What’s a parenting choice you just cannot understand

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Anonymous wrote:More than 2 kids is one of the worst parenting choices. It's bad for the kids and bad for the environment.

Well being an only child wasn’t great, so I decided to have 3. Our house is so fun. It’s been the best choice for our family. And we are more environmentally friendly than the average family (1 EV, solar panels, small home with less stuff, not a lot of air travel, we minimize meat consumption, etc.)

+1. I deeply resented being an only child. Now we have three and it's fantastic. My husband was one of four so I guess it's not always "bad for kids" to have more than one sibling

I’m an only, loved it. (Still do!) Our first kid started asking for a sibling—and I am really not exaggerating—as soon as she was talking and had the ability to express such things. You never know!

My only child fearfully asked for years when we’d have another. When our pet got spayed, and we explained why, he helpfully suggested that I do the same since I didn’t need any more kids!

He really liked being the only child and still seems to. Little does he know that I had a whole string of miscarriages unsuccessfully trying to have another. I can’t imagine ever telling him. As far as he’s concerned, everything worked out perfectly. It’s an enormous comfort to me.

Very similar situation, which is why the only child criticism stings. My kid loves being an only but we did actually try for another and it was not in the cards. I am not actually opposed to adoption but also one aspect of dealing with secondary infertility is that it made me appreciate our family-of-three a lot and when the time came to decide if we'd keep trying, we just looked at each other and decided it was time to count our blessings, which are many. I don't think my DD sits around thinking how much better her life would be with a sibling, though I also think she'd be a great big sister.

This stuff is not as binary as you all seem to want to make it. There are plenty of happy, well-adjusted only kids out there. It's really about overall quality of parenting and creating a family life that works for your family as it is, which you can do with any size or composition of family.

I'm the PP who said I hated being an only child. I think it's great that your DD loves being an only child. And I agree that there are plenty of happy only kids out there. Can you also appreciate, though, that it stings when several other posters wrote that they automatically judge every family with more than two children because it's "bad for kids"? And every time I'm out with my kids, who are literally doing nothing but talking, I get unsolicited comments like "Wow you really have your hands full!" or "You must go CRAZY with all those boys!" or "I bet you WISH you had a girl!"

For the record, I consider myself to be a happy, well-adjusted only child with a good relationship with my parents as an adult. I just always wished for a sibling and it didn't happen for various reasons. I have not mentioned this to my parents since I was a child.

DP here, also an only with 3 kids of my own. I also found it silly that so many posters complained about parents of 3+ talking about being overwhelmed because I guess once you have more than 2 kids you are supposed to just never talk to your friends about parenting stress ever? Whereas I have plenty of friends with 1-2 kids who will commiserate at times about the stress of missing work because of sick kids, trying to balance their kids’ activities, the logistics of summer camp sign ups, the cost of childcare, etc. But if a mom of 3+ talks about these things (or anything that might be specific to having 3 kids like having to book a second hotel room for spring break) then it’s “too bad, you chose to have that many kids!”

I sure hope these posters of 1-2 kids never complain about anything parenting related about the kids they chose to have.

The issue for me is why complain when you knew this would be an issue when you choose to have multiple kids and the bigger issue is you expect others to "carpool" and have fake "playdates" so you can get free transportation/child care for your kids and never reciprocate as you are just "too busy" with 3 kids. Your kids should not be a burden to someone else and if you are expecting someone to drive your kids regularly, you pay them.

Can’t you say the same for every parenting challenge regardless of number of kids though? Why are parents of 1 or 2 kids given leniency to complain but parents of 3 + chose this so they should never complain?

And your experience is not like mine at all. I have 3 kids and purposefully keep extra boosters so I can drive other kids around. If a family provides a ride I make sure to reciprocate. Also, some of my oldest DC’s best friends are the younger of 2 and I am the one doing 90% of the hosting. I don’t count tit for tat though, so none of this bothers me. Whereas I’ve noticed other moms of 3+ have already cut back to part time or left the workforce and have more flexibility to drive kids around and host after school play dates. Sounds like you’ve just had some bad experiences that aren’t necessarily linked to number of kids a parent has. Moochers come in all family sizes.

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Anonymous wrote:Competitive dance. Out of all the heathy and positive sports and activists out there

I’ll bite… why? My DD does competitive dance.

NP. My DD did it, too. Very expensive (travel + competition fees + costumes), revealing outfits, injuries and drama mamas were the big issues.

