What’s a parenting choice you just cannot understand

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Not drilling down on manners when kids are young and then acting confused when other kids are better behaved than them, as if they magically popped out that way.

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[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Not drilling down on manners when kids are young and then acting confused when other kids are better behaved than them, as if they magically popped out that way.

+1

+2.

Letting kids interrupt constantly is another one, related

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
-Indulging picky eating. Within reason, fine. But cooking whole separate meals, no

-Having more kids than you or your marriage or your finances can handle and then complaining about it! I am not talking about poor women with limited means here, but house-poor upper middle class dual-career households.

1. I have a friend with picky eaters who comes to parties with her own food for the kids and cooks it there, in the host’s kitchen. That’s insane, in my opinion.

2. 100% you know how they say “house poor”? “Kids poor” is much more common.

No. My kitchen is not for public use. Thank God none of my friends were this insane.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I cannot understand parents of one child who think they can judge everyone else's parenting choices based on their one experience. As a parent of 3, I thought I had all the answers with my first, and each child has been so different- the same parenting hasn't worked for all of them. It doesn't matter how much sleep training, 123 magics you do, etc- some kids respond better to this than others, some kids naturally have more behavioral issues than others, some birth experiences go better than others, some kids eat better than others.

This! Having two very different kids has definitely given me more humility and empathy for other parents. When I see a kid misbehaving terribly - it's not always about how they were parented! (and vice versa for a well-behaved kid).

Some of those with one "easy" kid should not be so smug or believe that it all had to do with their parenting.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I cannot understand parents of one child who think they can judge everyone else's parenting choices based on their one experience. As a parent of 3, I thought I had all the answers with my first, and each child has been so different- the same parenting hasn't worked for all of them. It doesn't matter how much sleep training, 123 magics you do, etc- some kids respond better to this than others, some kids naturally have more behavioral issues than others, some birth experiences go better than others, some kids eat better than others.

This! Having two very different kids has definitely given me more humility and empathy for other parents. When I see a kid misbehaving terribly - it's not always about how they were parented! (and vice versa for a well-behaved kid).

Some of those with one "easy" kid should not be so smug or believe that it all had to do with their parenting.

Mom of only child

I love my friends with multiple kids and respect their different experiences, but it's also valid that some parents get lazier or more time-stressed after the first kid and that is a factor in their "more difficult" second kid that gives them perspective on parenthood.