FWB disappeared. Minimal explanation.

[Anonymous]

I’ve been working a remote job for the last 8 weeks - I have access to wifi but texts or pictures sometimes get delayed

I was going to see my FWB first thing when I got back - he was going to pick me up from the airport. He sent me a text yesterday (iMessage) and now Im suddenly blocked on all social media. My messages to him go through as text messages.

I sent him an email and all he said back was "I had to let uou go."

It’s been 8 years of on ans off. He’s the best in bed I’ve ever had. He ended it just like that...?

[Anonymous]

He obviously is in an exclusive relationship. Maybe he was for a while and got caught hooking up with you.

[Anonymous]

That is part of the FWB contract. Sucks (and I’ve been on both sides) but it’s part of the entire point. It’s separate and apart from actual life. Clearly something happened and he needed to pull the plug. Don’t become a cliche over it.

[Anonymous]

There was zero indication on his social media of a relationship! No tagged photos - nothing. The last few weeks have been pent up back and forth steamy text messages/photos/videos and now he just cuts me off.

It really, really sucks. And no, I’m not trying to be cliche but I’ve always had a soft spot for him.

[Anonymous]

It seems fair to ask for a further explanation.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There was zero indication on his social media of a relationship! No tagged photos - nothing. The last few weeks have been pent up back and forth steamy text messages/photos/videos and now he just cuts me off.

It really, really sucks. And no, I’m not trying to be cliche but I’ve always had a soft spot for him.

In other words it was a FWB situation for him but not for you (even though you said it was), and now you’re on the cusp of delivering full blown end of relationship drama when it’s over.

[Anonymous]

It’s hurtful when someone discards you like trash, and without trash. Let these actions speak loudly for you and keep it in mind as you meet other people that may exhibit similar characteristics, while also holding on to your standards.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It seems fair to ask for a further explanation.

Someone that ghosts doesn’t care about etiquette, decorum, good mannerisms. People that have good taste know how to end an 8-ye long casual relationship ship. You don’t have to be dramatic, but you don’t have to just disappear like you died from COVID and no longer exist on the face of this earth.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He obviously is in an exclusive relationship. Maybe he was for a while and got caught hooking up with you.

This. And the fact that he doesn't appear to be in a relationship online means nothing.

The best thing you can do is go cold turkey. stop trying to contact him. Block and delete and move on. If tries to come back ignore him him. Get therapy if you need it.

In the future be honest with yourself about what you are looking for. Don't enter a FWB situation trying to convince him to be your boyfriend, and be honest if you start catching feelings and wanting more and get out.

[Anonymous]

He found someone else that he likes enough to be in a real relationship with. He was just using you for sex. Now that he is having sex with someone he likes enough to be exclusive with, he doesn’t want you in his life. If you can’t deal with that, don’t have friends with benefits.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It seems fair to ask for a further explanation.

Someone that ghosts doesn’t care about etiquette, decorum, good mannerisms. People that have good taste know how to end an 8-ye long casual relationship ship. You don’t have to be dramatic, but you don’t have to just disappear like you died from COVID and no longer exist on the face of this earth.

Did this guy just disappear? It sounds like he ended the relationship abruptly, but that’s not necessarily ghosting. She’s within her rights to ask for more info about what’s going on.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It seems fair to ask for a further explanation.

Someone that ghosts doesn’t care about etiquette, decorum, good mannerisms. People that have good taste know how to end an 8-ye long casual relationship ship. You don’t have to be dramatic, but you don’t have to just disappear like you died from COVID and no longer exist on the face of this earth.

Did this guy just disappear? It sounds like he ended the relationship abruptly, but that’s not necessarily ghosting. She’s within her rights to ask for more info about what’s going on.

The title literally says that the FWB disappeared. I agree that OP is well within her right to ask for a relationship debrief, but my larger point is someone you’ve known for that long, 8 years on and off to be that inconsiderate? You are probably missing a lot of other unpleasant truths about thus person. I’ve been a FWB and know how things go down. This isn’t a friend. This is a FB.a buddy at best.

[Anonymous]

He should pay for your Uber from the airport 😠

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It seems fair to ask for a further explanation.

Someone that ghosts doesn’t care about etiquette, decorum, good mannerisms. People that have good taste know how to end an 8-ye long casual relationship ship. You don’t have to be dramatic, but you don’t have to just disappear like you died from COVID and no longer exist on the face of this earth.

Did this guy just disappear? It sounds like he ended the relationship abruptly, but that’s not necessarily ghosting. She’s within her rights to ask for more info about what’s going on.

The title literally says that the FWB disappeared. I agree that OP is well within her right to ask for a relationship debrief, but my larger point is someone you’ve known for that long, 8 years on and off to be that inconsiderate? You are probably missing a lot of other unpleasant truths about thus person. I’ve been a FWB and know how things go down. This isn’t a friend. This is a FB.a buddy at best.

Thank you. Maybe casual sex isn't as easy as many people think and not having any strings is a little tougher than first realized? He is under no obligation to explain anything to you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He found someone else that he likes enough to be in a real relationship with. He was just using you for sex. Now that he is having sex with someone he likes enough to be exclusive with, he doesn’t want you in his life. If you can’t deal with that, don’t have friends with benefits.

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