It is expensive, I’ll give you that. My DD’s costumes aren’t revealing IMO and I’m somewhat conservative, but don’t think showing a couple inches of tummy is a big deal. We don’t have any mom drama (that I’m aware of) thank god. It’s all been positive thus far for us.

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Anonymous wrote:Having more than 2 children.

I'm a middle child and can say that there is not enough emotional love and support to go around. Why do this?

Just because *your parents* didn’t provide these things doesn’t mean no one does.

However, I do think that in very large (5/6+ kids) families, there is a preponderance of neglect and parentification of the older kids. I think it is almost inevitable.

This is true. I'm the eldest daughter in a large family. I didn't mind though. I liked the responsibility (and being in charge, lol).

I was one of the youngest in a family of six and my mom spent plenty of time with me.

* six KIDS

The youngest and oldest get the most attention. The middle kids? Not so much, unfortunately.

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Redshirting (99% of the time)
Homeschooling
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Guns in the house
Social media for young kids

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Anonymous wrote:We breastfed nearly three years. Not many people know. I don’t think it was superior. It’s what worked for us.

Using the word we when describing an activity that your husband literally cannot take part in.

I'm pretty sure we here - refers to mother and child. You know AAP recommends breastfeeding as long as mutually desired. It's impossible to breastfeed a kid who doesn't want to. Breastfeeding is inherently a "we" activity.

Exactly. It’s called a dyad. However I did pump as well. So dad did participate in bottle feeding. As did many other people in our life.

Ugh. And before it gets weird. Other people bottle fed baby. Only baby breastfed from mother directly. I did also give her bottles though.


And it was completely normal and not a big deal.

I'm actually uncomfortable watching women bottle feed in public.

This. To be honest, I feel uncomfortable watching anyone eat in public. I think if you are in a public place, like a restaurant, and you feel the need to put food in your mouth (which I know is normal, it just looks obscene to me, I think it's a private thing, I don't want to see your mouth opening and closing with food going in and out, plus sometimes if I stare intently at someone eating, I can see parts of their teeth and tongue which is just so much of a person's body to see!) -- you should just move yourself to a private location, like your car or a bathroom stall, and eat there.

Then you can rejoin the group! I'm not saying I have anything against people who eat, I'm just saying that seeing people eat feels really inappropriate to me. Also, let's remember that we live in a diverse society and people come from lots of different backgrounds and cultures. It seems rude to just assume that everyone is okay seeing you eat in a public place. It also seems performative, like you're trying to show other people "look at me, I eat food, I'm such a great person who eats food." Good for you, but I just don't want to have to look at it. It's weird.

Also I'm a woman so this isn't about misogyny. I also feel uncomfortable seeing men eat in public though, admittedly, I don't think it's quite AS obscene.

Come on you’re being ridiculous. Everyone knows it’s VERY EASY to just throw a shower curtain or blanket over yourself for the time you MUST eat in public. No one is asking you to sit in a toilet unless you can’t do the obviously very easy thing of eating under a shower curtain.

Exactly. I guess some people are weird and don't like eating in the dark with a blanket or shower curtain pressed against their face, which is honestly kind of high maintenance but whatever -- you have so many other options, like the bathroom or your car or a bench across the street or the alley behind the restaurant.

It's just really strange to me that we have suggested so many good places for people to eat and yet they insist on wanting to do it IN PUBLIC, in places where many other people might see them, like a restaurant. Like it just seems like they are making up excuses at this point.

You don't have to cover their face fully. You can do it in a way that is discrete and covers your breast.

Or someone who isn’t yet mature enough to not stare at a baby eating is welcome to throw a blanket over their head or go into the bathroom to shield themself from the sight. They can eat in their car or on the bench outside and be at zero risk of potentially seeing a nipple. Problem solved!

You can be discreet and have class while breastfeeding in public. Problem solved!

I find that wearing a huge blanket while nursing really draws more attention than just nursing.

Maybe that's why most people wear nursing covers which look like aprons more than anything. They aren't sitting there with a giant afghan draped all over them.

NP. Those are not discreet at all. I hope it goes without saying that I don’t have a problem with them, but they do draw the eye.

If you are using it correctly it's discreet.

To me they always seemed body shamey. Like the mother was apologizing for having a body. Mostly the ones with frames.

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Anonymous wrote:We breastfed nearly three years. Not many people know. I don’t think it was superior. It’s what worked for us.

