Confessions

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You guys cannot be parents. If you are, you're as bad as the South Carolina governor...willing to risk everything, for what?...a buzz? Grow the hell up.

It's a confession thread, not a tell-other-people-whom-I've-never-met-what-to-do thread. If you have nothing to confess, what the hell are you doing around here? Shouldn't you be out attending a pro-life rally or trying to get a book banned somewhere?

Well, for one thing I'm pro-choice. I'm looking at something not IMMORAL but something ILLEGAL. And as small as the risk may be of getting caught and prosecuted, I simply fail to see why a couple of good belts of scotch cannot accomplish the same thing.

I stand by my statement: Grow the hell up.

And I confess that I invade confession threads and tell people I don't know that they are acting like IDIOTS just so that they can feel young and cool again, when they are not young and cool, they have fricken children to raise, and they should think about what they would have to say to their children and the parents at their precious independent schools when they are prosecuted for possession.

[Anonymous]

I think right now might be a good time for you to take the belt of Scotch you were talking about.

[Anonymous]

Do pot smoking parents beget pot smoking kids?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think right now might be a good time for you to take the belt of Scotch you were talking about.

I was going to come back with another pissy comment, as I usually enjoy this back and forth. But, just to provide a little context to my bitchy statements, maybe it would be helpful to know I was the kid whose mother WAS arrested. I don't know why someone would think it's worth it to put their kids through that. I was 12 years old and everyone in my school knew my mom got arrested. And even if some people thought it was cool, I can tell you it was emotionally scarring (uh...obviously). I couldn't look at my kids if I knew I was deliberately putting their emotional well being in jeopardy for something as selfish as a few hits of pot.

[Anonymous]

You mother was arrested for smoking pot? Just smoking pot? Not selling pot or smoking meth or something else? All the kids at school knew about it? How? I'm sorry for your experience but why do I think there may be a little bit more to the story? And your experience non-withstanding, you still do not have the right to tell others what to do, although you certainly have the right to express your opinion.

[Anonymous]

I don't smoke pot nor my husband. We haven't in years, me since college and he since his early 20s, but we were never really into it anyway.

I don't see the big deal with adults smoking pot every once in a while. It is really rare to hear of professional adults getting "busted" for toking up once in a blue moon.

Drunk driving is much more common, and much more dangerous. If you smoke a bit of pot it is really no different than having a glass of wine or two in terms of reflexes (meaning you shouldn't drive, but you could react to things).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You mother was arrested for smoking pot? Just smoking pot? Not selling pot or smoking meth or something else? All the kids at school knew about it? How? I'm sorry for your experience but why do I think there may be a little bit more to the story? And your experience non-withstanding, you still do not have the right to tell others what to do, although you certainly have the right to express your opinion.

No, my mom was arrested for drunk driving. I don't know if there is a gigantic difference (obviously, I think drunk driving is far more dangerous, but back in the day it elicited the same no-big-deal eye rolling). The point was that my mother's improvident, selfish behavior ended up leaving a scar on three kids. You may never get busted for smoking pot, but given that's it's illegal, why the hell not do something else? That's simple cost-benefit analysis.

And as for not having the right to tell others what to do, this whole FORUM is people (mostly uninformed, opinionated, self-righteous people) telling other people what to do.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You mother was arrested for smoking pot? Just smoking pot? Not selling pot or smoking meth or something else? All the kids at school knew about it? How? I'm sorry for your experience but why do I think there may be a little bit more to the story? And your experience non-withstanding, you still do not have the right to tell others what to do, although you certainly have the right to express your opinion.

Man, when one kid's dad got arrested for dealing reefer in my school he got more popular!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You mother was arrested for smoking pot? Just smoking pot? Not selling pot or smoking meth or something else? All the kids at school knew about it? How? I'm sorry for your experience but why do I think there may be a little bit more to the story? And your experience non-withstanding, you still do not have the right to tell others what to do, although you certainly have the right to express your opinion.

No, my mom was arrested for drunk driving. I don't know if there is a gigantic difference (obviously, I think drunk driving is far more dangerous, but back in the day it elicited the same no-big-deal eye rolling). The point was that my mother's improvident, selfish behavior ended up leaving a scar on three kids. You may never get busted for smoking pot, but given that's it's illegal, why the hell not do something else? That's simple cost-benefit analysis.

And as for not having the right to tell others what to do, this whole FORUM is people (mostly uninformed, opinionated, self-righteous people) telling other people what to do.

How can you even compare drunk driving to smoking pot???

