Neighbors daughter peed on my couch :(

[Anonymous]

My Next door neighbors have a 6 year old daughter and she and my 6 year old son have been playing quite a bit outside during quarantine. We formed a pod with this family and two other family’s to oversee elearning next school year. Since we formed the pod we have allowed our kids to play together more, including inside. Over the weekend I noticed the girl definitely had an accident since her shorts were wet over her bottom. The next day we noticed our living room couch was really wet, all the way through the cushions to the bottom of the couch. Since then it has started reeling of urine. I have a carpet cleaning thing similar to something you can rent at the grocery store, and I used it to clean the couch but it still smells. I bought a few special cleaners meant to remove pet urine and I will use those and hopefully the smell will go away. I am debating if I should say anything to my neighbors. They have mentioned that she tends to have accidents. I don’t want to embarrass her or make it weird with them, but I’m also weary now that this girl is going to be in my house when we start the pod during g the school year. Any thoughts on whether I should say anything? Also tips on how to get rid of the smell would be appreciated!

[Anonymous]

What could you possibly gain by making a big deal about this?

[Anonymous]

Say NOTHING. I cannot stress this enough. Say nothing to her parents or to her.

Get your couch cleaned and order waterproof covers for the fall.

[Anonymous]

I’m sorry. I don’t think you should say anything but I know you must be upset about the accident. Try pouring natures miracle, the stuff you use for dog pee, on the couch it should remove the odor.

[Anonymous]

Say nothing. What’s to be gained? Maybe rethink your plans to have playing and learning in your house.

[Anonymous]

I don’t understand all the “say nothings.” I would definitely want to know if one of my kids had a substantial accident all over someone’s couch.

[Anonymous]

Can you remove the cover? Mine I can, and wash the cover in cold water on delicate. Depending on the material, you can either try to wash it or buy a new one (much more difficult).

[Anonymous]

My Pet Peed will also work to remove the odor.

[Anonymous]

Since you've formed a pod, let them know. Don't make a big deal about it,she is six. But they should know if she got excited or anxious and lost control.

[Anonymous]

Get it cleaned.

Stanley Steamer and the like also clean couches. They made my set look brand new.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don’t understand all the “say nothings.” I would definitely want to know if one of my kids had a substantial accident all over someone’s couch.

It’s an embarrassing situation and nothing good can be gained by mentioning it. The little girl was obviously too embarrassed to say anything. Days later what can the parents possibly do except pay for a new couch or cleaning? I think when you have kids over at your house there are some risks in accidents, whether it’s a broken toy or in this case you’re in on a couch. It was clearly an accident I would never say anything. My opinion would change if it was deliberate and this child was difficult and wouldn’t listen to adults.

Definitely try the natures miracle stuff. It really works.Definitely try the natures miracle stuff. It really works

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[Anonymous]

First of all, OP, you are not weary, you are leery. You will be weary if it happens again!

And I would mention it. Or keep her on wood chairs or outside.

[Anonymous]

And your purpose in telling them is that their daughter does not feel comfortable enough in your house to use the bathroom so maybe we shouldn’t pod?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Since you've formed a pod, let them know. Don't make a big deal about it,she is six. But they should know if she got excited or anxious and lost control.

I’m with you. Since this little girl is going to be in your life daily, kindly ask her parents what is the best way to handle. Maybe she just needs reminding till she outgrows it. Obviously don’t talk to the girl or embarrass her, but get some guidance from her parents.

[Anonymous]

I second stanley steemer. If you can afford to get your couch cleaned, I would just do it. These things happen, even with a 6 year old. If it is a hardship to get the couch cleaned, I'd ask the parents if they could pay all or part of the cleaning.

I wouldn't say anything to the child, but I don't think there is anything wrong with mentioning it to the parent. I'd also make bathroom break reminders whenever this kid was at my house. You don't have to make a big deal out of it, just ask ask everyone at some point if they need to take a potty break.