Using the word we when describing an activity that your husband literally cannot take part in.

I'm pretty sure we here - refers to mother and child. You know AAP recommends breastfeeding as long as mutually desired. It's impossible to breastfeed a kid who doesn't want to. Breastfeeding is inherently a "we" activity.

Exactly. It’s called a dyad. However I did pump as well. So dad did participate in bottle feeding. As did many other people in our life.

Ugh. And before it gets weird. Other people bottle fed baby. Only baby breastfed from mother directly. I did also give her bottles though.


And it was completely normal and not a big deal.

I'm actually uncomfortable watching women bottle feed in public.

This. To be honest, I feel uncomfortable watching anyone eat in public. I think if you are in a public place, like a restaurant, and you feel the need to put food in your mouth (which I know is normal, it just looks obscene to me, I think it's a private thing, I don't want to see your mouth opening and closing with food going in and out, plus sometimes if I stare intently at someone eating, I can see parts of their teeth and tongue which is just so much of a person's body to see!) -- you should just move yourself to a private location, like your car or a bathroom stall, and eat there.

Then you can rejoin the group! I'm not saying I have anything against people who eat, I'm just saying that seeing people eat feels really inappropriate to me. Also, let's remember that we live in a diverse society and people come from lots of different backgrounds and cultures. It seems rude to just assume that everyone is okay seeing you eat in a public place. It also seems performative, like you're trying to show other people "look at me, I eat food, I'm such a great person who eats food." Good for you, but I just don't want to have to look at it. It's weird.

Also I'm a woman so this isn't about misogyny. I also feel uncomfortable seeing men eat in public though, admittedly, I don't think it's quite AS obscene.

Come on you’re being ridiculous. Everyone knows it’s VERY EASY to just throw a shower curtain or blanket over yourself for the time you MUST eat in public. No one is asking you to sit in a toilet unless you can’t do the obviously very easy thing of eating under a shower curtain.

Exactly. I guess some people are weird and don't like eating in the dark with a blanket or shower curtain pressed against their face, which is honestly kind of high maintenance but whatever -- you have so many other options, like the bathroom or your car or a bench across the street or the alley behind the restaurant.

It's just really strange to me that we have suggested so many good places for people to eat and yet they insist on wanting to do it IN PUBLIC, in places where many other people might see them, like a restaurant. Like it just seems like they are making up excuses at this point.

You don't have to cover their face fully. You can do it in a way that is discrete and covers your breast.

Or someone who isn’t yet mature enough to not stare at a baby eating is welcome to throw a blanket over their head or go into the bathroom to shield themself from the sight. They can eat in their car or on the bench outside and be at zero risk of potentially seeing a nipple. Problem solved!

You can be discreet and have class while breastfeeding in public. Problem solved!

I find that wearing a huge blanket while nursing really draws more attention than just nursing.

Maybe that's why most people wear nursing covers which look like aprons more than anything. They aren't sitting there with a giant afghan draped all over them.

NP. Those are not discreet at all. I hope it goes without saying that I don’t have a problem with them, but they do draw the eye.

If you are using it correctly it's discreet.

Well, I disagree, but okay. I've been around plenty of nursing moms in my life.

I used them myself with no issues. And been around other nursing moms. I have no idea what you're talking about.

Maybe you'll have to post a link to a photo of one in which a woman is using one discreetly. I cannot think of any where, if it's an actual cover, it actually looks discreet.

But then as I think about it I think it's so absurd that we go to such great lengths to hide the fact that we are breastfeeding. Goodness I'm so glad I just gave that up and just wore tops that had boob holes.

Look, I didn't give AF if people knew I was breastfeeding. The point isn't to pretend it's not happening. It was just to keep the breasts out of view. That's it. I used one, it didn't bare flesh, and nobody cared. It did the job as intended. That you noticed or cared what I was wearing or doing at the time would not matter one iota. I just didn't want my nipples bared, I didn't care if the world knew what I was doing.

Cool! I don't care either. But somebody said wearing something that looks like wearing an apron draws less attention than a blanket and they are wrong. That's all.

That was me and I still have no idea what you're talking about as for drawing attention. You sound like a prudish Victorian who thinks nursing women should just stay home because you can't look away.

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Anonymous wrote:Redshirting (99% of the time)
Homeschooling
Not having your kid in some type of activity
Guns in the house
Social media for young kids

+1

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Anonymous wrote:Who objects to baby breastfeeding in public? How come no one objects to women being naked on red carpet but a baby nursing makes people uncomfortable?

