What would you change about DCUM?

[Anonymous]

It is annoying when someone replies to an already long thread that multiple people have already replied to. Wish their was a way to condense the prior posts so we aren't scrolling to get to new material.

[Anonymous]

Make people sign up, like on reddit. I bet it'll limit the nasty responses and name-calling.

[Anonymous]

Agreed. So annoying when someone replies to a really long OP (thus copying the OP) instead of just replying below the OP.

[Anonymous]

I wish people weren’t so mean. I’ve gotten such helpful advice many times but there are always a few bad apples that spoil the bunch. I’ve noticed the first response is unkind it really sets the tone for the following responses.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I wish people weren’t so mean. I’ve gotten such helpful advice many times but there are always a few bad apples that spoil the bunch. I’ve noticed the first response is unkind it really sets the tone for the following responses.

Agree. I'll never know why I come here looking for help to have people literally write, "you're a horrible person, OP."

Erm. Thanks for that.

[Anonymous]

Less racism and sexism.

No more sexless marriage guy turning unrelated threads into his personal venting session.

[Anonymous]

I enjoy and appreciate this forum for the most part. Here are a few things I would change:

1) I would like posts from people who, if not trolls, post the same thing, using the same language, in every thread, even if the posts aren't relevant, to be removed when reported.
2) I wouldn't mind a forum that was just for support, where no judging is allowed. Every time I vow to quit this forum, it is after reading a post from a struggling person who clearly is looking for empathy get judged and torn apart by vicious DCUMers.

[Anonymous]

I would add a coronavirus forum so I could skip all the posts about it. They are all the same 4-5 questions.

I would ban my IP address because I don't understand why I keep wasting my time by coming back.

[Anonymous]

The ability to filter certain forums from appearing in "recent topics". The ability to "hide" a certain post.

[Anonymous]

I would make people sign an affidavit under penalty of perjury that they read the original post so there aren't a million questions asking for information that was clearly stated.

[Anonymous]

Ban the words "stupid" and "idiot" and the phrase, "try to keep up".

[Anonymous]

I wish everyone who complains about meanness would report posts with no redeeming value. Jeff is good about removing them, but he can't be expected to seek them all out.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would add a coronavirus forum so I could skip all the posts about it. They are all the same 4-5 questions.

I would ban my IP address because I don't understand why I keep wasting my time by coming back.

+1 to a feature that we could use to ban ourselves.

[Anonymous]

I would like an option so that an OP of a thread could add something to their post - like a sticker or something - so it's easier to figure out if they replied. But probably too difficult since its anonymous posting

Also would love an easy way to bookmark threads

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I enjoy and appreciate this forum for the most part. Here are a few things I would change:

1) I would like posts from people who, if not trolls, post the same thing, using the same language, in every thread, even if the posts aren't relevant, to be removed when reported.
2) I wouldn't mind a forum that was just for support, where no judging is allowed. Every time I vow to quit this forum, it is after reading a post from a struggling person who clearly is looking for empathy get judged and torn apart by vicious DCUMers.

I love #2. I do come on here some times for more practical info (like I'll post in the Infants/Toddlers thread when I'm looking for a specific product, or same thing with Fashion/Beauty). I like the crowd sourcing aspect.

But the threads I enjoy the most are the ones where people are just discussing kind of thorny personal issues and looking for empathy and support. It's the most human thing about DCUM and has been a genuine source of support for me during the pandemic. But it can be very hard to maintain that kind of interaction because there is almost always someone who will come in and just be cruel or purposefully obtuse. There are also a lot of people on DCUM who think people are ALWAYS looking for advice. Even when they don't ask for it. I am so tired of all the posts from people demanding additional info about a situation "so we can give you better advice" or getting mad at an OP for "refusing to take our thoughtful advice." Every time, I'm like "They don't want advice! You just feel a pathological need to give it out! You need to examine your impulses for controlling other people because if you're like this on here, imagine how the people who actually know you must feel!"

But I don't, because it wouldn't be productive.