If You Are Significantly Smarter Than Your Spouse...

[Anonymous]

And married for 10+ years, how's it going?

I have always been smarter than DH. In our 20s, it was a non issue because our past times revolved around social outtings (bars, sporting events, travel, family and friend gatherings etc.) In our 30s he started reading and watching more news to keep up with me. I've become fatigued by news and I basically stopped watching it in 2019, but I still read and stay intellectually engaged on other issues. However, since I don't watch the news as much anymore, DH doesnt either.
We're now in our 40s and in the past year, he's reverted back to spending most of his time watching dumb internet videos, think "Ridiculousness" on MTV. Whenever we discuss anything, I'm noticing that he's just not that smart. His judgement is off and he has zero critical analysis.
He's never been that smart and I'm wondering if it's an age thing...will he get even worse by 50? Or is it more related to the things he spends his off time doing.
And if you have a spouse that is much less intelligent than you, did it become an issue later in your marriage?

[Anonymous]

Watching the news as opposed to reading is usually a sign that someone is not that smart and very basic.

[Anonymous]

Somewhere there’s a spouse posting on another forum about how his wife is becoming more insufferable as the years go on.

[Anonymous]

Do you have any shared interests? “Being smart” is a very arrogant and intellectually lazy way of thinking about this mismatch. He just doesn’t seem interested or curious about the same things you are.

[Anonymous]

Let me guess, you are considering divorce because he is not your intellectual equal. But he makes more money than you so divorce at this point in your life would be bad for you. You are a snob!!!!!

[Anonymous]

You knew he wasn't very intellectual when you married him. Can't complain now!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Do you have any shared interests? “Being smart” is a very arrogant and intellectually lazy way of thinking about this mismatch. He just doesn’t seem interested or curious about the same things you are.

That's a really good point. And maybe COVID has exacerbated our differences. Our shared interests are sports, travel, and other social outtings that we haven't been able to experience much in the past year.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You knew he wasn't very intellectual when you married him. Can't complain now!

I was actually looking for people who are experiencing the same, but there don't seem to be any.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Let me guess, you are considering divorce because he is not your intellectual equal. But he makes more money than you so divorce at this point in your life would be bad for you. You are a snob!!!!!

Not considering divorcing and he doesn't make more than me.

[Anonymous]

LOL. OP, if you were as smart as you seem to think you are, you’d have noticed this before you got married.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:LOL. OP, if you were as smart as you seem to think you are, you’d have noticed this before you got married.

Pretty much. Most women only want to date men that are at least equally intelligent and that's evident early on.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You knew he wasn't very intellectual when you married him. Can't complain now!

I was actually looking for people who are experiencing the same, but there don't seem to be any.

Yeah, the shallow elitists just aren’t posting this weekend.

[Anonymous]

I’m more academically intelligent than my wife, but she has a much higher emotional IQ than me. OP, you don’t have to refer to your husband in such demeaning terms. You do seem insufferable.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:LOL. OP, if you were as smart as you seem to think you are, you’d have noticed this before you got married.

Did you read the post? I started by saying that I've always been smarter than him. He and I both know this and it's no secret. Why is this offending people?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m more academically intelligent than my wife, but she has a much higher emotional IQ than me. OP, you don’t have to refer to your husband in such demeaning terms. You do seem insufferable.

I honestly, didnt mean to be demeaning. I was just providing and honest and anonymous summary of my thoughts, but I'll take your point into consideration. I don't want it to come off that way to him.