Who is objecting? Men or women?

The red carpet is very different. There are cultural reasons why it might be an issue for someone else but clearly cultural sensitivity is only for those who like to fake it.

The issue isn't breastfeeding, the issue is having your entire breast out of your shirt.

What culture am I supposed to be being sensitive to? I’ve seen women topless on beaches in France and I’ve seen women breastfeed (without a nursing cover! Even one of those fancy apron ones!) in West Africa and South Asia with no one batting an eye, so please tell me what culture it is I’m supposed to consider more important than feeding my baby while sitting in a restaurant in Washington D.C?

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Anonymous wrote:We breastfed nearly three years. Not many people know. I don’t think it was superior. It’s what worked for us.

Using the word we when describing an activity that your husband literally cannot take part in.

I'm pretty sure we here - refers to mother and child. You know AAP recommends breastfeeding as long as mutually desired. It's impossible to breastfeed a kid who doesn't want to. Breastfeeding is inherently a "we" activity.

Exactly. It’s called a dyad. However I did pump as well. So dad did participate in bottle feeding. As did many other people in our life.

Ugh. And before it gets weird. Other people bottle fed baby. Only baby breastfed from mother directly. I did also give her bottles though.


And it was completely normal and not a big deal.

I'm actually uncomfortable watching women bottle feed in public.

This. To be honest, I feel uncomfortable watching anyone eat in public. I think if you are in a public place, like a restaurant, and you feel the need to put food in your mouth (which I know is normal, it just looks obscene to me, I think it's a private thing, I don't want to see your mouth opening and closing with food going in and out, plus sometimes if I stare intently at someone eating, I can see parts of their teeth and tongue which is just so much of a person's body to see!) -- you should just move yourself to a private location, like your car or a bathroom stall, and eat there.

Then you can rejoin the group! I'm not saying I have anything against people who eat, I'm just saying that seeing people eat feels really inappropriate to me. Also, let's remember that we live in a diverse society and people come from lots of different backgrounds and cultures. It seems rude to just assume that everyone is okay seeing you eat in a public place. It also seems performative, like you're trying to show other people "look at me, I eat food, I'm such a great person who eats food." Good for you, but I just don't want to have to look at it. It's weird.

Also I'm a woman so this isn't about misogyny. I also feel uncomfortable seeing men eat in public though, admittedly, I don't think it's quite AS obscene.

Come on you’re being ridiculous. Everyone knows it’s VERY EASY to just throw a shower curtain or blanket over yourself for the time you MUST eat in public. No one is asking you to sit in a toilet unless you can’t do the obviously very easy thing of eating under a shower curtain.

Exactly. I guess some people are weird and don't like eating in the dark with a blanket or shower curtain pressed against their face, which is honestly kind of high maintenance but whatever -- you have so many other options, like the bathroom or your car or a bench across the street or the alley behind the restaurant.

It's just really strange to me that we have suggested so many good places for people to eat and yet they insist on wanting to do it IN PUBLIC, in places where many other people might see them, like a restaurant. Like it just seems like they are making up excuses at this point.

You don't have to cover their face fully. You can do it in a way that is discrete and covers your breast.

Or someone who isn’t yet mature enough to not stare at a baby eating is welcome to throw a blanket over their head or go into the bathroom to shield themself from the sight. They can eat in their car or on the bench outside and be at zero risk of potentially seeing a nipple. Problem solved!

You can be discreet and have class while breastfeeding in public. Problem solved!

I find that wearing a huge blanket while nursing really draws more attention than just nursing.

Maybe that's why most people wear nursing covers which look like aprons more than anything. They aren't sitting there with a giant afghan draped all over them.

NP. Those are not discreet at all. I hope it goes without saying that I don’t have a problem with them, but they do draw the eye.

If you are using it correctly it's discreet.

Well, I disagree, but okay. I've been around plenty of nursing moms in my life.

I used them myself with no issues. And been around other nursing moms. I have no idea what you're talking about.

Maybe you'll have to post a link to a photo of one in which a woman is using one discreetly. I cannot think of any where, if it's an actual cover, it actually looks discreet.

But then as I think about it I think it's so absurd that we go to such great lengths to hide the fact that we are breastfeeding. Goodness I'm so glad I just gave that up and just wore tops that had boob holes.

