Husband’s cousin thinks I upstaged her at wedding

[Anonymous]

Maybe the bride doesn't know what "upstaged" means and meant something else?

[Anonymous]

I wore something similar to my own wedding, in white.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I would try to avoid wearing black to a wedding, but that dress is fine. It’s not revealing and it doesn’t look like a wedding dress.

Who avoids black at a wedding?!

Traditionally wearing black was your way of showing you didn't approve of the wedding. Indicated you were in mourning, not celebrating the event.

MIL wore black to our reception. I wore red to her funeral.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I didn't think you were supposed to wear the colors of the wedding party, so that would mean no red or black.

But if you told her the dress was black and she didn't care then I don't see the problem.


But honestly, this seems made up who they heck would call their cousin with this nonsense on their honeymoon?

OP called her and ASKED her if she could wear black. Let's stop debating if black was appropriate or not, the bride okayed it.

I acknowledged that in my comment. Let's stop trying to speak for OP and be the thread moderator.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:None of this happened. Bye.

This seems accurate.

[Anonymous]

There is no universe where a 4-6 bride in a bodycon red dress feels “upstaged” by a size 16 in a basic black casual dress. Especially not to the point where she called her cousin about in while on her honeymoon.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Not wearing black to a wedding is a southern thing not a northern thing.

Incorrect. I’m a 50 year old New Yorker. Black at weddings started being a thing in the 80s and 90s (starting with the awful “black and white” wedding trend) but many traditionalists, even in the North, still avoid it. I’ve never worn black to a wedding even though I know most people now think it’s okay. I’ll do navy.
When my mom got married in the 1950s in NY, my grandmother was irked because she was still in mourning and felt like it put her in an impossible position. She begrudgingly wore navy to the wedding but felt she was cheating on both the wedding rules and the mourning rules.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Upstaged by that dress? No. Something else is going on.

Yes, directing a lot of clicks to that website. Why not just post a photo of the dress?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Who are you all? I attend a lot of weddings and half the guests wear black dresses.

Op if you upstaged the bride, she didn’t try hard enough or look bridal enough. There is nothing wrong with that dress.

Well guess what: It's incorrect.

Hell, I've been to weddings where the *bridesmaids* were in black (including my own). And every wedding in NYC I've ever been to, over at least two decades, had a couple of guests in black. It's fine. And that wasn't the cousin's complaint, anyway. Her complaint was that OP looked fancier than she did, not that her dress conveyed disapproval of the wedding.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think the dress is cute (49 yr old) here but if her colors were red and black, I would have avoided a black dress. I would have gone navy or purple instead (if I was looking for a darker dress.)

Oh for Christ's sake. You do not have to avoid the color of the bridesmaid dresses. That's ridiculous. White or anything resembling a wedding dress, sure.

Bride is just jealous you looked better than she did. Ignore.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There is no universe where a 4-6 bride in a bodycon red dress feels “upstaged” by a size 16 in a basic black casual dress. Especially not to the point where she called her cousin about in while on her honeymoon.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think the dress is cute (49 yr old) here but if her colors were red and black, I would have avoided a black dress. I would have gone navy or purple instead (if I was looking for a darker dress.)

Oh for Christ's sake. You do not have to avoid the color of the bridesmaid dresses. That's ridiculous. White or anything resembling a wedding dress, sure.

Bride is just jealous you looked better than she did. Ignore.

No, sorry, a size 16 in a matronly dress with pearls did not “look better” than a size 4-6 wearing literally anything.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Who are you all? I attend a lot of weddings and half the guests wear black dresses.

Op if you upstaged the bride, she didn’t try hard enough or look bridal enough. There is nothing wrong with that dress.

Well guess what: It's incorrect.

Incorrect according to whom?

[Anonymous]

I think you were fine and you gave me a new place to shop!

[Anonymous]

Bride sounds insecure.