

lol

I’m a mom and I drive my 3 kids all the time. That’s not an issue. I do think it’s not worth it to pay for a nanny when you’re getting a nanny share.

+100

Most of these “how will she X with a third kid there?!” posts make me laugh. Somehow she will. And maybe her kid has to watch the charge do gymnastics while he watches a video on the nanny’s phone, but that’s not OP’s problem to police.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Driving around 3 kids is too much, plus the classes etc. Too complicated.

lol

I’m a mom and I drive my 3 kids all the time. That’s not an issue. I do think it’s not worth it to pay for a nanny when you’re getting a nanny share.

+100

Most of these “how will she X with a third kid there?!” posts make me laugh. Somehow she will. And maybe her kid has to watch the charge do gymnastics while he watches a video on the nanny’s phone, but that’s not OP’s problem to police.

There are some classes that require a 1:1 child to adult ratio. The nanny won't be allowed to let her own child just sit on a chair in the waiting room.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think it is fine! Your son will have a playmate. Keep salary the same.

Ha! This is funny.

Do you pay for childcare for anyone else’s kids? This is such a big ask that I can’t believe she waited until the end of the interview to bring it up. She wants full time free childcare paid for by her employer. I don’t know anyone who gets that as a perk.

[Anonymous]

Ummm, nope.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
Next.

This. Nope! Sorry, but if I wanted this sort of arrangement I’d have my kid in daycare or in-home childcare type place.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think it is fine! Your son will have a playmate. Keep salary the same.

Or if op wants her child to have a playmate she can do a nanny share and pay ~40% less

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s fine if you want a nanny share where the other mom is the caretaker. I can’t believe she didn’t bring this up until the end of the interview.

Yeah. I think it’s a huge red flag that she didn’t bring up that she wants free nanny share until the end. That’s a huge ask. Think about it: is there any other scenario where you would pay for a stranger’s daily childcare?

This is the reason her prior family let her go.

+1. It’s frequently tried and the answer is “no”. You are hiring a professional to watch over your child. The times we tried it, the child turned out to be a screamer, was sick and brought frequent colds into the house. Nanny was paying more attention to sin and asking for time off to take him to drs and places.

[Anonymous]

Is she giving you a huge discount? Like $10/hour discount? Otherwise, no n

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is she giving you a huge discount? Like $10/hour discount? Otherwise, no n

Even with the huge discount I would much rather seek out a nanny share than have a nanny watching her own child along with mine.

[Anonymous]

Guess I'm an outlier but that sounds ideal.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s fine if you want a nanny share where the other mom is the caretaker. I can’t believe she didn’t bring this up until the end of the interview.

Yeah. I think it’s a huge red flag that she didn’t bring up that she wants free nanny share until the end. That’s a huge ask. Think about it: is there any other scenario where you would pay for a stranger’s daily childcare?

This is the reason her prior family let her go.

+1. It’s frequently tried and the answer is “no”. You are hiring a professional to watch over your child. The times we tried it, the child turned out to be a screamer, was sick and brought frequent colds into the house. Nanny was paying more attention to sin and asking for time off to take him to drs and places.

+1

Hell to the no, OP. Awful slick of her to try it, though.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Guess I'm an outlier but that sounds ideal.

Curious what about the scenario is ideal to you?

[Anonymous]

The novelty will wear off after a week. Your 2 yr old may not want to share his toys, get along with nanny's kid, etc.

Wgat about logistics about potty training, naps, food preferences, eating habits, etc.
Even language.

And your 6 ur old is done with school by now, no? So that shouldn't be an issue with daily pickups/dropoffs

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The novelty will wear off after a week. Your 2 yr old may not want to share his toys, get along with nanny's kid, etc.

Wgat about logistics about potty training, naps, food preferences, eating habits, etc.
Even language.

And your 6 ur old is done with school by now, no? So that shouldn't be an issue with daily pickups/dropoffs

Agreed. Play dates are fun but having another person there all the time will get old. Naps you can work out pretty easily, but the lack of boundaries will be annoying and will create problems you can’t even imagine right now.