Look, I didn't give AF if people knew I was breastfeeding. The point isn't to pretend it's not happening. It was just to keep the breasts out of view. That's it. I used one, it didn't bare flesh, and nobody cared. It did the job as intended. That you noticed or cared what I was wearing or doing at the time would not matter one iota. I just didn't want my nipples bared, I didn't care if the world knew what I was doing.

Cool! I don't care either. But somebody said wearing something that looks like wearing an apron draws less attention than a blanket and they are wrong. That's all.

That was me and I still have no idea what you're talking about as for drawing attention. You sound like a prudish Victorian who thinks nursing women should just stay home because you can't look away.

I’m actually in favor of a mother doing whatever she wants to get her baby fed, breasts in view or no.

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Anonymous wrote:Who objects to baby breastfeeding in public? How come no one objects to women being naked on red carpet but a baby nursing makes people uncomfortable?

Who is objecting? Men or women?

The red carpet is very different. There are cultural reasons why it might be an issue for someone else but clearly cultural sensitivity is only for those who like to fake it.

The issue isn't breastfeeding, the issue is having your entire breast out of your shirt.

What culture am I supposed to be being sensitive to? I’ve seen women topless on beaches in France and I’ve seen women breastfeed (without a nursing cover! Even one of those fancy apron ones!) in West Africa and South Asia with no one batting an eye, so please tell me what culture it is I’m supposed to consider more important than feeding my baby while sitting in a restaurant in Washington D.C?

Um, stay home? Cover up? No one wants to see your breast at a restaurant while eating. That’s gross. Have some class!

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Anonymous wrote:We breastfed nearly three years. Not many people know. I don’t think it was superior. It’s what worked for us.

Using the word we when describing an activity that your husband literally cannot take part in.

I'm pretty sure we here - refers to mother and child. You know AAP recommends breastfeeding as long as mutually desired. It's impossible to breastfeed a kid who doesn't want to. Breastfeeding is inherently a "we" activity.

Exactly. It’s called a dyad. However I did pump as well. So dad did participate in bottle feeding. As did many other people in our life.

Ugh. And before it gets weird. Other people bottle fed baby. Only baby breastfed from mother directly. I did also give her bottles though.


And it was completely normal and not a big deal.

I'm actually uncomfortable watching women bottle feed in public.

This. To be honest, I feel uncomfortable watching anyone eat in public. I think if you are in a public place, like a restaurant, and you feel the need to put food in your mouth (which I know is normal, it just looks obscene to me, I think it's a private thing, I don't want to see your mouth opening and closing with food going in and out, plus sometimes if I stare intently at someone eating, I can see parts of their teeth and tongue which is just so much of a person's body to see!) -- you should just move yourself to a private location, like your car or a bathroom stall, and eat there.

Then you can rejoin the group! I'm not saying I have anything against people who eat, I'm just saying that seeing people eat feels really inappropriate to me. Also, let's remember that we live in a diverse society and people come from lots of different backgrounds and cultures. It seems rude to just assume that everyone is okay seeing you eat in a public place. It also seems performative, like you're trying to show other people "look at me, I eat food, I'm such a great person who eats food." Good for you, but I just don't want to have to look at it. It's weird.

Also I'm a woman so this isn't about misogyny. I also feel uncomfortable seeing men eat in public though, admittedly, I don't think it's quite AS obscene.

Come on you’re being ridiculous. Everyone knows it’s VERY EASY to just throw a shower curtain or blanket over yourself for the time you MUST eat in public. No one is asking you to sit in a toilet unless you can’t do the obviously very easy thing of eating under a shower curtain.

Exactly. I guess some people are weird and don't like eating in the dark with a blanket or shower curtain pressed against their face, which is honestly kind of high maintenance but whatever -- you have so many other options, like the bathroom or your car or a bench across the street or the alley behind the restaurant.

It's just really strange to me that we have suggested so many good places for people to eat and yet they insist on wanting to do it IN PUBLIC, in places where many other people might see them, like a restaurant. Like it just seems like they are making up excuses at this point.

You don't have to cover their face fully. You can do it in a way that is discrete and covers your breast.

Or someone who isn’t yet mature enough to not stare at a baby eating is welcome to throw a blanket over their head or go into the bathroom to shield themself from the sight. They can eat in their car or on the bench outside and be at zero risk of potentially seeing a nipple. Problem solved!

You can be discreet and have class while breastfeeding in public. Problem solved!

I find that wearing a huge blanket while nursing really draws more attention than just nursing.

