Why are men on dating apps losers?

[Anonymous]

Looking at 35-42 range as a 34 year old woman.

SO disappointing. I don't even have a cat!

Where are the normal, well-to-do, professional ones?

[Anonymous]

If you're not encountering them on the apps you're not their type. I had no problem finding and dating nice/normal professional men, now engaged to one who I met on Tinder.

What do you offer?

[Anonymous]

Married or not interested in you. You can lower your standards, figure out how to interest people you don't think are losers, or be alone. Which are the same choices as the men you're seeing have.

[Anonymous]

It's a numbers game. There may be a lot of them but they can't *all* be losers. Some of them are normal guys just like you, give them a chance and find out!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you're not encountering them on the apps you're not their type. I had no problem finding and dating nice/normal professional men, now engaged to one who I met on Tinder.

What do you offer?

Op here. This came across as unnecessarily snarky? How do you know I am not their type?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Married or not interested in you. You can lower your standards, figure out how to interest people you don't think are losers, or be alone. Which are the same choices as the men you're seeing have.

this, the good men in that age range are married, in a long term relationship and soon to be married or have very high standards

[Anonymous]

The men you are into are not interested in you. Also what do you mean by "well-to-do?" Are we talking college-educated professionals with respectable stable employment and salaries or are you looking for multimillionaires?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you're not encountering them on the apps you're not their type. I had no problem finding and dating nice/normal professional men, now engaged to one who I met on Tinder.

What do you offer?

Op here. This came across as unnecessarily snarky? How do you know I am not their type?

Not PP, but how do you know men on dating apps are losers?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you're not encountering them on the apps you're not their type. I had no problem finding and dating nice/normal professional men, now engaged to one who I met on Tinder.

What do you offer?

Op here. This came across as unnecessarily snarky? How do you know I am not their type?

because they aren't matching with you

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you're not encountering them on the apps you're not their type. I had no problem finding and dating nice/normal professional men, now engaged to one who I met on Tinder.

What do you offer?

Op here. This came across as unnecessarily snarky? How do you know I am not their type?

Because you're not dating them. Or: they aren't dating you.

[Anonymous]

That is a hard age to find men that aren't married or losers. And at that age, they might already come with ex wives and kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you're not encountering them on the apps you're not their type. I had no problem finding and dating nice/normal professional men, now engaged to one who I met on Tinder.

What do you offer?

Op here. This came across as unnecessarily snarky? How do you know I am not their type?

because they aren't matching with you

+1. The way dating app work, you tend to see people who the algorithms think are likely to match with you. So if you're seeing people you think are losers, it's because the people you think aren't losers are swiping left on you. I'm a loser in the dating market (overweight and married) and when I've used apps I mostly tend to see less conventionally desirable women.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you're not encountering them on the apps you're not their type. I had no problem finding and dating nice/normal professional men, now engaged to one who I met on Tinder.

What do you offer?

Op here. This came across as unnecessarily snarky? How do you know I am not their type?

Not PP, but how do you know men on dating apps are losers?

The ones I match with are overweight or have blue collar professions.

Two of them started talking chatting within 5 minutes.

Poor grammar.

Confessions of prior infidelity.

etc.

[Anonymous]

Good men are snapped up already

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you're not encountering them on the apps you're not their type. I had no problem finding and dating nice/normal professional men, now engaged to one who I met on Tinder.

What do you offer?

Op here. This came across as unnecessarily snarky? How do you know I am not their type?

Not PP, but how do you know men on dating apps are losers?

The ones I match with are overweight or have blue collar professions.

Two of them started talking chatting within 5 minutes.

Poor grammar.

Confessions of prior infidelity.

etc.

Again, what do you bring to the table?