Husband’s cousin thinks I upstaged her at wedding
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Anonymous
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Small wedding due to covid. Just to preface, I wore this https://www.unique-vintage.com/collections/plus-size-dresses/products/unique-vintage-plus-size-1950s-black-sasha-swing-dress with pearls and a pair of black Mary Jane heels,
I’m 26 but I have the soul of a 60 year old. It’s just my style. The bride wore a mid thigh reddish body con dress. It’s her style, her wedding and her dress was nothing like the one I wore. Their colors were red and black. The wedding was at an upscale restaurant and I checked with her before to make sure her dress wasn’t black because she had mentioned liking black wedding dresses. So I was surprised when she called my husband (her cousin) from her honeymoon to say that she felt upstaged by my outfit. I feel like a terrible person. Would you feel offended by this dress?? |
Anonymous
| No, your dress was fine. I’m pretty confused about the thigh-length red body con as the wedding dress, though. |
Anonymous
| Its kinda boring and ugly but go for it. A 60 year old isn't wearing that. A 4 year old would. |
Anonymous
No, it's fine and seems appropriate -- I would just ignore. |
Anonymous
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No. Not at all.
TBH it looks like something you'd wear to a funeral, but it's not offensive in the least. |
Anonymous
Hahaha. No you don't. I cannot imagine a 60-y-o wearing this. |
Anonymous
| if she said it to your husband and not to you, then take it with a grain of salt. It's third hand information and you don't know the tone with which it was said. It might have been in a very complimentary way that indicated she liked your dress. Men tend to be very clueless and inept at deciphering tone and intent. If she had meant it in a rude or snarky way then your husband is an idiot for telling you. |
Anonymous
| Oh for God’s sake, OP means the dress is circa 1960. |
Anonymous
| I would try to avoid wearing black to a wedding, but that dress is fine. It’s not revealing and it doesn’t look like a wedding dress. |
Anonymous
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There's nothing special about your dress that screams "upstaging"
She's obviously insecure and might have regrets about her bodycon dress. Ignore and don't feel bad. |
Anonymous
| Is this real, though? The bride called her cousin from her actual honeymoon to say the wife upstaged her slutty wedding outfit? And the wife was wearing a plain black dress? The more I think about it the less real it seems. |
Anonymous
| I think the dress is cute (49 yr old) here but if her colors were red and black, I would have avoided a black dress. I would have gone navy or purple instead (if I was looking for a darker dress.) |
Anonymous
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She asked you to wear a red or black dress and you wore a black dress. A fairly casual one at that (for a wedding). Good on you.
Consider this a wedding gift for YOU: this woman is letting you know loud and clear that she is a drama queen. This is no big deal, but enter kids and complicated family situations and emotions and her drama could be very very problematic. Steer clear!!!!! |
Anonymous
Op here, Yeah, I usually wouldn’t. I did buy that dress to wear to a funeral actually! I lost a lot of weight during covid and bought it and then because we had a lot of death in the family I ended up wearing it a few times this year. Thought I might as well wear it again to the wedding (instead of getting another new dress) but that was a mistake in more ways than one! |
Anonymous
Who avoids black at a wedding?! |