Maybe that's why most people wear nursing covers which look like aprons more than anything. They aren't sitting there with a giant afghan draped all over them.

NP. Those are not discreet at all. I hope it goes without saying that I don’t have a problem with them, but they do draw the eye.

If you are using it correctly it's discreet.

Well, I disagree, but okay. I've been around plenty of nursing moms in my life.

I used them myself with no issues. And been around other nursing moms. I have no idea what you're talking about.

Maybe you'll have to post a link to a photo of one in which a woman is using one discreetly. I cannot think of any where, if it's an actual cover, it actually looks discreet.

But then as I think about it I think it's so absurd that we go to such great lengths to hide the fact that we are breastfeeding. Goodness I'm so glad I just gave that up and just wore tops that had boob holes.

Look, I didn't give AF if people knew I was breastfeeding. The point isn't to pretend it's not happening. It was just to keep the breasts out of view. That's it. I used one, it didn't bare flesh, and nobody cared. It did the job as intended. That you noticed or cared what I was wearing or doing at the time would not matter one iota. I just didn't want my nipples bared, I didn't care if the world knew what I was doing.

Cool! I don't care either. But somebody said wearing something that looks like wearing an apron draws less attention than a blanket and they are wrong. That's all.

That was me and I still have no idea what you're talking about as for drawing attention. You sound like a prudish Victorian who thinks nursing women should just stay home because you can't look away.

I’m actually in favor of a mother doing whatever she wants to get her baby fed, breasts in view or no.

I get that you have an agenda here. But not everyone wants to put their body on display so covers serve a purpose. You should support women's choice to breastfeed in the way they feel most comfortable instead of pretending covers draw attention or don't work when others are telling you they do.

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Anonymous wrote:Who objects to baby breastfeeding in public? How come no one objects to women being naked on red carpet but a baby nursing makes people uncomfortable?

Who is objecting? Men or women?

The red carpet is very different. There are cultural reasons why it might be an issue for someone else but clearly cultural sensitivity is only for those who like to fake it.

The issue isn't breastfeeding, the issue is having your entire breast out of your shirt.

What culture am I supposed to be being sensitive to? I’ve seen women topless on beaches in France and I’ve seen women breastfeed (without a nursing cover! Even one of those fancy apron ones!) in West Africa and South Asia with no one batting an eye, so please tell me what culture it is I’m supposed to consider more important than feeding my baby while sitting in a restaurant in Washington D.C?

Um, stay home? Cover up? No one wants to see your breast at a restaurant while eating. That’s gross. Have some class!

Let me guess: you’re “pro-life.”

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Anonymous wrote:Who objects to baby breastfeeding in public? How come no one objects to women being naked on red carpet but a baby nursing makes people uncomfortable?

Who is objecting? Men or women?

The red carpet is very different. There are cultural reasons why it might be an issue for someone else but clearly cultural sensitivity is only for those who like to fake it.

The issue isn't breastfeeding, the issue is having your entire breast out of your shirt.

What culture am I supposed to be being sensitive to? I’ve seen women topless on beaches in France and I’ve seen women breastfeed (without a nursing cover! Even one of those fancy apron ones!) in West Africa and South Asia with no one batting an eye, so please tell me what culture it is I’m supposed to consider more important than feeding my baby while sitting in a restaurant in Washington D.C?

Yes, you should cover up in a restaurant or feed before you go. We aren't France.

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Taking your kids with you to a brew pub. Why? Your life has changed and now you should live the parenting lifestyle.

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Anonymous wrote:Who objects to baby breastfeeding in public? How come no one objects to women being naked on red carpet but a baby nursing makes people uncomfortable?

Who is objecting? Men or women?

The red carpet is very different. There are cultural reasons why it might be an issue for someone else but clearly cultural sensitivity is only for those who like to fake it.

The issue isn't breastfeeding, the issue is having your entire breast out of your shirt.

What culture am I supposed to be being sensitive to? I’ve seen women topless on beaches in France and I’ve seen women breastfeed (without a nursing cover! Even one of those fancy apron ones!) in West Africa and South Asia with no one batting an eye, so please tell me what culture it is I’m supposed to consider more important than feeding my baby while sitting in a restaurant in Washington D.C?

Yes, you should cover up in a restaurant or feed before you go. We aren't France.

Luckily the law says I don’t have to, and that I can nurse my baby in any place she and I can legally be. I suppose the people who are offended are the ones who will need to stay home to protect their sensibilities.