Anonymous wrote:I had sex with about 25-30 different people before I got married too. Alcohol undoubtedly played a role in much of it. Some one night stands but mostly serial monogomay and the fact that I started dating in my late teens and didn't get married until I was almost 40. There's a lot of time to fill in there. I don't remember all of their names but that is as much due to the passage of time and the fact that I have a high stress job and 2 kids to worry about which appears to have effected my brain power as it does the fact that there is something regretable in the statistic. I honestly don't regret this fact about my past in the slightest. I'm entirely fine with it. Doesn't make me feel slutty or indicate low self esteem. I had fun, I made choices, I practiced safe sex and never got any diseases. etc Things turned out fine. I don't think men spend a lot of time regretting sexual history I try not to waste my regrets on that.
I was so good for so long - only had two lovers between ages 19 (when I lost my virginity) and age 31. At 31, my fiance took a job in Hong Kong and left me. I felt bad for a long time, and horny. In the next year I gleefully slept with 22 men - ages 18 to 50 - including several whose names I never even learned and also 2 women. I dont regret a second of it - much of the sex was fantastic, feral. I experimented sexually but was always safe and never got an STD. Eventually it got old and I started dating one specific guy regularly. We have now been married 13 years and have 3 kids, have sex about 3 times per week, which is fine for us both. My DH tells me that one of the things that attracted him to me is that I slept with him on the first date - he liked that I really liked sex - and sometimes he likes to hear me tell stories about some of the hot sex I had in my past (especially my bisexual experiments, of course).
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