First off, I don't smoke pot, or use any drugs (I actually hate even taking Advil) and I'm not a big drinker. But the stigma around drunk driving, is, and should be worse. And if you think otherwise, don't you dare say that to someone who has a loved one who has been killed by a drunk driver.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You mother was arrested for smoking pot? Just smoking pot? Not selling pot or smoking meth or something else? All the kids at school knew about it? How? I'm sorry for your experience but why do I think there may be a little bit more to the story? And your experience non-withstanding, you still do not have the right to tell others what to do, although you certainly have the right to express your opinion.

No, my mom was arrested for drunk driving. I don't know if there is a gigantic difference (obviously, I think drunk driving is far more dangerous, but back in the day it elicited the same no-big-deal eye rolling). The point was that my mother's improvident, selfish behavior ended up leaving a scar on three kids. You may never get busted for smoking pot, but given that's it's illegal, why the hell not do something else? That's simple cost-benefit analysis.

And as for not having the right to tell others what to do, this whole FORUM is people (mostly uninformed, opinionated, self-righteous people) telling other people what to do.

How can you even compare drunk driving to smoking pot???

First off, I don't smoke pot, or use any drugs (I actually hate even taking Advil) and I'm not a big drinker. But the stigma around drunk driving, is, and should be worse. And if you think otherwise, don't you dare say that to someone who has a loved one who has been killed by a drunk driver.

Oh, your right, because pot smokers never toke up and drive. I know/knew more people willing to get high and drive than drink and drive.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How can you even compare drunk driving to smoking pot???

First off, I don't smoke pot, or use any drugs (I actually hate even taking Advil) and I'm not a big drinker. But the stigma around drunk driving, is, and should be worse. And if you think otherwise, don't you dare say that to someone who has a loved one who has been killed by a drunk driver.

While I agree with you, I think you are missing my point. Aside from the fact that drunk driving can kill someone (and thankfully in my mother's case did not), at the time my mother was arrested (late 1970s) it was NOT vilified the way it is (rightfully) today. My scarring had nothing to do with the fact that my mom might have killed someone (that is an emotion I dealt with later in a more mature way). I'm talking strictly about the scarring from having a mother get arrested. Perhaps the comparison is not exact, but having been so impacted by the shame of a parent hauled off to jail, having people talk and laugh about it, having to hope people would forget it...I am perhaps overly sensitive to the implications of our selfish parental actions. My issue with smoking pot is that it is illegal, which I have no problems with if you don't have kids. Once you have kids, however, I think you have to reassess your priorities (and pleasures). That's all.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How can you even compare drunk driving to smoking pot???

First off, I don't smoke pot, or use any drugs (I actually hate even taking Advil) and I'm not a big drinker. But the stigma around drunk driving, is, and should be worse. And if you think otherwise, don't you dare say that to someone who has a loved one who has been killed by a drunk driver.

While I agree with you, I think you are missing my point. Aside from the fact that drunk driving can kill someone (and thankfully in my mother's case did not), at the time my mother was arrested (late 1970s) it was NOT vilified the way it is (rightfully) today. My scarring had nothing to do with the fact that my mom might have killed someone (that is an emotion I dealt with later in a more mature way). I'm talking strictly about the scarring from having a mother get arrested. Perhaps the comparison is not exact, but having been so impacted by the shame of a parent hauled off to jail, having people talk and laugh about it, having to hope people would forget it...I am perhaps overly sensitive to the implications of our selfish parental actions. My issue with smoking pot is that it is illegal, which I have no problems with if you don't have kids. Once you have kids, however, I think you have to reassess your priorities (and pleasures). That's all.

I guess I just have never heard of any professional adult getting arrested for pot smoking. Drunk driving, yes. And kids at my high school got in trouble for pot. But adults? I've just never heard.

Again, I don't do it, so I'm not defending myself, I just think it's not THAT big of a deal, if it's every once in a while and not a regular habit. Supposedly responsible, professional adults think nothing of having a couple glasses of wine or two beers and driving home after a cocktail party or happy hour. And that pisses me off.

I guess in my mind, because pot is illegal, I'm thinking of the professional adults you are chastising are more likely to do it at home when they are in for the night, kids are in bed or something. And not out driving. That was my only point.

[Anonymous]

Thought getting busted for pot was more commonly something along the lines of getting pulled over for a driving violation like expired tags, light out or failure to come to a complete stop at a stop sign. The cop smells it or realizes you are high, does a search and finds it. Or your neighbor calls the police to complain about the noise from your party. They come over to tell you to keep it down and they smell it or see someone with it.

[Anonymous]

I can confirm that, in DC at least, you get a warning/ticket for smoking up on your own property (porch, backyard, etc), not arrested or anything like that. Doing it in public would likely be a different story, but I don't know anyone who has experienced this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I can confirm that, in DC at least, you get a warning/ticket for smoking up on your own property (porch, backyard, etc), not arrested or anything like that. Doing it in public would likely be a different story, but I don't know anyone who has experienced this.

What's the violation listed on the ticket?