Is it necessary to reveal that you had a vasectomy?

[Anonymous]

I would make it clear that I do not want kids. Is it necessary to reveal that you had a vasectomy and it's medically impossible though?

[Anonymous]

I think in early stages you just indicate you don’t want kids. As you get more serious, you need to have that discussion and tell them you had a vasectomy.

[Anonymous]

Yes. It cements in her mind that it’s a permanent choice she needs to sign up for vs “as of today neither of us want kids.”

Put another way... why would you keep it a secret, other than that you think she might not actually be okay with “forever door closed no chance” and want to avoid her weighing that appropriately?

[Anonymous]

Its not impossible. Several ways to still have kids. My husband had one prior to me. We have kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Its not impossible. Several ways to still have kids. My husband had one prior to me. We have kids.

Okay... so why keep it a secret?

[Anonymous]

Yes

You should tell

[Anonymous]

Do you want to marry? You could also say you don’t want to get married if that’s the case.

[Anonymous]

Of course you tell. Not waiting kids and cannot have kids are two different things.

Agee “I don’t want kids is enough for your dating profile or a first date, but past that it should be said.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Its not impossible. Several ways to still have kids. My husband had one prior to me. We have kids.

Okay... so why keep it a secret?

It was never a secret when we met. If he keeps it a secret then he's not worth dating.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Of course you tell. Not waiting kids and cannot have kids are two different things.

Both result in zero kids when taken literally. Is it really OP's fault if his partner incorrectly thinks they can change his mind?

[Anonymous]

Are you the divorced dad from the other thread??? Omg now since people told you no one in their 30’s would want you and you’d have to date 40+ you’re looking to trick women? You are disgusting.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Are you the divorced dad from the other thread??? Omg now since people told you no one in their 30’s would want you and you’d have to date 40+ you’re looking to trick women? You are disgusting.

You don’t know whether it’s the same person, so calm TF down.

[Anonymous]

I don’t get why you would keep it a secret. Most women who don’t want kids would think it’s a benefit that you physically cannot get them pregnant.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think in early stages you just indicate you don’t want kids. As you get more serious, you need to have that discussion and tell them you had a vasectomy.

This. I don't see a need to blab medical history to everyone you date.

[Anonymous]

I think you should