Nanny wants to bring son

[Anonymous]

I posted that it seemed ideal because it will help your child's social development.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I posted that it seemed ideal because it will help your child's social development.

Nah. This sounds like a mess.

[Anonymous]

As a mother of 2 year old twins I would decline the offer. Extracurriculars are the hardest thing right now at their ages and that sounds like a huge part of your vision of having a nanny.

[Anonymous]

I personally would have an issue that she mentioned her son would be coming along at the end of her interview.
It sounds like she tricked you in a way.

She got you guys to like her, then she added in a very important logistic that will totally affect the dynamic of the job.

I wouldn’t trust someone who operates like this.
Continue your Nanny search.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I personally would have an issue that she mentioned her son would be coming along at the end of her interview.
It sounds like she tricked you in a way.

She got you guys to like her, then she added in a very important logistic that will totally affect the dynamic of the job.

I wouldn’t trust someone who operates like this.
Continue your Nanny search.

Agreed
She should have mentioned it earlier and been more honest

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I guarantee you that’s why she got let go from her last nanny job

I would bet anything this is the case.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I posted that it seemed ideal because it will help your child's social development.

Maybe if it was June 2020 and everyone was still isolating. This year the kid can go on play dates, take classes and everything’s open. An extra 2 year old will not be helpful in the slightest. In fact, it basically means the 6 year old will definitely be an afterthought. She’ll become the nanny’s helper with the little ones, which is probably not the dynamic OP wants her daughter to get accustomed to.

[Anonymous]

No way

[Anonymous]

You charge her 20 /hour for her kid

[Anonymous]

We did this for about 3 weeks before I let her go. We had young twins and it just didn’t work. She also ate everything. She went onto another job where it was a strict “no way” and the neighbor complained that the new employer “treated her like a nanny” no kid allowed.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You charge her 20 /hour for her kid

That’s insane. This is a nanny share with 3 kids (2 for OP and 1 for the nanny.) While an argument could be made that the 2 year olds take up most of the nanny’s time her share should be between 30 to 40% of the share.

[Anonymous]

We also used teens as babysitters. They were good but they would ask if they could take our kids to “their homes”. That turned out to be “their other jobs” at a nursing home so no. Preschool the best thing that ever happened for my kids. No nanny / babysitter.

[Anonymous]

It does not sound horrible to me, frankly. Maybe it is cultural that I am very accepting of female nannies and cleaners bringing their own kids to work at my house. I support WOHMs as much as I can.

In your shoes, I would pay for all kinds of enrichment activities for the kids to do together, so that the nanny would be less like a worker and more invested in childcare like a mother would. Of course, you have to try out and see if the chemistry is good and how this whole arrangement works.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:As a mother of 2 year old twins I would decline the offer. Extracurriculars are the hardest thing right now at their ages and that sounds like a huge part of your vision of having a nanny.

Same. My 2yo twins are awesome but OMG are a handful. And when our oldest is in the mix, even our VERY experienced nanny finds it a bit challenging for long stretches.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It does not sound horrible to me, frankly. Maybe it is cultural that I am very accepting of female nannies and cleaners bringing their own kids to work at my house. I support WOHMs as much as I can.

In your shoes, I would pay for all kinds of enrichment activities for the kids to do together, so that the nanny would be less like a worker and more invested in childcare like a mother would. Of course, you have to try out and see if the chemistry is good and how this whole arrangement works.

I am glad you can afford this. Not many can.