Husband’s cousin thinks I upstaged her at wedding

[Anonymous]

Was everyone else at the wedding in jeans?

[Anonymous]

I didn't think you were supposed to wear the colors of the wedding party, so that would mean no red or black.

But if you told her the dress was black and she didn't care then I don't see the problem.


But honestly, this seems made up who they heck would call their cousin with this nonsense on their honeymoon?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I didn't think you were supposed to wear the colors of the wedding party, so that would mean no red or black.

But if you told her the dress was black and she didn't care then I don't see the problem.


But honestly, this seems made up who they heck would call their cousin with this nonsense on their honeymoon?

OP called her and ASKED her if she could wear black. Let's stop debating if black was appropriate or not, the bride okayed it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Pretty sure this is a plug for the “unique-vintage” website.

Totally what I was thinking. I don’t mean to be unkind but what bride feels upstaged by someone wearing a plus size dress that is pretty simple? Is the bride a big gal? You mentioned losing some weight. Maybe you got lots of attention for your weight loss and that’s what made her feel upstaged?

[Anonymous]

Whatever. If you have your wedding at a restaurant and you're not wearing a wedding dress - you have a 80/20 chance of being upstaged anyway.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Pretty sure this is a plug for the “unique-vintage” website.

Totally what I was thinking. I don’t mean to be unkind but what bride feels upstaged by someone wearing a plus size dress that is pretty simple? Is the bride a big gal? You mentioned losing some weight. Maybe you got lots of attention for your weight loss and that’s what made her feel upstaged?

Op here, I lost weight but I’m still plus sized. I’m about a 16 now. Was a 22. Bride is around a 4 or 6.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Pretty sure this is a plug for the “unique-vintage” website.

Totally what I was thinking. I don’t mean to be unkind but what bride feels upstaged by someone wearing a plus size dress that is pretty simple? Is the bride a big gal? You mentioned losing some weight. Maybe you got lots of attention for your weight loss and that’s what made her feel upstaged?

Yeah um... plus sized women can be attractive too. You phrase your comment like it is impossible to feel upstaged by someone who is bigger. That’s really messed up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Pretty sure this is a plug for the “unique-vintage” website.

Totally what I was thinking. I don’t mean to be unkind but what bride feels upstaged by someone wearing a plus size dress that is pretty simple? Is the bride a big gal? You mentioned losing some weight. Maybe you got lots of attention for your weight loss and that’s what made her feel upstaged?

You ARE being unkind. What an awful thing to say. I bet OP looked fabulous and is probably far better looking than you with your bottle blonde hair and ratty yoga pants.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Its kinda boring and ugly but go for it. A 60 year old isn't wearing that. A 4 year old would.

Wow, you must be a really unhappy person to feel the need to be so rude to a stranger. I’ll pray that your life improves for you. Best wishes.

[Anonymous]

There must be more to this story. Did you perform a jitterbug solo in the dress? Why did the bride feel upstaged?

[Anonymous]

None of this happened. Bye.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Whatever. If you have your wedding at a restaurant and you're not wearing a wedding dress - you have a 80/20 chance of being upstaged anyway.

THIS.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I would try to avoid wearing black to a wedding, but that dress is fine. It’s not revealing and it doesn’t look like a wedding dress.

Who avoids black at a wedding?!

Traditionally wearing black was your way of showing you didn't approve of the wedding. Indicated you were in mourning, not celebrating the event.

MIL wore black to our reception. I wore red to her funeral.

[Anonymous]

Not wearing black to a wedding is a southern thing not a northern thing.

[Anonymous]

Upstaged by that dress? No. Something else is going on.